Neighbor being snarky or am I being sensitive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow you need to get a grip! And apologize to your neighbor. You have officially earned the crazy cat lady moniker

This. You were not oversensitive, you were utterly rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I might add that my neighbor is not the friendliest and never has been to me. She has always been stand-offish and snooty to me. Maybe this is why I reacted that way. Rich people attitude.

I have no way to judge tone, but from your description, it sounds like she was trying to make a friendly overture and you were stand-offish and snooty. I would have assumed she was making small talk. You turned it into the cat vs. dog issue. I can see the conversation going the same way if you received TP, diapers, or (if you had a dog) poop bags. Actually anything unpleasant like cleaning products, pest control, plumbing supplies, etc., might have prompted a similat response.

She may have been making a snooty dig at ypur pet choice, but with any chance of ambiguity, it's best to respond to the best case scenario. You catch more flies with honey than vinegar, and by being the bigger person and being friendly to her, you might bring her around.

We’ve been neighbors for years and she has NEVER been friendly. I’ve tried talking to her and she is very short with me. So in the last year I haven’t made any more efforts to be friendly and I pretty much ignore her now.

Then what is the point of this post?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I might add that my neighbor is not the friendliest and never has been to me. She has always been stand-offish and snooty to me. Maybe this is why I reacted that way. Rich people attitude.

I have no way to judge tone, but from your description, it sounds like she was trying to make a friendly overture and you were stand-offish and snooty. I would have assumed she was making small talk. You turned it into the cat vs. dog issue. I can see the conversation going the same way if you received TP, diapers, or (if you had a dog) poop bags. Actually anything unpleasant like cleaning products, pest control, plumbing supplies, etc., might have prompted a similat response.

She may have been making a snooty dig at ypur pet choice, but with any chance of ambiguity, it's best to respond to the best case scenario. You catch more flies with honey than vinegar, and by being the bigger person and being friendly to her, you might bring her around.

We’ve been neighbors for years and she has NEVER been friendly. I’ve tried talking to her and she is very short with me. So in the last year I haven’t made any more efforts to be friendly and I pretty much ignore her now.

Did you pause to consider that she may be on the spectrum? If she's very direct, but never actually uses rude or insulting words, that could be it. Her words need to be taken at face value.

[Anonymous]

wow, you sound psychotic

[Anonymous]

OP, it’s unanimous. You suck.

[Anonymous]

Had it been clothes or alcohol she would have said “how fun”! You need to apologize.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she meant like what arrived in the mail wasn’t something fun like new clothes or shoes or toys. You were definitely being snotty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I might add that my neighbor is not the friendliest and never has been to me. She has always been stand-offish and snooty to me. Maybe this is why I reacted that way. Rich people attitude.

I have no way to judge tone, but from your description, it sounds like she was trying to make a friendly overture and you were stand-offish and snooty. I would have assumed she was making small talk. You turned it into the cat vs. dog issue. I can see the conversation going the same way if you received TP, diapers, or (if you had a dog) poop bags. Actually anything unpleasant like cleaning products, pest control, plumbing supplies, etc., might have prompted a similat response.

She may have been making a snooty dig at ypur pet choice, but with any chance of ambiguity, it's best to respond to the best case scenario. You catch more flies with honey than vinegar, and by being the bigger person and being friendly to her, you might bring her around.

We’ve been neighbors for years and she has NEVER been friendly. I’ve tried talking to her and she is very short with me. So in the last year I haven’t made any more efforts to be friendly and I pretty much ignore her now.

Based on your wackadoo response to a totally banal comment, I don't know if I trust your impressions of her. You may have been coming across in a completely off-putting way the whole time (like the current situation) and not realized it and that has caused her reaction, or your perception of someone being "very short" is normal to everyone else, or something. This whole thing is beyond weird.

[Anonymous]

If you aren't a troll, you are totally crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow you need to get a grip! And apologize to your neighbor. You have officially earned the crazy cat lady moniker

This!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you aren't a troll, you are totally crazy.

+1

And I'm 100% serious.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you should get rid of the cats and spend a bit more time figuring out how to be human again. 3 cats is ridiculous.

Also make sure your cats stay on your own property. I don't blame her for being unfriendly if you let your cats roam off your land.

[Anonymous]

Good grief.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I might add that my neighbor is not the friendliest and never has been to me. She has always been stand-offish and snooty to me. Maybe this is why I reacted that way. Rich people attitude.

Do you often behave like this? Attempting to justify your rude, crazed reply in this way makes you sound worse, to be honest. Develop some self control and dignity. Your neighbor is probably laughing as she describes each new psycho interaction with her crazy neighbor: do you really want to make yourself into the kind of person people mock and pity? Because that's what is going on here.

[Anonymous]

OP, I think you might have a touch of the 'tox.

Maybe get yourself tested for toxoplasmosis?