Wife is addicted to iPhone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She needs a 40+ hour a week job. A real job.

Yes, because we all know that cures all problems.
My friends that work full time are on their phones constantly.
They are the first to respond to texts or emails!

Exactly I work and I’m on my phone or computer 8 hours at work + more at home.

[Anonymous]

She’s not in her phone 6-8 hours a day. Doesn’t she give you enough attention during that time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She needs a 40+ hour a week job. A real job.

Yes, because we all know that cures all problems.
My friends that work full time are on their phones constantly.
They are the first to respond to texts or emails!

Exactly I work and I’m on my phone or computer 8 hours at work + more at home.

Same here. But at least I get paid while I’m on my phone all day.

[Anonymous]

How old is your wife?

[Anonymous]

I think this is a woman posting sbout snother woman.

[Anonymous]

Start small.
Make a phone free evening. So dinner without phones and then leave them in the kitchen when you go to bed. Get books or talk or something. We do that once a week and it really helps. I know I'm addicted to my phone and dh is too so we actively try to remove ourselves from them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She needs a 40+ hour a week job. A real job.

Yes, because we all know that cures all problems.
My friends that work full time are on their phones constantly.
They are the first to respond to texts or emails!

Exactly I work and I’m on my phone or computer 8 hours at work + more at home.

Same here. But at least I get paid while I’m on my phone all day.

Yep. Bringing in $200k per year and the great family health benefits. If my husband wasn’t working and sat around on his iPhone all day I’d be pissed too.

[Anonymous]

Legit addiction.

She’s escaping, depressed, hyper anxious, etc. try and get to the root of the issue.

Taking her phone away will make things worse for now. Get her to go to therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She needs a 40+ hour a week job. A real job.

Yes, because we all know that cures all problems.
My friends that work full time are on their phones constantly.
They are the first to respond to texts or emails!

Exactly I work and I’m on my phone or computer 8 hours at work + more at home.

Same here. But at least I get paid while I’m on my phone all day.

Yep. Bringing in $200k per year and the great family health benefits. If my husband wasn’t working and sat around on his iPhone all day I’d be pissed too.

What exactly do you want them to do?

[Anonymous]

It would be an addiction if the phone caused her to neglect everything else including herself. My laptop is on the moment I wake up until I go to bed. My husband has never checked my usage. I don't hide anything from him. So what if I am on that long. He sees me on it. I don't think he cares as long as I'm having fun. I never use my phone. I don't like owning one.

Maybe you need to calmly ask your wife if she has a problem instead of talking behind her back on a public forum. Are you on your phone ?

[Anonymous]

She’s probably bored. That’s when I’m on my phone most.

[Anonymous]

Is she lonely? That’s why I’m on my phone a lot. DCUM provides something akin to human interaction -!: people understanding me. Zillow and Instagram are escapes from discomfort.

What would happen if you ask her to put it away from, say, 5-7 every night, so that you can all be present for each other?

[Anonymous]

What does she say when you bring it up to her? Having the phone put at dinner with the family is very sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being home all day with a child, especially very young, is exhausting in a very different way than being at work. You literally feel like you can’t have a thought in your own head or a moment in space and time all to yourself. It’s great in some respects, but incredibly isolating and mind numbing in others, especially with so many things being closed or limited during COVID. A phone is a super easy, portable escape to a world where you’re not wiping noses and butts, and making endless snacks, wiping up the same mess you just cleaned up, etc.

As a SAHM with two very young children, I appreciate PP writing this! I do literally feel like I can't have my own thoughts. The phone is an escape.

I would also recommend giving her a block of time to herself: "I'll watch the kids so you can go for a walk," etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think this is a woman posting sbout snother woman.

Why? I didn't get that idea at all.