How do people work full time during the first trimester? Tired all the time.

[Anonymous]

Pregnant with my first I was so tired that I lost 7 pounds because I would come home from work at 5:45 and fall immediately to sleep. I would not wake up until the next morning alarms. It was awful. I am a teacher and could not nap during the day and prayed I would not vomit in front of kids. Twice I asked a friend walking by to stop in for a second so I could run and puke - but never in front of kids luckily. With my second and third, general queasy during th day but never actually sick. Fewer naps at home because - other kids. So tired. But by 11 weeks it would get better and by 14 weeks I felt normal again. That would last about 12 weeks and then felt so fat that I did not feel good.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is your office work that critical?
You need your rest, OP.

Well, most people can’t just say peace out because they are tired, and even if permitted, you generally won’t want to use leave before the baby is born any more than truly necessary.

Even if OP is a middle management paper pusher for a non-critical business, it is not unreasonable for her employer to still expect her to push paper, with relatively modest accommodations.

Caring for a baby is a Full-Time job, no?

OP is pregnant. That’s not normally a full time job.

Resting when your body is demanding rest is important. Women need to learn to listen to themselves and the needs of their babies in utero. Growing and caring for a baby is a huge job!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your office work that critical?
You need your rest, OP.

Well, most people can’t just say peace out because they are tired, and even if permitted, you generally won’t want to use leave before the baby is born any more than truly necessary.

Even if OP is a middle management paper pusher for a non-critical business, it is not unreasonable for her employer to still expect her to push paper, with relatively modest accommodations.

Caring for a baby is a Full-Time job, no?

OP is pregnant. That’s not normally a full time job.

Resting when your body is demanding rest is important. Women need to learn to listen to themselves and the needs of their babies in utero. Growing and caring for a baby is a huge job!

Ok? And do you expect her employer to simply allow rest whenever she is tired?

[Anonymous]

I had all day morning sickness in the first trimester but the nausea lingered on until the end. I had to stop taking metro to work and began paying for parking at my building. I had to just work through it but I’d take my lunch breaks taking a nap in my car. I had my blanket and pillow ready.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ummm you just work and do your job....what’s so complicated? I had all-time sickness was exhausted and I just drank water and lived and worked and commuted and did meetings and travelled for work. Just count your blessings for being at home and you’re in for a rude awakening of being “tired” with a newborn.

You sound so strong and amazing.

I actually was more exhausted during the first trimester than I was with a newborn. Lucky enough to work from home, took a three hour nap every afternoon and slept 10 hours every night for most of the first trimester. From 12 weeks on, totally fine. So much sympathy for those that work outside home

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry, the fatigue is so awful. It got better for me by week 12, but weeks 7-11 were tough. I would come home from work, take a nap, eat some dinner, barf it up, and go to bed. I would eat pita chips when I woke up hungry on the middle of the night. At birth my children were composed of approximately 90% pita chips.

Also, in my experience, taking care of infant twins turned out to be nowhere near as exhausting as being pregnant with those twins.

[Anonymous]

Hah. Once I just fell asleep at my desk looking at my computer. I was out for about 45 minutes. Pregnancy was basically like narcolepsy. And then I’d come home and sleep 8-7am.

Btw OP it gets so much worse for #2 when you have a toddler and you can’t sleep

[Anonymous]

I had to take a leave of absence for 4 months. I had never been so sick in my life.

[Anonymous]

Be an adult about it.

[Anonymous]

The exhaustion I have with my second pregnancy is the worst I’ve ever had and I had a baby who nursed all night every, every night and didn’t sleep.

First, I was physically weak because I couldn’t eat or drink food or water from the time I was 5 weeks pregnant - reflux medication fixed that issue but took weeks to get the right dose and combination. Second, this pregnancy has taxed my thyroid immensely. In order to even minimally function, I would have to take 2-3 hour nap in the morning (I was luckily able to do this). Increasing medication levels has helped this but we’re barely keeping ahead of the demand on my system and I’m 24 weeks.

My point being, sometimes it’s just pregnancy and the hormones that come with, but sometimes there are other things that can mitigated.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say I am tired, more like anxious. I think I am going through insomnia. I wake up at 5 AM no matter what. I can go to bed early or later but I will still wake up super early. And then the day just drags on. I work from home part time and part-time in our nearly empty office. My concentration is OK.

[Anonymous]

I did so poorly (had hyperemesis so I know I'm an outlier) I took medical leave. In the weeks before I decided to take that leave and until it went through I was lucky to be getting a new boss and the department was shifting a lot because of it so no one noticed I basically did no work for 3 or 4 weeks. Short story is I got lucky.. moms are superhuman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ummm you just work and do your job....what’s so complicated? I had all-time sickness was exhausted and I just drank water and lived and worked and commuted and did meetings and travelled for work. Just count your blessings for being at home and you’re in for a rude awakening of being “tired” with a newborn.

You sound so strong and amazing.

I actually was more exhausted during the first trimester than I was with a newborn. Lucky enough to work from home, took a three hour nap every afternoon and slept 10 hours every night for most of the first trimester. From 12 weeks on, totally fine. So much sympathy for those that work outside home

I am. Especially since I didn’t bitch about being “omg so exhausted I can’t work” on forums.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ummm you just work and do your job....what’s so complicated? I had all-time sickness was exhausted and I just drank water and lived and worked and commuted and did meetings and travelled for work. Just count your blessings for being at home and you’re in for a rude awakening of being “tired” with a newborn.

You sound so strong and amazing.

I actually was more exhausted during the first trimester than I was with a newborn. Lucky enough to work from home, took a three hour nap every afternoon and slept 10 hours every night for most of the first trimester. From 12 weeks on, totally fine. So much sympathy for those that work outside home

I am. Especially since I didn’t bitch about being “omg so exhausted I can’t work” on forums.

You're very lucky that you can't relate to this thread. Not everyone experiences symptoms the same, and each pregnancy can be different. I was tired with my first, but it was nothing like the tired I felt in the first trimester with this pregnancy---and yes, it was worse than in some ways than being tired with a newborn. With a newborn, I felt tired and on edge all the time. There were time I would fall asleep while trying to stay awake, which is obviously bad with a newborn. But, with this pregnancy, I was passing out at the same time everyday. It was like my body had an expiration, and was much, much, much harder to continue the day without a nap---my body was going to do it whether I wanted to or not.

I agree with the lunchtime napper---if you can find a time in your day that works, trying to squeeze in a nap before you need it may help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ummm you just work and do your job....what’s so complicated? I had all-time sickness was exhausted and I just drank water and lived and worked and commuted and did meetings and travelled for work. Just count your blessings for being at home and you’re in for a rude awakening of being “tired” with a newborn.

You sound so strong and amazing.

I actually was more exhausted during the first trimester than I was with a newborn. Lucky enough to work from home, took a three hour nap every afternoon and slept 10 hours every night for most of the first trimester. From 12 weeks on, totally fine. So much sympathy for those that work outside home

I am. Especially since I didn’t bitch about being “omg so exhausted I can’t work” on forums.

Right - instead you just shat all over another human looking for a little compassion during a difficult time. We're all really impressed.