Any other high school athletes having a hard time?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People, LAY OFF THE SCIENTIST! JFC, I follow the news, read the newspaper that lands on my driveway every day, subscribe to NYT online (read major news), and I did not fully grasp how bad this would be until all the Clorox wipes and TP were gone at the grocery store. Why? Because I have a 3-sport high school athlete who will probably play in college and I don’t have time to breathe for how busy we are supporting that.

You know what MY DD is most worried about now? HER GRANDPARENTS - 88, 89 and 92. Yes, she is extremely sad to miss all her athletics. Yes, she is working out intensively still. Her whole world is upside down. But in NO way does that compare to a global pandemic!

Scientist, I wish you had been my neighbor or friend in January. God bless you for doing what you do. In the end, ournscientists, doctors, medical workers...along with first-responders and grocery store workers…will be the ones who save us.

18:16 here. We do not live in an 'either or' world. One can be worried about COVID-19 and still lament the impact it has on other areas of our lives. 'Concern' is not a competitive sport nor is it 'winner take all'. I'm sorry it took the loss of Clorox wipes and TP for you to recognize the seriousness of COVID-19 but there remain other disorders/diseases that impact individuals. Acknowledging disappointment and impact they and COVID-19 have on our daily lives does not diminish the seriousness of this event

But, since you seem to want to make this a competition....I am far more worried about the impact of depression on my DD than the impact it may have on her only grandparent. We have a family history of depression with multiple instances of immediate family members dying by suicide. It is far more likely that my DD will die by suicide than she and her surviving grandparent would die of COVID-19 - even though the grandparent and my DH are people who still must interact/treat the public on a daily and intimate basis. They are people you claim are 'the ones who will save us'.

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Agree. Likely fake scientist PP and her possibly fake follower are obnoxious and obviously dismissive of serious mental health issues. I am not remotely worried about college recruiting. I am worried about crippling depression which is held at bay by hard athletics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People, LAY OFF THE SCIENTIST! JFC, I follow the news, read the newspaper that lands on my driveway every day, subscribe to NYT online (read major news), and I did not fully grasp how bad this would be until all the Clorox wipes and TP were gone at the grocery store. Why? Because I have a 3-sport high school athlete who will probably play in college and I don’t have time to breathe for how busy we are supporting that.

You know what MY DD is most worried about now? HER GRANDPARENTS - 88, 89 and 92. Yes, she is extremely sad to miss all her athletics. Yes, she is working out intensively still. Her whole world is upside down. But in NO way does that compare to a global pandemic!

Scientist, I wish you had been my neighbor or friend in January. God bless you for doing what you do. In the end, ournscientists, doctors, medical workers...along with first-responders and grocery store workers…will be the ones who save us.

I'm going to go out a limb and guess you're the same poster as the "scientist," who has since had their post edited to remove that piece. Funny.

My thoughts exactly.

[Anonymous]

Do we really have to qualify our concerns during this situation? Okay, on a scale of one to ten, my concern for my high school athlete is a five. She is susceptible to depression and has no one to work out or play with. She is a devoted three sport athlete and has been obsessing about school since school closed (and she’s already a straight A student). Sports are her way if coping with anxiety.

I’m worried about my kid. Is that okay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do we really have to qualify our concerns during this situation? Okay, on a scale of one to ten, my concern for my high school athlete is a five. She is susceptible to depression and has no one to work out or play with. She is a devoted three sport athlete and has been obsessing about school since school closed (and she’s already a straight A student). Sports are her way if coping with anxiety.

I’m worried about my kid. Is that okay?

It is OK for you to worry your kid. My DS is also a straight A student and also a D1 Power-5 recruited athlete and he is heading to college this fall, maybe. This is a difficult time for everyone. However, instead of complaining and obsessing over things your DD can not control, just make a best of the situation. Have a set of routine and stick to it everyday, including weekends.

My DS uses this opportunity to workout and improve his game for 3 1/2 hours, seven days a week. He is also using this time to improve his guitar, piano, singing and music writing skills 3 1/2 hours, seven days a week. He has been playing music and taking vocal lessons very seriously since the age of five. He didn't practice music as much as he would have liked after he turned 15 because of sport. Because of the pandemic, he has the opportunity to reconnect with music and find out that he loves music just as much as he loves sport.

The pandemic will end eventually. Use this time opportunity to improve your skills and up your game.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DS is a senior and a recruited D1 athlete and the spring season gets cancelled, his last year of high school. Is he disappointed? Heck yes but c'est la vie. Life will go on.

He is using this opportunity to train with his cousin who is currently staying with us and is currently a D1 athlete. He is also spending a lot of time playing guitar, piano and write music.

