Any other high school athletes having a hard time?

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Everyone is sacrificing something, OP. Some have lost their jobs. Some cannot get important medical treatment. Doctors and nurses are risking their lives.

My teen is missing out on AP prep and may not have his extra time accommodation honored by the College Board, which would significantly lower his score. Small potatoes, compared to what others are going through.

Thanks for the "don't complain, someone else has it worse" scold. No kidding. Plus I'm sure you've never every complained or expressed anxiety about anything, huh?

OP, my DS (HS junior) had his major soccer tournament cancelled where a couple of college coaches had said they were coming to watch him play. He's bummed, I'm bummed. We're moving on to focus on summer ID camps, but not sure if they'll be on either. And it's hard on us as parents since we don't know how to guide them on it.

The reason I'm scolding is that I'm a scientist and saw the writing on the wall in early January, like many of my colleagues. We have been screaming blue murder for months, nobody has listened. And now many thousands of people are going to die.

So instead of whining about small things (you think I don't have my share of small things to complain about? Of course I do), we should be a little more stiff upper lip in the face of the horror that is about to be visited on the USA.

In two weeks, more people on DCUM and in your community will start to die. I don't know if you guys realize that.
It won't be posts about athleticism. It will be posts about people you know, losing their lives.

NP. My DD suffers from depression. The physicality and the camaraderie of sports has been a significant part of her wellness plan. She was injured in December, was in a cast and unable to participate. Despite our best efforts, her mental health took a downturn and she went on an SSRI in addition to therapy. She had just gotten healthy enough to rejoin her team when the pandemic hit. She's able to exercise on her own but without the camaraderie of her team, it's not the same for her. So, yeah, the impact on her as a high school athlete is not a small thing.

Being a 'scientist' doesn't make you the arbiter on how people should feel about this.

+1. And the “scientist” should know this. How we are going to feel has no bearing on how we currently feel.

However there is always one poster on virtually every thread who is so desperate to be recognized that he/she always takes a contrary/superior position.

I’m the OP of this thread and I feel for you and your daughter, PP. I don’t think parents of kids who aren’t in love with sports get it. It’s physical, emotional, and social.

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I get it because I was once an athlete and a teenager. I get the disappointment. But most of us will come through this. It will pass and your athletes will go on to tournament victories and/or college glory somewhere. They may even gain some empathy for those who really do struggle in this life, those who could never have the opportunities they have. They will be fine.

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Anonymous wrote:I get it because I was once an athlete and a teenager. I get the disappointment. But most of us will come through this. It will pass and your athletes will go on to tournament victories and/or college glory somewhere. They may even gain some empathy for those who really do struggle in this life, those who could never have the opportunities they have. They will be fine.

Kids who are currently juniors that play basketball and baseball very well may not go on to play in college if the key season for their recruitment is cancelled. I guess the "unsigned seniors" basketball events next year will be huge.

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It has been so hard to watch how tough this has been on my son and his team. They've all worked so hard and were about to start the spring season.

Sure, as an adult, I hope this is the worst thing we experience in this crisis (b/c we'd be very lucky if that were the case). But as a mom, it's hard to see your kids grapple with their own sense of loss, lack of control and fear.

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My son is a baseball player but is only in 7th grade. he'll just miss a season of middle school ball (meaningless) and travel baseball. i feel horrible for the seniors we know at our high school. Most have been training for spring since Nov and they won't play a single game besides the few scrimmages they got in before the shutdown. All but 1 or 2 will never play formal baseball again (after playing for the past 10-12 years) as they won't play in college.

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Anonymous wrote:My son is a baseball player but is only in 7th grade. he'll just miss a season of middle school ball (meaningless) and travel baseball. i feel horrible for the seniors we know at our high school. Most have been training for spring since Nov and they won't play a single game besides the few scrimmages they got in before the shutdown. All but 1 or 2 will never play formal baseball again (after playing for the past 10-12 years) as they won't play in college.

The "scientist" who scolded for complaining, even while complaining over possible lost extended time on an AP exam--you have got to be kidding me!--knows nothing of being an athlete. I have a senior who is missing last season of HS spors --but not consequential, and a freshman, who has lined up camps to get in front of coaches this summer. They have kept a good attitude so far, but I am with you OP, it stinks! Even my father, who missed an entire year of HS while being treated for tuberculosis in the 1940s, still went on to play college football and has great sympathy for what our teenagers are going through now.

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My DC athlete keeps depression at bay through hard exercise. The last time DC couldn't play due to serious injury, DC slipped into a serious depression that took a long time to alleviate. I am so, so worried.

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Another worried parent here. Our senior DS with ADHD combo relies on heavy physical exercise and team camaraderie for his mental and physical health after years of being sidelined with chronic illness. He was also looking forward to playing his sport next year in college.

It's a lifeline for many high school kids.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter is a junior and plays travel volleyball. The tournaments have been canceled or postponed indefinitely. She’s an athletic recruit and hoping to be rec4uoted to play in college. Not being able to practice or continue is disappearing.

My junior swimmer (and all swimmers) are entirely out of the water. Her official NCAA recruiting trips that were scheduled for April are cancelled. Most likely kicked to Fall now? Or does she just pick the one school she has already done an official visit at and that she thinks will be good with nothing to compare it to? Stressful for all but in the grand scheme of things, these are minor worries. I’m determined to use her free time to develop some new life skills!

