How do people work full time during the first trimester? Tired all the time.

[Anonymous]

I never had any nausea issues with my pregnancy and I worked as a nurse until 2 days before my scheduled C-section. My pregnancy went really well, I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never had any nausea issues with my pregnancy and I worked as a nurse until 2 days before my scheduled C-section. My pregnancy went really well, I guess.

Lol thanks for sharing?

[Anonymous]

I’m also pregnant and have been WFH since 6 weeks. Quarantine has been a blessing in disguise because I don’t know how I would have managed if I had to go to work everyday. For three weeks I basically took Zoom calls from bed with the camera turned off. The thought of being on Metro when I had morning sickness...ugh.

[Anonymous]

Ugh. I have a pregnant Coworker right now and she is the WORST! She never has work done on time, is always groggy and out of it, spends hours in the bathroom. If anything else made workers behave like this they would be fired. I am a mother and, most of the time, a nice person. But I’m pulling double the load here because she got knocked up (unplanned, unmarried.). This isn’t something you can complain to HR about, we are all just supposed to be understanding. But seriously, it’s not fair and it’s not right.

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Anonymous wrote:Ummm you just work and do your job....what’s so complicated? I had all-time sickness was exhausted and I just drank water and lived and worked and commuted and did meetings and travelled for work. Just count your blessings for being at home and you’re in for a rude awakening of being “tired” with a newborn.

NP. Parent to an infant, so fully understand the sleep deprivation that comes with a baby. That said, anyone who feels the need to tell pregnant women that parents of newborns are tired, as if they don't understand that, is not only unnecessarily rude but also has to be legitimately stupid, right? Do you really think OP doesn't get that having a newborn is exhausting? You sound like a caricature of a mean girl.
NP I was actually more exhausted in first trimester than any time after my colicky baby arrived. I would lay down on the couch after work ( I was a kindergarten teacher) and basically not get up unless it was to eat or use the bathroom.

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh. I have a pregnant Coworker right now and she is the WORST! She never has work done on time, is always groggy and out of it, spends hours in the bathroom. If anything else made workers behave like this they would be fired. I am a mother and, most of the time, a nice person. But I’m pulling double the load here because she got knocked up (unplanned, unmarried.). This isn’t something you can complain to HR about, we are all just supposed to be understanding. But seriously, it’s not fair and it’s not right.

Wow, so smart of you to get pregnant with a "plan." How morally superior you are, in addition to being completely lacking in empathy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. I have a pregnant Coworker right now and she is the WORST! She never has work done on time, is always groggy and out of it, spends hours in the bathroom. If anything else made workers behave like this they would be fired. I am a mother and, most of the time, a nice person. But I’m pulling double the load here because she got knocked up (unplanned, unmarried.). This isn’t something you can complain to HR about, we are all just supposed to be understanding. But seriously, it’s not fair and it’s not right.

Where do you work?

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh. I have a pregnant Coworker right now and she is the WORST! She never has work done on time, is always groggy and out of it, spends hours in the bathroom. If anything else made workers behave like this they would be fired. I am a mother and, most of the time, a nice person. But I’m pulling double the load here because she got knocked up (unplanned, unmarried.). This isn’t something you can complain to HR about, we are all just supposed to be understanding. But seriously, it’s not fair and it’s not right.

So she’s the wrong kind of pregnant? Or do you just clutch your pearls as an instinct? If you don’t understand what she’s going through, then you didn’t have a hard pregnancy. And men never made comments about people’s pregnancies and were the first to bend over backwards, I think because pregnant women scare them.

Fake it until you make it, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never had any nausea issues with my pregnancy and I worked as a nurse until 2 days before my scheduled C-section. My pregnancy went really well, I guess.

Lol thanks for sharing?

i think PP is just sharing her experience - which answers the original question OP asked. Some people are able to work full time during the first trimester because their bodies didn't react the same as OP and they have an easier time of it. I had two super easy pregnancies and worked up to the day before I gave birth both times with no issues other than a little clumsiness towards the end since my balance was a bit off- honestly, during some parts of the pregnancies I had more energy and felt better than when not pregnant. The hormones affect everyone differently.

[Anonymous]

Oh I hear you OP. I had the same thing with my first. Went to work 9-5/6. Thankfully almost no commute. Took a power nap in my car in the garage around 1 pm (shrieked nonmeetings then). Came home, went to sleep for 2-3 hrs. Woke up to eat whoever dh made and went back to sleep. I did nothing but work and sleep from week 9-12. Then the exhaustion just went away and I had a great second trimester with a ton of energy. I never had any nausea that pregnancy.
Second baby. Not nearly as tired from the pregnancy. Generally tired since I already had a 3 year old and no way to nap after work anyway. But I was mildly nauseated all day pretty much all pregnancy. Just not comfortable and never had the great energy boost I got in my first pregnancy.
Hang in there. Do the work, get in naps. Ignore everything else. It should ease up after 12/14 weeks. And congratulations.

[Anonymous]

I vomited multiple times a day for weeks on end. It sucked. You just power through.

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Anonymous wrote:Is your office work that critical?
You need your rest, OP.

Well, most people can’t just say peace out because they are tired, and even if permitted, you generally won’t want to use leave before the baby is born any more than truly necessary.

Even if OP is a middle management paper pusher for a non-critical business, it is not unreasonable for her employer to still expect her to push paper, with relatively modest accommodations.

Caring for a baby is a Full-Time job, no?

[Anonymous]

I'm one of the early PPs and wanted to add I'm also a teacher so thankfully working from home. Putting my head down, frequent bathroom breaks, puke breaks are not a thing. When we were in school I got two breaks a day--8:45 and then not again until 12:15.

I thankfully never actually vomited until last week... when we were driving. I normally would get a little car sick if I was on my phone while DH was driving. This time I picked up my phone, responded to one text message and almost immediately knew I was going to throw up. He had just enough time to pull over. I felt better and less than 30 minutes later same exact thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your office work that critical?
You need your rest, OP.

Well, most people can’t just say peace out because they are tired, and even if permitted, you generally won’t want to use leave before the baby is born any more than truly necessary.

Even if OP is a middle management paper pusher for a non-critical business, it is not unreasonable for her employer to still expect her to push paper, with relatively modest accommodations.

Caring for a baby is a Full-Time job, no?

OP is pregnant. That’s not normally a full time job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your office work that critical?
You need your rest, OP.

Well, most people can’t just say peace out because they are tired, and even if permitted, you generally won’t want to use leave before the baby is born any more than truly necessary.

Even if OP is a middle management paper pusher for a non-critical business, it is not unreasonable for her employer to still expect her to push paper, with relatively modest accommodations.

Caring for a baby is a Full-Time job, no?

OP is pregnant. That’s not normally a full time job.

Resting when your body is demanding rest is important. Women need to learn to listen to themselves and the needs of their babies in utero. Growing and caring for a baby is a huge job!