He spends 3 1/2 hours everyday including Saturday and Sunday, 8:30am-12pm, working out and practicing with his cousin. He also spends 3 1/2 hours everyday including Saturday and Sunday, 2pm-5:30pm, playing piano, guitar and write music on his own because he wants to be like Jack Johnson "banana pancakes". He is making the best of the situation and your athlete should do that as well.

Best of luck to your athlete.

Good for your son! So he’s already accepted and committed to a college?

You are so lucky your nephew is there and plays the same sport. I wish DD had something like this. Playing basowith her dad is getting old

Yes, he accepted and committed at the end of his junior year.

My nephew plays a different sport than my son but they workout and fine tune their skill. I played "heart of life" by John Mayer with my son yesterday with both of us on acoustic guitar. I am so happy that he is using his time wisely during this difficult time.

The pandemic will end eventually and my son will head off to college. His guitar skill will serve him well with the ladies

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do we really have to qualify our concerns during this situation? Okay, on a scale of one to ten, my concern for my high school athlete is a five. She is susceptible to depression and has no one to work out or play with. She is a devoted three sport athlete and has been obsessing about school since school closed (and she’s already a straight A student). Sports are her way if coping with anxiety.

I’m worried about my kid. Is that okay?

It is OK for you to worry your kid. My DS is also a straight A student and also a D1 Power-5 recruited athlete and he is heading to college this fall, maybe. This is a difficult time for everyone. However, instead of complaining and obsessing over things your DD can not control, just make a best of the situation. Have a set of routine and stick to it everyday, including weekends.

My DS uses this opportunity to workout and improve his game for 3 1/2 hours, seven days a week. He is also using this time to improve his guitar, piano, singing and music writing skills 3 1/2 hours, seven days a week. He has been playing music and taking vocal lessons very seriously since the age of five. He didn't practice music as much as he would have liked after he turned 15 because of sport. Because of the pandemic, he has the opportunity to reconnect with music and find out that he loves music just as much as he loves sport.

The pandemic will end eventually. Use this time opportunity to improve your skills and up your game.

You already posted this. You have a college cousin living with you who plays the same sport as your son, right? So they practice together. And your son is a senior and already accepted into his college.

It’s great your son likes music. My DD loves sports and plays three and all summer. She has no one to shoot hoops with and is just a freshman. A good deal younger than your son.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do we really have to qualify our concerns during this situation? Okay, on a scale of one to ten, my concern for my high school athlete is a five. She is susceptible to depression and has no one to work out or play with. She is a devoted three sport athlete and has been obsessing about school since school closed (and she’s already a straight A student). Sports are her way if coping with anxiety.

I’m worried about my kid. Is that okay?

It is OK for you to worry your kid. My DS is also a straight A student and also a D1 Power-5 recruited athlete and he is heading to college this fall, maybe. This is a difficult time for everyone. However, instead of complaining and obsessing over things your DD can not control, just make a best of the situation. Have a set of routine and stick to it everyday, including weekends.

My DS uses this opportunity to workout and improve his game for 3 1/2 hours, seven days a week. He is also using this time to improve his guitar, piano, singing and music writing skills 3 1/2 hours, seven days a week. He has been playing music and taking vocal lessons very seriously since the age of five. He didn't practice music as much as he would have liked after he turned 15 because of sport. Because of the pandemic, he has the opportunity to reconnect with music and find out that he loves music just as much as he loves sport.

The pandemic will end eventually. Use this time opportunity to improve your skills and up your game.

You already posted this. You have a college cousin living with you who plays the same sport as your son, right? So they practice together. And your son is a senior and already accepted into his college.

It’s great your son likes music. My DD loves sports and plays three and all summer. She has no one to shoot hoops with and is just a freshman. A good deal younger than your son.

not my cousin but nephew and they play different sports.

I also have a freshman daughter and she is also a potential D1 recruit. She is a very good tennis player and too good for high school team. Everyday, she goes to a tennis court and practice for three hours. Because she has no one to practice with, she works on her serve, overhead and ground strokes against the tennis ball machine. It is not the same as hitting against another player but she is making the best of the situation.

Your DD should do something similar to that with the hoop. The point I am trying to say is not to get the current situation get her down.

Best of luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do we really have to qualify our concerns during this situation? Okay, on a scale of one to ten, my concern for my high school athlete is a five. She is susceptible to depression and has no one to work out or play with. She is a devoted three sport athlete and has been obsessing about school since school closed (and she’s already a straight A student). Sports are her way if coping with anxiety.

I’m worried about my kid. Is that okay?

