He Hasn’t Texted Me Back..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. I heard from him again. He said he started feeling really sick the morning after I left and ended up in the hospital with appendicitis. He had an infection and he was in the hospital until this morning. He never brought his phone and when it was brought to him and couldn’t remember my number to text me or call me. I believe him because he screenshot me proof of paperwork. He wants to see me again if I’m still interested. What should I do?

His phone was brought to him but he couldn’t remember your number to call or text.

How did he contact you before his appendicitis?

How did he contact you when he did?

(He didn’t want to talk to you. He always could have.)

OP here. Typo. He didn’t have his phone brought to him. I don’t remember phone numbers I put in my phone off of the top of my head. I don’t know his number either unless I look in my phone. It’s not like we have been dating 3 months or 3 years. It’s only been 3 dates. I wouldn’t expect him to know my number by heart at this point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ghosting is seriously the worst.

The last guy I dated before I met DH ghosted me after about a month - maybe 4-5 dates. We had mutual friends so the likelihood of seeing each other in the future was high (and we in fact have been at many social events together over the years).

Anyway I called him out on it. I said it’s not a big deal to not want to date, but it is a dick move and totally disrespectful to not even send a ‘I don’t think this is going to work out’ text. I’m sure that conversation was way more uncomfortable for him than telling me he didn’t want to date me would have been. I know it wasn’t a “cool” thing to do, but all these years later I’m still proud of myself for doing it.

I'm in awe of you, pp! You're my hero!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Warning--remember how you feel RIGHT NOW after you've been ghosted after being intimate with him.

Because he may well get back in touch with you, have a lame excuse, and seem very interested again suddenly. This happens with men who have avoidant attachment styles. When he gets horny or lonely again, or gets over his fears, he will come back in force and seem excited and you'll feel that connection. Then when he gets what he wants again, or it's too much for him, he'll run away again.

So if he gets in touch, ignore and move on.

This is what is happening, OP. Verbatim. Let him heal from his appendicitis that made him unable to contact you for several days....and move on.

[Anonymous]

Wow that’s crazy. Sure, see him again. Did he have surgery? Make sure you see the scar.

[Anonymous]

Sounds fishy. I would straight up say, “yeah, I don’t believe you. I think you ghosted me and now you’re trying to resurrect the dead.”

Be honest with him. See if he is honest with you. Crazier things have happened. Ask bobcat girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. I heard from him again. He said he started feeling really sick the morning after I left and ended up in the hospital with appendicitis. He had an infection and he was in the hospital until this morning. He never brought his phone and when it was brought to him and couldn’t remember my number to text me or call me. I believe him because he screenshot me proof of paperwork. He wants to see me again if I’m still interested. What should I do?

His phone was brought to him but he couldn’t remember your number to call or text.

How did he contact you before his appendicitis?

How did he contact you when he did?

(He didn’t want to talk to you. He always could have.)

OP here. Typo. He didn’t have his phone brought to him. I don’t remember phone numbers I put in my phone off of the top of my head. I don’t know his number either unless I look in my phone. It’s not like we have been dating 3 months or 3 years. It’s only been 3 dates. I wouldn’t expect him to know my number by heart at this point.

So you don't have his number stored under his name? He doesn't have your number stored under his name. He just forgot your name after 3 months, because he had appendicitis? I think it's a bunch of caca. But you know what it seems like you're into it so go ahead text him back, be his recovery nurse too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would block his number so that he doesn’t get a chance to manipulate you when he comes back, they always do!

This.

Sorry, op. Sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. I heard from him again. He said he started feeling really sick the morning after I left and ended up in the hospital with appendicitis. He had an infection and he was in the hospital until this morning. He never brought his phone and when it was brought to him and couldn’t remember my number to text me or call me. I believe him because he screenshot me proof of paperwork. He wants to see me again if I’m still interested. What should I do?

His phone was brought to him but he couldn’t remember your number to call or text.

How did he contact you before his appendicitis?

How did he contact you when he did?

(He didn’t want to talk to you. He always could have.)

OP here. Typo. He didn’t have his phone brought to him. I don’t remember phone numbers I put in my phone off of the top of my head. I don’t know his number either unless I look in my phone. It’s not like we have been dating 3 months or 3 years. It’s only been 3 dates. I wouldn’t expect him to know my number by heart at this point.

So you don't have his number stored under his name? He doesn't have your number stored under his name. He just forgot your name after 3 months, because he had appendicitis? I think it's a bunch of caca. But you know what it seems like you're into it so go ahead text him back, be his recovery nurse too.

