Having DS stay with grandparents 2 hours away when school is not in session?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents (age 68 and 69) continue to travel all over the place, dine out with other couples, beach travel, shopping, gyms, the works. And they want to come visit my kids. I am very skeptical of doing this particularly since they are coming from one of the states seeing an increase in number of infections

Same, except my in-laws are in Ohio and I'm currently in a southern state that has seen a terrifying rise in cases. They refuse to face reality and DH's resolve to not let them visit is practically gone. We successfully prevent a visit at Easter (yes, in the middle of stay-at-home orders, they wanted to visit!), but I fear DH is about to give in.

[Anonymous]

Putting aside the covid health risks for a moment, this sounds like an incredibly disruptive thing to do with your son if the school district does T/Th, W/F. I don't care how old he is, he'd likely miss you and the comfort of his own home, family, and friends, even if he adores your parents. The novelty would wear off quickly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you are ok with your kids possibly infecting your parents go ahead. If you love your parents you probably don’t want to do that.

STOP.

It’s fine.

NP here. YOU STOP THE CRAP. Covid infections are on the rise and elderly people are still dying. It’s so fricking far from “fine”.

Another NP. It's not fine. Honestly, how would you feel if your parents got sick? We are refusing to see either set of parents because they are all older and one of them has a ton of comorbitities. How can you be so flippant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Schools should realize that closing won’t help because everyone will either use grandparent care or other group care on the off days. School every day is safer (with other precautions) because it is always the same group of people.

Part time school would be safer if kids were home with only household members on the off days. But large numbers won’t be.

This actually isn't true.

Also, having kids in school all day is only safer for the people who would otherwise be caring for the kids, like grandparents. It's not safer for the teachers and other school workers. Do you not see that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Schools should realize that closing won’t help because everyone will either use grandparent care or other group care on the off days. School every day is safer (with other precautions) because it is always the same group of people.

Part time school would be safer if kids were home with only household members on the off days. But large numbers won’t be.

This actually isn't true.

Also, having kids in school all day is only safer for the people who would otherwise be caring for the kids, like grandparents. It's not safer for the teachers and other school workers. Do you not see that?

If children are sources of transmission, it's safer to have the same group of kids in school all day than to have lots of those kids being exposed to different groups of people on their off days and bringing it back to school. If children aren't sources of transmission, it doesn't matter either way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are ok with your kids possibly infecting your parents go ahead. If you love your parents you probably don’t want to do that.

STOP.

It’s fine.

NP here. YOU STOP THE CRAP. Covid infections are on the rise and elderly people are still dying. It’s so fricking far from “fine”.

Another NP. It's not fine. Honestly, how would you feel if your parents got sick? We are refusing to see either set of parents because they are all older and one of them has a ton of comorbitities. How can you be so flippant?

NP. Seriously, how long are some of you willing to go without seeing your parents, especially those who are local or within easy driving distance? There's no guarantee that we are getting a vaccine in the next year. Promising info and outlooks, but no guarantee.
We are doing as much as we can to stay safe, but my parents have already told me that they think being able to spend time with their only child and grandchildren is worth the risk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are ok with your kids possibly infecting your parents go ahead. If you love your parents you probably don’t want to do that.

STOP.

It’s fine.

NP here. YOU STOP THE CRAP. Covid infections are on the rise and elderly people are still dying. It’s so fricking far from “fine”.

Another NP. It's not fine. Honestly, how would you feel if your parents got sick? We are refusing to see either set of parents because they are all older and one of them has a ton of comorbitities. How can you be so flippant?

NP. Seriously, how long are some of you willing to go without seeing your parents, especially those who are local or within easy driving distance? There's no guarantee that we are getting a vaccine in the next year. Promising info and outlooks, but no guarantee.
We are doing as much as we can to stay safe, but my parents have already told me that they think being able to spend time with their only child and grandchildren is worth the risk.

Another NP here. I completely understand concerns of those who don't want to see grandparenrs and grandparents who don't want to see grandchildren. But ... if the grandparents are OK with the risk why is it irresponsible? People should make their own decisions about risk and gathering with a *small* family group does not violate cdc guidelines. Can you imagine the outrage on this board if MIL told mom that she should put kid to sleep on her stomach and then when in and moved the grandkids because mom didn't listen! Parents make decisions for their minor children. Adult children should not make decisions for their mentally capable parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are ok with your kids possibly infecting your parents go ahead. If you love your parents you probably don’t want to do that.

STOP.

It’s fine.

NP here. YOU STOP THE CRAP. Covid infections are on the rise and elderly people are still dying. It’s so fricking far from “fine”.

Another NP. It's not fine. Honestly, how would you feel if your parents got sick? We are refusing to see either set of parents because they are all older and one of them has a ton of comorbitities. How can you be so flippant?

NP. Seriously, how long are some of you willing to go without seeing your parents, especially those who are local or within easy driving distance? There's no guarantee that we are getting a vaccine in the next year. Promising info and outlooks, but no guarantee.
We are doing as much as we can to stay safe, but my parents have already told me that they think being able to spend time with their only child and grandchildren is worth the risk.

Well, I'd rather go a year without seeing grandparents and then have maybe another 20 years to enjoy them rather than seeing them now and having less than a year, so...