It is OK for you to worry your kid. My DS is also a straight A student and also a D1 Power-5 recruited athlete and he is heading to college this fall, maybe. This is a difficult time for everyone. However, instead of complaining and obsessing over things your DD can not control, just make a best of the situation. Have a set of routine and stick to it everyday, including weekends.

My DS uses this opportunity to workout and improve his game for 3 1/2 hours, seven days a week. He is also using this time to improve his guitar, piano, singing and music writing skills 3 1/2 hours, seven days a week. He has been playing music and taking vocal lessons very seriously since the age of five. He didn't practice music as much as he would have liked after he turned 15 because of sport. Because of the pandemic, he has the opportunity to reconnect with music and find out that he loves music just as much as he loves sport.

The pandemic will end eventually. Use this time opportunity to improve your skills and up your game.

18:16 again. The bolded sentence tells me you don't understand depression. It's so easy for you to say 'just' but it's not for someone struggling with depression to 'just' not think of it. If it were 'just' so easy, people wouldn't suffer from depression nor have continuous, unwanted thoughts they can't get rid of. The exercise/practice you describe only takes up 7 hours of a day. There's a lot of left over time and time between practices that are tough to protect from negative thoughts - which is why DD is now on an SSRI. How nice for you that you and your DS can 'just' focus on improving skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do we really have to qualify our concerns during this situation? Okay, on a scale of one to ten, my concern for my high school athlete is a five. She is susceptible to depression and has no one to work out or play with. She is a devoted three sport athlete and has been obsessing about school since school closed (and she’s already a straight A student). Sports are her way if coping with anxiety.

I’m worried about my kid. Is that okay?

It is OK for you to worry your kid. My DS is also a straight A student and also a D1 Power-5 recruited athlete and he is heading to college this fall, maybe. This is a difficult time for everyone. However, instead of complaining and obsessing over things your DD can not control, just make a best of the situation. Have a set of routine and stick to it everyday, including weekends.

My DS uses this opportunity to workout and improve his game for 3 1/2 hours, seven days a week. He is also using this time to improve his guitar, piano, singing and music writing skills 3 1/2 hours, seven days a week. He has been playing music and taking vocal lessons very seriously since the age of five. He didn't practice music as much as he would have liked after he turned 15 because of sport. Because of the pandemic, he has the opportunity to reconnect with music and find out that he loves music just as much as he loves sport.

The pandemic will end eventually. Use this time opportunity to improve your skills and up your game.

18:16 again. The bolded sentence tells me you don't understand depression. It's so easy for you to say 'just' but it's not for someone struggling with depression to 'just' not think of it. If it were 'just' so easy, people wouldn't suffer from depression nor have continuous, unwanted thoughts they can't get rid of. The exercise/practice you describe only takes up 7 hours of a day. There's a lot of left over time and time between practices that are tough to protect from negative thoughts - which is why DD is now on an SSRI. How nice for you that you and your DS can 'just' focus on improving skills.

DP. She is arrogant and has no empathy or basic understanding of mental illness. Not worth listening to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get it because I was once an athlete and a teenager. I get the disappointment. But most of us will come through this. It will pass and your athletes will go on to tournament victories and/or college glory somewhere. They may even gain some empathy for those who really do struggle in this life, those who could never have the opportunities they have. They will be fine.

Kids who are currently juniors that play basketball and baseball very well may not go on to play in college if the key season for their recruitment is cancelled. I guess the "unsigned seniors" basketball events next year will be huge.

NP. I have a lot of sympathy for all high school seniors and juniors right now. It really has put things in perspective. How things we work so hard for are not guaranteed. How dreams are just dreams. Scholarships, recruitment, college sports, which may still be on the table, were also never purpose. I guess the journey was, and I can understand deeply how your kids are missing that...friend time, coach time, affirmations from others, self identity being challenged, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DS is a senior and a recruited D1 athlete and the spring season gets cancelled, his last year of high school. Is he disappointed? Heck yes but c'est la vie. Life will go on.

He is using this opportunity to train with his cousin who is currently staying with us and is currently a D1 athlete. He is also spending a lot of time playing guitar, piano and write music.

He spends 3 1/2 hours everyday including Saturday and Sunday, 8:30am-12pm, working out and practicing with his cousin. He also spends 3 1/2 hours everyday including Saturday and Sunday, 2pm-5:30pm, playing piano, guitar and write music on his own because he wants to be like Jack Johnson "banana pancakes". He is making the best of the situation and your athlete should do that as well.

Best of luck to your athlete.

Good for your son! So he’s already accepted and committed to a college?

You are so lucky your nephew is there and plays the same sport. I wish DD had something like this. Playing basowith her dad is getting old

Yes, he accepted and committed at the end of his junior year.