OP here. I have his number under his name and vice versa but it’s only been 3 dates. He didn’t have his phone. I don’t know his number unless I look at my phone. I don’t expect him to know my number. How many people remember numbers from a person you went on 3 dates with? I don’t think many do.

[Anonymous]

He may not be ghosting you. I had a man do this because ha family member was ill .
pick up the phone like a grown-up call him and find out if he’s interested .

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. I heard from him again. He said he started feeling really sick the morning after I left and ended up in the hospital with appendicitis. He had an infection and he was in the hospital until this morning. He never brought his phone and when it was brought to him and couldn’t remember my number to text me or call me. I believe him because he screenshot me proof of paperwork. He wants to see me again if I’m still interested. What should I do?

His phone was brought to him but he couldn’t remember your number to call or text.

How did he contact you before his appendicitis?

How did he contact you when he did?

(He didn’t want to talk to you. He always could have.)

OP here. Typo. He didn’t have his phone brought to him. I don’t remember phone numbers I put in my phone off of the top of my head. I don’t know his number either unless I look in my phone. It’s not like we have been dating 3 months or 3 years. It’s only been 3 dates. I wouldn’t expect him to know my number by heart at this point.

So you don't have his number stored under his name? He doesn't have your number stored under his name. He just forgot your name after 3 months, because he had appendicitis? I think it's a bunch of caca. But you know what it seems like you're into it so go ahead text him back, be his recovery nurse too.

OP here. I have his number under his name and vice versa but it’s only been 3 dates. He didn’t have his phone. I don’t know his number unless I look at my phone. I don’t expect him to know my number. How many people remember numbers from a person you went on 3 dates with? I don’t think many do.

Like I said you're desperate to keep him so go for it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP. I heard from him again. He said he started feeling really sick the morning after I left and ended up in the hospital with appendicitis. He had an infection and he was in the hospital until this morning. He never brought his phone and when it was brought to him and couldn’t remember my number to text me or call me. I believe him because he screenshot me proof of paperwork. He wants to see me again if I’m still interested. What should I do?

His phone was brought to him but he couldn’t remember your number to call or text.

How did he contact you before his appendicitis?

How did he contact you when he did?

(He didn’t want to talk to you. He always could have.)

OP here. Typo. He didn’t have his phone brought to him. I don’t remember phone numbers I put in my phone off of the top of my head. I don’t know his number either unless I look in my phone. It’s not like we have been dating 3 months or 3 years. It’s only been 3 dates. I wouldn’t expect him to know my number by heart at this point.

So you don't have his number stored under his name? He doesn't have your number stored under his name. He just forgot your name after 3 months, because he had appendicitis? I think it's a bunch of caca. But you know what it seems like you're into it so go ahead text him back, be his recovery nurse too.

OP here. I have his number under his name and vice versa but it’s only been 3 dates. He didn’t have his phone. I don’t know his number unless I look at my phone. I don’t expect him to know my number. How many people remember numbers from a person you went on 3 dates with? I don’t think many do.

That still doesn't make sense OP. How did he get in touch with you to tell you all of this if he doesn't know your number? How did he know you had sent him a message if he doesn't know your number? He's asking you to believe he was in the hospital for several days, and did not contact anyone to tell them. He's asking you to believe in this day and age he went to the hiospital and didn't have his phone on him at all.

[Anonymous]

How about this, OP: Commit to learning a guy’s phone number by heart BEFORE having sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: He may not be ghosting you. I had a man do this because ha family member was ill .
pick up the phone like a grown-up call him and find out if he’s interested .

Yeah I think it makes sense to be upfront. Tell him you thought he was ghosting you and now you’re wondering if he’s lying and just ask him where he stands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Warning--remember how you feel RIGHT NOW after you've been ghosted after being intimate with him.

Because he may well get back in touch with you, have a lame excuse, and seem very interested again suddenly. This happens with men who have avoidant attachment styles. When he gets horny or lonely again, or gets over his fears, he will come back in force and seem excited and you'll feel that connection. Then when he gets what he wants again, or it's too much for him, he'll run away again.

So if he gets in touch, ignore and move on.

This is what is happening, OP. Verbatim. Let him heal from his appendicitis that made him unable to contact you for several days....and move on.

So, I'm the person who posted the warning above that's being quoted.

It is possible that this is the exceptional case of a real emergency. If you see paperwork to that effect, I'd give him another chance if you liked him. After 3 dates, what is the guy going to do (assuming his story is real). Now it's trust but verify time--and see him, IF it's what you want.

[Anonymous]

You can get pictures of emergency documents online