The pandemic sucks — DS’s friend is coming back to school, but in a different room

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Anonymous wrote:Get over it. It's rediculous you even posted this. Kids change classes every year in school.

Someone who can’t spell ridiculous might want to pause before judging others.

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What I'm side-eyeing the most is that this preschool has an accelerated program and that they won't place the friend in it because they haven't had a chance to evaluate him to determine his abilities, at 4. WTH kind of preschool is this? Are they 4 or 14?

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Anonymous wrote:Before COVID, they had been best friends. They’re both 4. DS kept going to school during COVID, as we’re essential workers, but his friend did not. Just found out his friend is now going back to the school, but has been placed in a different room.

We could request a change, but DS is being placed in an accelerated program (at the recommendation of the school) that we think would be good for him. Apparently his friend has been talking about DS all summer. DS has made some new friends, as young kids do, but I’m sure will be upset to find out his friend is in a different room.

Just wanted to say this sucks. I’m sure they both would have been in the same room without COVID, but my guess is the school is placing his friend in the regular program, solely because he hasn’t been at the school for months and so they can’t evaluate him to see where he is.

You picked a preschool for your kid with an "accelerated program"?

Start saving for a therapist for your child. At that age that's an immensely damaging thing.

[Anonymous]

Honestly it sounds like you have a choice OP. You're making the wrong one--what kind of "acceleration" of 4 year old learning is actually important? None. It's just a way to make some naive parents feel like their kid is special.

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Anonymous wrote:Before COVID, they had been best friends. They’re both 4. DS kept going to school during COVID, as we’re essential workers, but his friend did not. Just found out his friend is now going back to the school, but has been placed in a different room.

We could request a change, but DS is being placed in an accelerated program (at the recommendation of the school) that we think would be good for him. Apparently his friend has been talking about DS all summer. DS has made some new friends, as young kids do, but I’m sure will be upset to find out his friend is in a different room.

Just wanted to say this sucks. I’m sure they both would have been in the same room without COVID, but my guess is the school is placing his friend in the regular program, solely because he hasn’t been at the school for months and so they can’t evaluate him to see where he is.

You picked a preschool for your kid with an "accelerated program"?

Start saving for a therapist for your child. At that age that's an immensely damaging thing.

We picked the school for a lot of other reasons. The presence of an accelerated program had nothing to do with it.

And I really have no idea why his friend isn’t in that room; it was an assumption.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly it sounds like you have a choice OP. You're making the wrong one--what kind of "acceleration" of 4 year old learning is actually important? None. It's just a way to make some naive parents feel like their kid is special.

It amounts to an extra hour of some reading and an extra hour of some science activities. It’s really not the huge deal you’re all making it out to be. It replaces the nap and since she isn’t napping anymore anyway, we thought she might as well be doing some activities she’ll enjoy.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly it sounds like you have a choice OP. You're making the wrong one--what kind of "acceleration" of 4 year old learning is actually important? None. It's just a way to make some naive parents feel like their kid is special.

It amounts to an extra hour of some reading and an extra hour of some science activities. It’s really not the huge deal you’re all making it out to be. It replaces the nap and since she isn’t napping anymore anyway, we thought she might as well be doing some activities she’ll enjoy.

I don’t know why I was changing pronouns there ... clearly I need coffee.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP-- this is just too small to worry about.

My aunt is dying of cancer and I can't see her or my elderly mother because of covid.

We live in fear that my DH will be laid off (he's in an exceptionally vulnerable industry)- he's in his 50s, so chances of finding another job--not so good.

My son has special needs and failed two classes during distance learning.

I have a sibling with high functioning ASD who is also an essential worker and lives out of state.

I have to take anti-anxiety medication to cope-- and our problems aren't the worst I've heard by any stretch. So, yeah. The pandemic "sucks,"

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry for your loss, OP. You and your family are in my prayers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP-- this is just too small to worry about.

My aunt is dying of cancer and I can't see her or my elderly mother because of covid.

We live in fear that my DH will be laid off (he's in an exceptionally vulnerable industry)- he's in his 50s, so chances of finding another job--not so good.

My son has special needs and failed two classes during distance learning.

I have a sibling with high functioning ASD who is also an essential worker and lives out of state.

I have to take anti-anxiety medication to cope-- and our problems aren't the worst I've heard by any stretch. So, yeah. The pandemic "sucks,"

OP here. I’m incredibly sorry that all of that happened to you. My grandma died a couple of months ago and my other grandma is slowly dying of dementia and is in and out of the hospital nearly every month. My dad had quintuple by-pass heart surgery earlier this year and is still very weak.

There are small problems and big problems. This in the category of something I feel badly for the kids about. Clearly it’s nothing in the long-run, but for a young kid it’s a bit different.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP-- this is just too small to worry about.

My aunt is dying of cancer and I can't see her or my elderly mother because of covid.

We live in fear that my DH will be laid off (he's in an exceptionally vulnerable industry)- he's in his 50s, so chances of finding another job--not so good.

My son has special needs and failed two classes during distance learning.

I have a sibling with high functioning ASD who is also an essential worker and lives out of state.

I have to take anti-anxiety medication to cope-- and our problems aren't the worst I've heard by any stretch. So, yeah. The pandemic "sucks,"

OP here. I’m incredibly sorry that all of that happened to you. My grandma died a couple of months ago and my other grandma is slowly dying of dementia and is in and out of the hospital nearly every month. My dad had quintuple by-pass heart surgery earlier this year and is still very weak.

There are small problems and big problems. This in the category of something I feel badly for the kids about. Clearly it’s nothing in the long-run, but for a young kid it’s a bit different.

pp here- thank you for saying that. I didn't mean to belittle the problem-- it's just there are a lot of kids suffering huge losses in academics and social opportunities/milestones right now. Those are the kids I'm truly worried about when it comes to academic preparation, mental health, and overall well being. At age four, kids are very flexible. They may not be able to put things into perspective like an older kid or an adult, but they are incredibly resilient. Your DS will make new friends--it's actually a blessing for him that he was able to continue with preschool and socializing with other children this summer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your family's problems are simply enormous. My heart goes out to you.

+1

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Sounds like the tracking system at your preschool seperated them more than the pandemic.

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Anonymous wrote:Accelerated program for a 4 year old? What are you smoking?

We didn’t request it. The school offers it.

do they have travel tiny tots too?

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They're four, OP, it doesn't matter. I mentioned a pre-Covid friend to my four year old the other day and she said "who?".