s/o Acceptable to say you're miserable at home with kids, but not that you're enjoying it?

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Anonymous wrote:Personally I feel like it's way more tone deaf to complain about how hard you have it at home with your kids while there is real suffering going on. I'd much rather see people finding joy in the little things then saying how hard they have it - from the comfort of their homes with their families all under one roof.

Well said. I come from a culture where multigenerations live under one roof. I actually wonder if this will shift our social structure so we are less isolated and so child unfriendly. I’m a former FT WOHM (and a breadwinner) and now freelancing (highly paid) so all remote with a much lighter schedule. I see the benefits of a sah parent, though I aspire to always work at some level.

I think it will have the reverse effect, frankly. We will be more isolated.

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I personally am truly grateful to be home with my kids. I have NEVER had this opportunity before. Always been a full time working mom. I'm not saying the virus isn't horrible, but I appreciate every single day of being home and getting to enjoy my own children.

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I'm someone in a challenging situation with this virus. I won't go into details, but this virus is doing terrible things to our family.

Posts about the fun things friends are doing with their kids give me ideas on how to make our situation better, and cheer me up.

Posts that say "I'm so happy this is happening because I get to stay home" or "I think when this is done we'll all be better people. Isn't it wonderful?" I find tone deaf.

Similarly, saying "My 2 year old is driving me nuts, suggestions?" is fine. Saying "The worst thing ever is when . . . " and posting something that is a million years from the worst thing ever is tone deaf.

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Anonymous wrote:I personally am truly grateful to be home with my kids. I have NEVER had this opportunity before. Always been a full time working mom. I'm not saying the virus isn't horrible, but I appreciate every single day of being home and getting to enjoy my own children.

How are you not being forced to telework? I too would enjoy my kids if I got to play instead of working nonstop.

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Anonymous wrote:I personally am truly grateful to be home with my kids. I have NEVER had this opportunity before. Always been a full time working mom. I'm not saying the virus isn't horrible, but I appreciate every single day of being home and getting to enjoy my own children.

How nice for you that you apparently don’t have to still do your full-time job while being home with your kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I personally am truly grateful to be home with my kids. I have NEVER had this opportunity before. Always been a full time working mom. I'm not saying the virus isn't horrible, but I appreciate every single day of being home and getting to enjoy my own children.

How are you not being forced to telework? I too would enjoy my kids if I got to play instead of working nonstop.

I am teleworking. But be honest, you're not at your laptop 8+hrs a day. Even if you were at work, you likely have down time. And now on my breaks, I get to hang out with my favorite humans.

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I think it's ok to be honest about how you are feeling about this.

Right now, work is busy AF and I feel like i'm failing everyone - failing at work, and failing to properly supervise my kid. I have no real idea what she's doing with her time during the day, despite the schedule I put together for her.

I am enjoying the nightly walks with her, and teaching her yoga. It is weird and not terrible that we are not running around between activities. But I'd much rather get back to our usual life.

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Anonymous wrote:I personally am truly grateful to be home with my kids. I have NEVER had this opportunity before. Always been a full time working mom. I'm not saying the virus isn't horrible, but I appreciate every single day of being home and getting to enjoy my own children.

How nice for you that you apparently don’t have to still do your full-time job while being home with your kids.

Case in point. Only misery allowed.

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When life gives you a lemon...

- It's horrible to know so many people are dying. It's frustrating to work remotely (sometimes) and to not be able to travel. It's terrible for the economy and I am very sad because many people will lose their jobs and many companies will not survive.

- It's great to slow down and have more family time. It's great to walk the dog multiple times a day. It's great to see the Italians singing and working out together with their neighbors.
And it's amazing to hear birds instead of cars, to know that the Venice canal's water is clearer and we have much less pollution everywhere. Have you seen the pictures from China? Blue sky!

I am sorry if it offends you, but I can see the beauty in it and I hope some lessons will be learned.

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Anonymous wrote:Because it’s a horrible situation where people are dying, losing their livelihoods and scared. I love being home with my son but I hate the circumstances that caused it and I’m afraid of the future.

So no one is allowed to find any sort of joy right now?

no but keep it to yourself

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Anonymous wrote:No, they just feel bad that some are better at parenting, so obviously they have to lash out.

You are completely tone deaf.

Ha ha. I hit the nail on the head.

Not tone deaf. Just refusing to sugar coat it for you.

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I’m not happy for a pandemic. I’m very sad and anxious about it.

But if we have to be in this situation, I am allowing myself to somewhat enjoy slowing down & having more time together as a family. We were really busy before. Will we learn and do fewer activities when this ends? I don’t know.

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I have found the silver lining. I enjoy it. Spending more time with DD and DH, taking walks every morning and evening, but still being able to get work done while our nanny is here. I am a homebody so I have no desire to go out shoe shopping or whatever. I do wish we could see our local friends and family, but it’s okay.

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Anonymous wrote:Because it’s a horrible situation where people are dying, losing their livelihoods and scared. I love being home with my son but I hate the circumstances that caused it and I’m afraid of the future.

Overall not that many have died.

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Anonymous wrote:No, they just feel bad that some are better at parenting, so obviously they have to lash out.

You are completely tone deaf.

No.

Tone deaf is complaining and crying about how hard it is to be home with your family - And it’s only been 5 days (including the weekend!) People are dying and you’re complaining about watching movies with your toddler, or cooking a meal or two. THAT is tone deaf.

Appreciating the time you have with your children - in the middle of an international crisis - is the opposite of tone deaf.