He Hasn’t Texted Me Back..

[Anonymous]

Maybe something bad happened to him, like a family emergency, it may not be that he is a total ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe something bad happened to him, like a family emergency, it may not be that he is a total ass.

Texting takes a few seconds. So unless he's unconscious somewhere that's a poor excuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ghosting is seriously the worst.

The last guy I dated before I met DH ghosted me after about a month - maybe 4-5 dates. We had mutual friends so the likelihood of seeing each other in the future was high (and we in fact have been at many social events together over the years).

Anyway I called him out on it. I said it’s not a big deal to not want to date, but it is a dick move and totally disrespectful to not even send a ‘I don’t think this is going to work out’ text. I’m sure that conversation was way more uncomfortable for him than telling me he didn’t want to date me would have been. I know it wasn’t a “cool” thing to do, but all these years later I’m still proud of myself for doing it.

I think doing this makes sense if you have a relationship with the person outside of dating like in your case you were friends first.


Ghosting hurts, but to e it's just not worth it, to have the last word with the person. And yes I've been ghosted before.

[Anonymous]

Warning--remember how you feel RIGHT NOW after you've been ghosted after being intimate with him.

Because he may well get back in touch with you, have a lame excuse, and seem very interested again suddenly. This happens with men who have avoidant attachment styles. When he gets horny or lonely again, or gets over his fears, he will come back in force and seem excited and you'll feel that connection. Then when he gets what he wants again, or it's too much for him, he'll run away again.

So if he gets in touch, ignore and move on.

[Anonymous]

Definitely do not text him again! Guys can ghost at any moment, but a lot of guys who are just interested in sex, give things until the third date, and if you don't have sex with them, they ghost. Next time, you may want to wait longer so that those kinds of guys will weed themselves out after the third date, and they guys who are truly interested in you will remain.

Waiting also taps into their ancestral instinct to chase because they have to pursue you and aren't sure how you feel about them. That time allows them to form more of a connection to you rather than simply being attracted to you.

This is not a fair arrangement for women, but if you want to avoid this in the future, it may help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He got what he wanted OP. Sorry.

That's it.

[Anonymous]

I would block his number so that he doesn’t get a chance to manipulate you when he comes back, they always do!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ghosting is seriously the worst.

The last guy I dated before I met DH ghosted me after about a month - maybe 4-5 dates. We had mutual friends so the likelihood of seeing each other in the future was high (and we in fact have been at many social events together over the years).

Anyway I called him out on it. I said it’s not a big deal to not want to date, but it is a dick move and totally disrespectful to not even send a ‘I don’t think this is going to work out’ text. I’m sure that conversation was way more uncomfortable for him than telling me he didn’t want to date me would have been. I know it wasn’t a “cool” thing to do, but all these years later I’m still proud of myself for doing it.

I'm proud of you, too! (also wondering how he responded.)

[Anonymous]

You dodged a bullet, OP. This is not a quality man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Warning--remember how you feel RIGHT NOW after you've been ghosted after being intimate with him.

Because he may well get back in touch with you, have a lame excuse, and seem very interested again suddenly. This happens with men who have avoidant attachment styles. When he gets horny or lonely again, or gets over his fears, he will come back in force and seem excited and you'll feel that connection. Then when he gets what he wants again, or it's too much for him, he'll run away again.

So if he gets in touch, ignore and move on.

It's probably not that it's too much for him -- it's that all he wants is to have sex.

[Anonymous]

A friend of mine was dating a guy for around the same amount of time, and he never contacted her after they slept together. When she texted him again to ask why, he said, "I'm sorry, we're just not sexually compatible." Which is totally fine, but just tell the person that!

[Anonymous]

OP. I heard from him again. He said he started feeling really sick the morning after I left and ended up in the hospital with appendicitis. He had an infection and he was in the hospital until this morning. He never brought his phone and when it was brought to him and couldn’t remember my number to text me or call me. I believe him because he screenshot me proof of paperwork. He wants to see me again if I’m still interested. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. I heard from him again. He said he started feeling really sick the morning after I left and ended up in the hospital with appendicitis. He had an infection and he was in the hospital until this morning. He never brought his phone and when it was brought to him and couldn’t remember my number to text me or call me. I believe him because he screenshot me proof of paperwork. He wants to see me again if I’m still interested. What should I do?

Nice trolling!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. I heard from him again. He said he started feeling really sick the morning after I left and ended up in the hospital with appendicitis. He had an infection and he was in the hospital until this morning. He never brought his phone and when it was brought to him and couldn’t remember my number to text me or call me. I believe him because he screenshot me proof of paperwork. He wants to see me again if I’m still interested. What should I do?

His phone was brought to him but he couldn’t remember your number to call or text.

How did he contact you before his appendicitis?

How did he contact you when he did?

(He didn’t want to talk to you. He always could have.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. I heard from him again. He said he started feeling really sick the morning after I left and ended up in the hospital with appendicitis. He had an infection and he was in the hospital until this morning. He never brought his phone and when it was brought to him and couldn’t remember my number to text me or call me. I believe him because he screenshot me proof of paperwork. He wants to see me again if I’m still interested. What should I do?

This makes no sense. If he had ever texted or called you from his phone, he had your details.