Need to vent about frustrating interaction with another mom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She had an opinion and it differs from yours and she told you about it. Not that odd.

It’s pretty odd to tell an acquaintance you think they’re “selfish” to the face.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again. Thanks all who told me to just forget about it— you are right and she’s not worth my time. I appreciate the opportunity to vent. I woke up on the wrong side of the bed today and just could not with this woman today. Oh well, happens to the best of us. Onward.

Interesting how you ignore the multiple posters calling you out for your hypocrisy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And, you needed to sit this here, why?

Because it was the kind of inconsequential but still very icky conversation that gets under your skin but you don't want to complain about to people you know because it makes you sound kind of petty or like you are overreacting.

I get it. Posting about it on an anonymous forum is probably the right move, actually. But then move on -- not worth your energy to worry over.

Because then Trumpsters can come on here and say, this is exactly why we need vouchers.

FAIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd avoid chatting with her from now on. Wave and keep walking

This is what I would do. Who the hell knows what's up with her and who really wants to find out....not you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The pandemic has made a lot of people socially weird. I would let this go.

This is what I was going to post!

Also this board being anon means people get to be super critical without repercussion, don't take the critical responses seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you both agree your current school isn't good. Well, you get get offended that she agrees with you.

She doesn't like that people live where they know they don't like the school, then try to work the system to get out of their choice. I mean, that's a fair complaint. She probably should have kept her mouth shut, but I don't think you can really criticize her for that view.

OP here. I was annoyed because she was openly rude to me. She criticized my kid's school and then told me she didn't think I should be allowed to use the lottery to try to get my kid into a better school.

You know, the only reason I even said the thing about doing the lottery again next year is because she criticized our school. I actually like a lot about our school and would not be devastated to stay, even though I recognize some of the challenges. But having another parent say, to my face, that my school is bad made me feel defensive. Which is the whole reason I said "Oh, well we might try to lottery in somewhere else if we can. We've heard great things about [her IB school]." So for her to then say that using the lottery to go to another school is selfish.... it was just such a bait and switch, which was annoying coming from someone who doesn't even have kids in the school system yet. I'm generally a very positive person but I was having an off day and running into this rude, entitled person made it that much worse.

The point is she thinks YOU are rude and entitled. You (presumably) didn't pay as much for your house as she did to live in bounds for that school, and yet you think you're entitled to go there anyway. She, on the other hand, paid the price of admission, so to speak, and is miffed that people who didn't think they can just sneak in the back door.

Alot of people think like this where I live.

[Anonymous]

TMI. Next time less mom chat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you both agree your current school isn't good. Well, you get get offended that she agrees with you.

She doesn't like that people live where they know they don't like the school, then try to work the system to get out of their choice. I mean, that's a fair complaint. She probably should have kept her mouth shut, but I don't think you can really criticize her for that view.

OP here. I was annoyed because she was openly rude to me. She criticized my kid's school and then told me she didn't think I should be allowed to use the lottery to try to get my kid into a better school.

You know, the only reason I even said the thing about doing the lottery again next year is because she criticized our school. I actually like a lot about our school and would not be devastated to stay, even though I recognize some of the challenges. But having another parent say, to my face, that my school is bad made me feel defensive. Which is the whole reason I said "Oh, well we might try to lottery in somewhere else if we can. We've heard great things about [her IB school]." So for her to then say that using the lottery to go to another school is selfish.... it was just such a bait and switch, which was annoying coming from someone who doesn't even have kids in the school system yet. I'm generally a very positive person but I was having an off day and running into this rude, entitled person made it that much worse.

The point is she thinks YOU are rude and entitled. You (presumably) didn't pay as much for your house as she did to live in bounds for that school, and yet you think you're entitled to go there anyway. She, on the other hand, paid the price of admission, so to speak, and is miffed that people who didn't think they can just sneak in the back door.

Alot of people think like this where I live.

NP I agree with the other mom! I paid a lot to be zoned to a particular school. I would be annoyed if some middle-class whites parachuted in. If they were poor URMs I would be okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you both agree your current school isn't good. Well, you get get offended that she agrees with you.

She doesn't like that people live where they know they don't like the school, then try to work the system to get out of their choice. I mean, that's a fair complaint. She probably should have kept her mouth shut, but I don't think you can really criticize her for that view.

OP here. I was annoyed because she was openly rude to me. She criticized my kid's school and then told me she didn't think I should be allowed to use the lottery to try to get my kid into a better school.

You know, the only reason I even said the thing about doing the lottery again next year is because she criticized our school. I actually like a lot about our school and would not be devastated to stay, even though I recognize some of the challenges. But having another parent say, to my face, that my school is bad made me feel defensive. Which is the whole reason I said "Oh, well we might try to lottery in somewhere else if we can. We've heard great things about [her IB school]." So for her to then say that using the lottery to go to another school is selfish.... it was just such a bait and switch, which was annoying coming from someone who doesn't even have kids in the school system yet. I'm generally a very positive person but I was having an off day and running into this rude, entitled person made it that much worse.

The point is she thinks YOU are rude and entitled. You (presumably) didn't pay as much for your house as she did to live in bounds for that school, and yet you think you're entitled to go there anyway. She, on the other hand, paid the price of admission, so to speak, and is miffed that people who didn't think they can just sneak in the back door.

I don't get how its entitled - its a lottery. Everyone can play.

[Anonymous]

Oh I have a friend like this. She doesn't want anyone to have it as good as she does. I don't even know why these people care. Aren't they happy with their lives?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you both agree your current school isn't good. Well, you get get offended that she agrees with you.

She doesn't like that people live where they know they don't like the school, then try to work the system to get out of their choice. I mean, that's a fair complaint. She probably should have kept her mouth shut, but I don't think you can really criticize her for that view.

OP here. I was annoyed because she was openly rude to me. She criticized my kid's school and then told me she didn't think I should be allowed to use the lottery to try to get my kid into a better school.

You know, the only reason I even said the thing about doing the lottery again next year is because she criticized our school. I actually like a lot about our school and would not be devastated to stay, even though I recognize some of the challenges. But having another parent say, to my face, that my school is bad made me feel defensive. Which is the whole reason I said "Oh, well we might try to lottery in somewhere else if we can. We've heard great things about [her IB school]." So for her to then say that using the lottery to go to another school is selfish.... it was just such a bait and switch, which was annoying coming from someone who doesn't even have kids in the school system yet. I'm generally a very positive person but I was having an off day and running into this rude, entitled person made it that much worse.

The point is she thinks YOU are rude and entitled. You (presumably) didn't pay as much for your house as she did to live in bounds for that school, and yet you think you're entitled to go there anyway. She, on the other hand, paid the price of admission, so to speak, and is miffed that people who didn't think they can just sneak in the back door.

Alot of people think like this where I live.

NP I agree with the other mom! I paid a lot to be zoned to a particular school. I would be annoyed if some middle-class whites parachuted in. If they were poor URMs I would be okay.

Why?

[Anonymous]

Lesson 1. Never discuss your plans for future schooling with other parents of small kids. Never. Just make polite noises and move along.

Wear your mask.

[Anonymous]

Yikes. Your kids are 3. Chill out.