Same, but as a parent who never swam, I don't know much about the sport. How long does it take to readjust to your water body after being landlocked for a long time? Have they lost a whole year now?

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My DS is a senior and a recruited D1 athlete and the spring season gets cancelled, his last year of high school. Is he disappointed? Heck yes but c'est la vie. Life will go on.

He is using this opportunity to train with his cousin who is currently staying with us and is currently a D1 athlete. He is also spending a lot of time playing guitar, piano and write music.

He spends 3 1/2 hours everyday including Saturday and Sunday, 8:30am-12pm, working out and practicing with his cousin. He also spends 3 1/2 hours everyday including Saturday and Sunday, 2pm-5:30pm, playing piano, guitar and write music on his own because he wants to be like Jack Johnson "banana pancakes". He is making the best of the situation and your athlete should do that as well.

Best of luck to your athlete.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DS is a senior and a recruited D1 athlete and the spring season gets cancelled, his last year of high school. Is he disappointed? Heck yes but c'est la vie. Life will go on.

He is using this opportunity to train with his cousin who is currently staying with us and is currently a D1 athlete. He is also spending a lot of time playing guitar, piano and write music.

He spends 3 1/2 hours everyday including Saturday and Sunday, 8:30am-12pm, working out and practicing with his cousin. He also spends 3 1/2 hours everyday including Saturday and Sunday, 2pm-5:30pm, playing piano, guitar and write music on his own because he wants to be like Jack Johnson "banana pancakes". He is making the best of the situation and your athlete should do that as well.

Best of luck to your athlete.

Good for your son! So he’s already accepted and committed to a college?

You are so lucky your nephew is there and plays the same sport. I wish DD had something like this. Playing basowith her dad is getting old

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People, LAY OFF THE SCIENTIST! JFC, I follow the news, read the newspaper that lands on my driveway every day, subscribe to NYT online (read major news), and I did not fully grasp how bad this would be until all the Clorox wipes and TP were gone at the grocery store. Why? Because I have a 3-sport high school athlete who will probably play in college and I don’t have time to breathe for how busy we are supporting that.

You know what MY DD is most worried about now? HER GRANDPARENTS - 88, 89 and 92. Yes, she is extremely sad to miss all her athletics. Yes, she is working out intensively still. Her whole world is upside down. But in NO way does that compare to a global pandemic!

Scientist, I wish you had been my neighbor or friend in January. God bless you for doing what you do. In the end, ournscientists, doctors, medical workers...along with first-responders and grocery store workers…will be the ones who save us.

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Anonymous wrote:People, LAY OFF THE SCIENTIST! JFC, I follow the news, read the newspaper that lands on my driveway every day, subscribe to NYT online (read major news), and I did not fully grasp how bad this would be until all the Clorox wipes and TP were gone at the grocery store. Why? Because I have a 3-sport high school athlete who will probably play in college and I don’t have time to breathe for how busy we are supporting that.

You know what MY DD is most worried about now? HER GRANDPARENTS - 88, 89 and 92. Yes, she is extremely sad to miss all her athletics. Yes, she is working out intensively still. Her whole world is upside down. But in NO way does that compare to a global pandemic!

Scientist, I wish you had been my neighbor or friend in January. God bless you for doing what you do. In the end, ournscientists, doctors, medical workers...along with first-responders and grocery store workers…will be the ones who save us.

I'm going to go out a limb and guess you're the same poster as the "scientist," who has since had their post edited to remove that piece. Funny.

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PP here and no, I am not a scientist. Not close to smart enough. Seriously, we can commiserate as parents, it’s completely reasonable for our kids to be very upset about the upheaval in their lives, but this is a worldwide pandemic and that trumps all. Little T on that. Re: the Big T, I am over in the political forum.

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Anonymous wrote:People, LAY OFF THE SCIENTIST! JFC, I follow the news, read the newspaper that lands on my driveway every day, subscribe to NYT online (read major news), and I did not fully grasp how bad this would be until all the Clorox wipes and TP were gone at the grocery store. Why? Because I have a 3-sport high school athlete who will probably play in college and I don’t have time to breathe for how busy we are supporting that.

You know what MY DD is most worried about now? HER GRANDPARENTS - 88, 89 and 92. Yes, she is extremely sad to miss all her athletics. Yes, she is working out intensively still. Her whole world is upside down. But in NO way does that compare to a global pandemic!

Scientist, I wish you had been my neighbor or friend in January. God bless you for doing what you do. In the end, ournscientists, doctors, medical workers...along with first-responders and grocery store workers…will be the ones who save us.

18:16 here. We do not live in an 'either or' world. One can be worried about COVID-19 and still lament the impact it has on other areas of our lives. 'Concern' is not a competitive sport nor is it 'winner take all'. I'm sorry it took the loss of Clorox wipes and TP for you to recognize the seriousness of COVID-19 but there remain other disorders/diseases that impact individuals. Acknowledging disappointment and impact they and COVID-19 have on our daily lives does not diminish the seriousness of this event

But, since you seem to want to make this a competition....I am far more worried about the impact of depression on my DD than the impact it may have on her only grandparent. We have a family history of depression with multiple instances of immediate family members dying by suicide. It is far more likely that my DD will die by suicide than she and her surviving grandparent would die of COVID-19 - even though the grandparent and my DH are people who still must interact/treat the public on a daily and intimate basis. They are people you claim are 'the ones who will save us'.

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