Showering with a 3 year old toddler?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it acceptable for DH to shower with our DD?
She’s three years old and loves her bedtime shower ritual with daddy.

Does he shower naked or with a bathing suit? I wouldnt have a problem if he had a siit on but it would be a hard no if he was naked.

Sorry!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it acceptable for DH to shower with our DD?
She’s three years old and loves her bedtime shower ritual with daddy.

Does he shower naked or with a bathing suit? I wouldnt have a problem if he had a siit on but it would be a hard no if he was naked.

Sorry!

I'm with you. The idea of a grown man naked in a situation where he is, perhaps innocently, wagging his man parts in the face of a toddler (due to the inevitable physical height of the kid's head) doesn't sound like a good idea to me. Maybe if he held the kid in his arms the entire time it might be okay. If not it's just asking for trouble. Wouldn't you love to hear the conversation that kid has with her mates at preschool?

[Anonymous]

I think it's fine.

[Anonymous]

I shower with my boys (3 and 5YO) regularly, and they see both DH and I naked every day. It works for our family and I recommend you do what works for yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, at this age we should be modeling. Modeling that there's nothing wrong with human bodies and that being naked together doesn't mean being sexual. Especially between parent and child. My God, why do so many Americans turn into pedophile fantasists when they become parents? It is DEEPLY disturbing that this is where so many of your minds go.

OP, it's totally fine. Ignore the poor twisted weirdos on this thread (most of whom were undoubtedly messed up by their own parents' hangups).

+1 and I am American.

[Anonymous]

By the age of 3 kids should know about private parts, their names, ok and not ok touching. They should know that it’s fine to touch your own body but in private.

There is nothing weird about showering together as long as your kid is ok with it. I have two girls and they have seen both of us naked, not in a showy way but sometimes I sleep naked and when toweling off, etc.

My older kid (5) has started to get more uncomfortable with nudity, which is really natural and we respect that.

[Anonymous]

Man, I pride myself and my family on being non-prudish, very open about our bodies and stuff, but I personally would have never thought to shower with either of our kids (3 & 5). Seems odd to me to be in close, nude quarters with someone whose head is at the height of my genitalia. I don’t think OP or anyone else who does this is necessarily wrong, I’m just trying to give a data point.

[Anonymous]

It's totally fine until either DD or DH express discomfort. Then you know it's time to stop.

[Anonymous]

People are crazy.

We both showered with our daughter and only at around age 6 did my husband start feeling like it was a little weird. And now at age 7 I feel like I want a little more privacy. Our daughter seemed totally unfazed though and would have been fine continuing.

The fact that people make this sound like an issue is what skeeves me out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband showered with my daughter all the time until one day she pointed at his penis and said “whatcha got there dad?” Right then we knew it was time to stop. She was around 3 at the time.

That's unfortunate. "My penis" would have been a fine answer and probably nothing would have been weird about it for another few years.

That was his answer.

Then why stop doing it?

NP. You stop things like this when one person becomes uncomfortable with it. In this case, it was Dad.

Thanks PP. You’re right - my husband decided to stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At that age we should be modeling. Your body is your body. Your bed is your bed. Your privacy is your privacy. Kids should learn showering or being naked with an adult is unusual.

Mwahahahah tell that to my 3yo who refuses to sleep alone in his fancy bed!

I now supervise showering my 3yo ds i sometimes shower with him because it’s easier but usually I just supervise. I don’t think it’s weird and the only reason I stopped is because it’s a pain to dry both of us after.

[Anonymous]

It can be over stimulating for some kids. I had a fourth grade student who showered with his mom and she had to call in a family therapist for his behavior, because the boundaries in the family were blurred and he was considering himself her equal. I know another boy who had a lot of anxiety issues and showering with his mom was too much stimulation. Some kids might not have an issue, but some do. I have worked with a lot of special ed kids and the ones who bathe and sleep with parents often don’t do well.

[Anonymous]

I’m a woman and shower with my 3 and 1 yo DS almost every day. Dh travels a lot for work so it’s just efficiency to all get our showers together in the evening vs using some of my precious free time for it. Don’t know when I’ll stop, but at 3 there’s definitely nothing weird about it

[Anonymous]

I think we stopped around 3. DD is turning 4 next month and DH definitely doesn’t like her to see him naked

She asked me why he has a stick on his chichi. (I know I was supposed to teach vagina, sorry!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I shower almost everyday with my 1 year old DD (holding her), and she tries to grab and hit and nurse various body parts of mine, which is okay except when she scratches me with her sharp little fingernails. For that reason, we have not tried and will not try DH showering with her.

Age 1 and 3 is A huge difference, and you’re both the same sex