FIL refers to wife as "the best grandma"

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not sure I am following. He asks that people say “hello G-ma, best grandmother in the world” and “g-am best grandmother in the world, would you like toast for breakfast?” Or when he is talking about her, he says, oh my wife she is so great. She is the best grandmother in the world. The later is fine and could be true even if you have other grandmothers. It could also be false but is ok. He can talk kindly about his wife.

Asking other people to do that is strange and no need to make a declaration about it. Just don’t do anything or say anything.

Yeah, if it's like this, I think you just have to decide to put the best interpretation on it. It IS sweet when people who've been married for a generation still adore and admire each other. You will be lucky if your husband follows in father's model and thinks of you this way in 20 or 30 years.

Except that's not what it really is. I have a narcissist MIL. The FIL is her enabler. This isn't really adoration, it's manipulation. It only gets worse.