Having DS stay with grandparents 2 hours away when school is not in session?
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Anonymous
| My parents (age 68 and 69) continue to travel all over the place, dine out with other couples, beach travel, shopping, gyms, the works. And they want to come visit my kids. I am very skeptical of doing this particularly since they are coming from one of the states seeing an increase in number of infections |
Anonymous
They had their child tested every week after he spent one week in school and before he went to his grandparents? |
Anonymous
Kids are going back to school for the first time. Not smart to have grandparents take care of them especially with the increase. |
Anonymous
| We wish so much that we could use grandparent care next year. We also both have jobs that can't be done from home, and we aren't sure what we are going to do with the hybrid schedule our children's school is planning. But I just don't think it is safe to expose older people repeatedly once my children are in school. So sadly we will be looking for other childcare. |
Anonymous
| Some people cannot afford not using grandparent care. |
Anonymous
You want her to not see her child for years?!? The vaccine isn’t guaranteed, especially not on a fast timeline. There is dangerous scientific groupthink happening with methods so if the ONE plan doesn’t work we are back to square one. |
Anonymous
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Schools should realize that closing won’t help because everyone will either use grandparent care or other group care on the off days. School every day is safer (with other precautions) because it is always the same group of people.
Part time school would be safer if kids were home with only household members on the off days. But large numbers won’t be. |
Anonymous
| It’s funny how China nipped this in the bud with a population of 2 billion but ‘mericans want their freedom and disregard mask use and we will be in this fight for several more months |
Anonymous
+1. When we see the grandparents we try to isolate for 10 days beforehand. Even that isn't 100 percent failsafe (still have to get groceries, even if you order them) but it's that or GPs don't ever see us until there's a vaccine/cure. Everyone has their own level or risk tolerance. This works for us. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
Please put your kids and yourself and spouse ahead of your parents. Listen to your gut and do not let them visit. They have been doing everything to expose themselves to the virus. If you and/or spouse gets it from them, you are even less able to look after your own kids, and you certainly wouldn't have infected grandparents able to help look after them....Zoom, Skype, FaceTime, whatever, but be firm with them. For your kids' sakes. I'm betting your folks will guilt you (are they they types to say, we've done all this and feel fine! We promise no hugs! You're overreacting! etc.?). Please don't cave in to it. They are either choosing willful ignorance or they are genuinely unable to grasp that their age and activities and location mean they are ripe for infection, even if they have zero pre-existing conditions. I'm so sorry. Kids and spouse before parents. Family you made before family of birth, unfortunately, if the family of birth is behaving dangerously. And they are. |
Anonymous
NP. Also, to OP: You're involving BOTH sets of grandparents; two parents who both work outside the home; and more than one child. You need to do the math. The exposures go way beyond the eight of you, assuming four grandparents, two parents and two children. Add in everyone you come in contact with at work, everyone your spouse is in contact with at work, everyone each of the four grandparents comes in contact with at the store, the drugstore, anywhere they go. All of those people are exposed to you and you to them and your kids to them. And your kids are exposing everyone to their classmates and teachers.... It's how a virus spreads. I get that you and DH both must work outside the home. It seems insurmountable. But ANY solution that reduces the spread is better than bringing four other adults iinto the mix unless they all four commit to serious "family bubble" procedures and practice strict distancing, get their groceries delivered, get covid tests regularly (which can be hard to get).... Altering work shifts? Has either of you asked about it, or do you both have very strict unchangeable hours? Some families on these boards talk about one parent starting work very early and ending midday or early afternoon while another starts late and works late, so there is kid coverage. But that depends on the jobs and if you must have in-person core hours, it may not work, I understand that. Regular sitter whom you can at least contact trace on if that sitter gets infected? I would explore every other option rather than involve four more adults who are older adults. |
Anonymous
| My kids stay with their GPs at least one night a week. We all practice social distancing otherwise and my parents are in very good health. Yes, there is risk but we can’t completely shut down our lives and my kids adore my parents. |
Anonymous
OP, this is a good point. How old are the grandparents and what kind of health? Are they frail and in their 70's and 80's? Or are they vibrant in their 50's, 60's. Most covid deaths of the elderly are those over 75 years old in the latest study that just came out. Many people use grandparents to provide care. Not everyone has $40,000 to pay a Nanny. |
Anonymous
| ? So do what you want. They are YOUR family. i wouldn't personally. |