My nephew plays a different sport than my son but they workout and fine tune their skill. I played "heart of life" by John Mayer with my son yesterday with both of us on acoustic guitar. I am so happy that he is using his time wisely during this difficult time.

The pandemic will end eventually and my son will head off to college. His guitar skill will serve him well with the ladies

Imagine if he was unable to go to tournament to be seen by coaches in his sophomore junior year... it is harder for younger athletes than seniors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do we really have to qualify our concerns during this situation? Okay, on a scale of one to ten, my concern for my high school athlete is a five. She is susceptible to depression and has no one to work out or play with. She is a devoted three sport athlete and has been obsessing about school since school closed (and she’s already a straight A student). Sports are her way if coping with anxiety.

I’m worried about my kid. Is that okay?

It is OK for you to worry your kid. My DS is also a straight A student and also a D1 Power-5 recruited athlete and he is heading to college this fall, maybe. This is a difficult time for everyone. However, instead of complaining and obsessing over things your DD can not control, just make a best of the situation. Have a set of routine and stick to it everyday, including weekends.

My DS uses this opportunity to workout and improve his game for 3 1/2 hours, seven days a week. He is also using this time to improve his guitar, piano, singing and music writing skills 3 1/2 hours, seven days a week. He has been playing music and taking vocal lessons very seriously since the age of five. He didn't practice music as much as he would have liked after he turned 15 because of sport. Because of the pandemic, he has the opportunity to reconnect with music and find out that he loves music just as much as he loves sport.

The pandemic will end eventually. Use this time opportunity to improve your skills and up your game.

18:16 again. The bolded sentence tells me you don't understand depression. It's so easy for you to say 'just' but it's not for someone struggling with depression to 'just' not think of it. If it were 'just' so easy, people wouldn't suffer from depression nor have continuous, unwanted thoughts they can't get rid of. The exercise/practice you describe only takes up 7 hours of a day. There's a lot of left over time and time between practices that are tough to protect from negative thoughts - which is why DD is now on an SSRI. How nice for you that you and your DS can 'just' focus on improving skills.

DP. She is arrogant and has no empathy or basic understanding of mental illness. Not worth listening to.

Her son is already committed... classic... I've got mine stop being a whiner syndrome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DS is a senior and a recruited D1 athlete and the spring season gets cancelled, his last year of high school. Is he disappointed? Heck yes but c'est la vie. Life will go on.

He is using this opportunity to train with his cousin who is currently staying with us and is currently a D1 athlete. He is also spending a lot of time playing guitar, piano and write music.

He spends 3 1/2 hours everyday including Saturday and Sunday, 8:30am-12pm, working out and practicing with his cousin. He also spends 3 1/2 hours everyday including Saturday and Sunday, 2pm-5:30pm, playing piano, guitar and write music on his own because he wants to be like Jack Johnson "banana pancakes". He is making the best of the situation and your athlete should do that as well.

Best of luck to your athlete.

Good for your son! So he’s already accepted and committed to a college?

You are so lucky your nephew is there and plays the same sport. I wish DD had something like this. Playing basowith her dad is getting old

Yes, he accepted and committed at the end of his junior year.

My nephew plays a different sport than my son but they workout and fine tune their skill. I played "heart of life" by John Mayer with my son yesterday with both of us on acoustic guitar. I am so happy that he is using his time wisely during this difficult time.

The pandemic will end eventually and my son will head off to college. His guitar skill will serve him well with the ladies

Imagine if he was unable to go to tournament to be seen by coaches in his sophomore junior year... it is harder for younger athletes than seniors.

That's where I am with my HS junior. We were going to turn to the summer ID camps, but who knows if those will happen. But maybe we'll just play some John Mayer!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another worried parent here. Our senior DS with ADHD combo relies on heavy physical exercise and team camaraderie for his mental and physical health after years of being sidelined with chronic illness. He was also looking forward to playing his sport next year in college.

It's a lifeline for many high school kids.

It’s this. My son is only in middle school but the intensive physical exercise and team keeps him under control the rest of the day more than any ADHD med ever has. He’s struggling mentally right now. Working out on his own and keeping in touch with friends is not the same. I’ve been looking for some type of online virtual training for this age simply to give him something else but haven’t found anything. My other child has the option of virtual dance classes. It’s not the same but she can log in and see people. Now I understand how this is a benefit over watching free YouTube.

[Anonymous]

On a related note, I’ve been hearing that some kinds of student athletic groups are still gathering and practicing but sort of secretly because they are worried about being shut down. High school tennis players and recruits are meeting because they can maintain the 6’ distance rule so they
are continuing to practice and train. Is this ok?