Is it irresponsible to use daycare if it is open?

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Anonymous wrote:Well I just got back from the playground and I can tell you now there’s no way I am pulling him out entirely. Everyone is out and about. Millennials are partying and having brunch. But I’m supposed to sacrifice? Forget it. He’s not at risk and the school made the decision to stay open, so I am sending him.

Not sure you know how old Millennials are. The oldest millennials are pushing 40.

Yep, Most ppl with kids in daycare are millennials!

Ok and there are also 25 year old millennials- point is there are a lot of people out having brunch and out at the playground with their kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Ours is open but it’s a small in home where she knows no parents have been out of the country. The kids must wash hands on arrival and get their temperature checked regularly. They clean and bleach daily. They work very hard. They are open as they serve some parents who need to work (and not telework).

and when another family pulls a dose and drop and no fever gets detected?

You can get asked to leave this daycare if you are known for pulling this. And there’s no way to do this without being found out.

lol, they do a later drop off and use Children's Motrin with 8 hour relief.

Thanks for the helpful tip. Getting some now.

Good luck finding some.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ours is open but it’s a small in home where she knows no parents have been out of the country. The kids must wash hands on arrival and get their temperature checked regularly. They clean and bleach daily. They work very hard. They are open as they serve some parents who need to work (and not telework).

and when another family pulls a dose and drop and no fever gets detected?

You can get asked to leave this daycare if you are known for pulling this. And there’s no way to do this without being found out.

lol, they do a later drop off and use Children's Motrin with 8 hour relief.

Thanks for the helpful tip. Getting some now.

Good luck finding some.

Painkillers and fever reducers are easy to find here. Toilet paper is gone but all medications are in stock.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are a two parent working family with a 5 yo. DH is a first responder and will need to work. I am a fed with good telework in place already. My coworkers are mostly child free, and my supervisor is older with one grown child. Since we are already mostly remote, the expectation is productivity. Not necessarily 8 hard core hours, but results are expected.
For now, my child’s daycare is open. But is it irresponsible to send him when I could keep him home and do a gliding schedule/split hours, work early, work late etc as others are doing? What are you doing if your daycare is open?

Please keep your child out of daycare.

[Anonymous]

We have a 4 year old and a 22 month old. We plan to send them.

[Anonymous]

Reeks of privilege in here....

I’m sending my kid and paying for her services until/if she decides otherwise. If she closes and I have to pay someone else to watch my kid, then I won’t be paying her. Keeping my kids home and trying to telework
is not realistic (or allowed).

[Anonymous]

There’s no value added if everyone gets sick because you decided you had to send your child to school so you could peacefully telework. You don’t have to do it just because you can.

[Anonymous]

I feel terribly conflicted. Daycare is open but DH doesn’t want to send. We both have to work and I have work from
Home flexibility.

I’m worried I will be fired and not be able to pay bills. I’m worried I’m doing my kid a disservice interrupting school. I’m worried because I have to keep paying so I can’t afford a babysitter.

I’m worried we are going to make it worse by going. That her grandparents will get sick. And others. It is a big center with lots of people in and out. that we will All get sick ourselves.

There is no good answer. I’d feel better if the choice wasn’t there for me. If there was truly a way to say “if you are xyz..then you get service. Everyone else stay home”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel terribly conflicted. Daycare is open but DH doesn’t want to send. We both have to work and I have work from
Home flexibility.

I’m worried I will be fired and not be able to pay bills. I’m worried I’m doing my kid a disservice interrupting school. I’m worried because I have to keep paying so I can’t afford a babysitter.

I’m worried we are going to make it worse by going. That her grandparents will get sick. And others. It is a big center with lots of people in and out. that we will All get sick ourselves.

There is no good answer. I’d feel better if the choice wasn’t there for me. If there was truly a way to say “if you are xyz..then you get service. Everyone else stay home”

There is no way to say that, though, because there are people in what are non-essential roles whose companies are not allowing them to telework or are only allowing them to telework on certain days (meaning they need care for the other days). Some of the banks are working on shifts--meaning they want people to come in for one week then telework the next. Some companies are allowing only x percent telework. Those people don't have essential jobs, but they will LOSE their jobs if they don't have childcare.

[Anonymous]

We (the parents) are working from home, but we are sending our kids to daycare. We told both grandparents they can't see the kids for awhile. We aren't going out anywhere or exposing ourselves to anyone. We will do grocery store pickup. So, in theory, if our kids get it, it hopefully would stop us.

Anonymous wrote:I feel terribly conflicted. Daycare is open but DH doesn’t want to send. We both have to work and I have work from
Home flexibility.

I’m worried I will be fired and not be able to pay bills. I’m worried I’m doing my kid a disservice interrupting school. I’m worried because I have to keep paying so I can’t afford a babysitter.

I’m worried we are going to make it worse by going. That her grandparents will get sick. And others. It is a big center with lots of people in and out. that we will All get sick ourselves.

There is no good answer. I’d feel better if the choice wasn’t there for me. If there was truly a way to say “if you are xyz..then you get service. Everyone else stay home”

[Anonymous]

*stop with us.

Anonymous wrote:We (the parents) are working from home, but we are sending our kids to daycare. We told both grandparents they can't see the kids for awhile. We aren't going out anywhere or exposing ourselves to anyone. We will do grocery store pickup. So, in theory, if our kids get it, it hopefully would stop us.

Anonymous wrote:I feel terribly conflicted. Daycare is open but DH doesn’t want to send. We both have to work and I have work from
Home flexibility.

I’m worried I will be fired and not be able to pay bills. I’m worried I’m doing my kid a disservice interrupting school. I’m worried because I have to keep paying so I can’t afford a babysitter.

I’m worried we are going to make it worse by going. That her grandparents will get sick. And others. It is a big center with lots of people in and out. that we will All get sick ourselves.

There is no good answer. I’d feel better if the choice wasn’t there for me. If there was truly a way to say “if you are xyz..then you get service. Everyone else stay home”

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

The problem is that DCUM handwriging aside, people are still going to send their kids as long as daycare is open. If you are truly facing financial difficulties or job loss, it's a really tough choice knowing that the virus is spreading and will come to you even if you keep your kid home.

[Anonymous]

OP again. I kept kid home bc I didn't want stink eye from the teachers, and also DC has a cough and mega-runny nose. When I emailed the provider to let her know, she said they will be closing tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like a lot of people have a similar dilemma to OP. If daycares are open, most people will send their kid. If they closed daycares and set up certain ones to take kids of emergency personnel it would be so much better for society and help flatten the curve.

What about all the people who are not emergency personnel but have to go in anyway? There's still a lot of those people who aren't allowed to telework. Should we let them lose their jobs?