DH doesn't want me to cut my hair.

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Anonymous wrote:If it’s hip length, I would cut it in stages. Cut it to your bra strap and see how YOU like it. If it’s still too long/much, do as a PP suggested and do a few inches past the shoulder. For the love of God, do not cut yourself a mom bob after having waist length hair. And realize that shoulder length means you can really only do a low ponytail - no decent higher pony or bun. The shorter you go, the fewer options you have (which, I am guessing, is not what you want with little kids).

+1, a bit longer than shoulder is nicer to pull it up

To be honest I am a bit nervous about cutting it, but it really is becoming too much. I like the gradual cutting suggestions.

To the other pps yes it is my hair and ultimately my decision, but I like to take his opinion into account.

I like your honesty, OP AND the fact that you consider your husband's opinion (which is different than letting him make choices for you). Are you any good with any image altering software? I get what PP is saying that your face will be the same but there are tons of options out there and being able to see what they look like on your face/body prior to making the cut can really help you decide which style to choose.

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I had hair to my shoulder blades. When I had a kid I cut it just above the shoulders. So much harder. I couldn’t tie it back like I did before. So I grew it out. Not quite as long as before but definitely below the shoulders.

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A DH here. He's afraid this is step one toward the Karen-cut.

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Anonymous wrote:A DH here. He's afraid this is step one toward the Karen-cut.

Maybe so. However, I haven't seen long hair down to the hip on any woman older than 20 that looks good. Hair that length, especially over 30, looks very much like a Duggar hairstyle. It is aging and out dated on middle aged women and never looks healthy. Hair to your shoulder blades is still long, not a "Karen" cut and will look a million times better.

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Anonymous wrote:OP my DH never wants me to change my hair. But every time I do he goes "oh that is lovely!"

So.

Just do it.

what's he supposed to say? if he doesn't like it, you'll be here complaining. if he says nothing, you'll be here complaining.

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Anonymous wrote:Most men prefer longer hair. Duh.

But your face looks the same with your hair down to your waist or down to your shoulders.

OP, your husband doesn't know anything about this, he just thinks he prefers super long hair.
As somebody sadi - just tell him you'll feel sexier.
I also think it will be prettier. Very long hair weights you down and in most cases it's not the best quality once it passes shoulder blades length.

thanks for telling men what they think, or apparently what they don't know. STFU

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Anonymous wrote:A DH here. He's afraid this is step one toward the Karen-cut.

x a million. then the weight gain. then the wearing of sweatpants all the f'ing time, and of course, the minivan.

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Anonymous wrote:A DH here. He's afraid this is step one toward the Karen-cut.

Maybe so. However, I haven't seen long hair down to the hip on any woman older than 20 that looks good. Hair that length, especially over 30, looks very much like a Duggar hairstyle. It is aging and out dated on middle aged women and never looks healthy. Hair to your shoulder blades is still long, not a "Karen" cut and will look a million times better.

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I have long locs that reach the top of my butt. I've cut about 10 inches before, but they are back to being long again. I mentioned cutting them all off to my boyfriend and while he didn't say anything, the look on his face spoke volumes. He loves my hair, and I do too until I'm laying on it. I will end up doing what I want, but his opinion is important to me as is his level of physical attraction.

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I have always had longer hair and my husband loves it too. When we had little kids I cut it to my bra strap. This was short enough to easily pull up out of the way but long enough for us both to feel like I kept my long hair. Once or twice I have cut it shorter to my shoulders and we both disliked it.

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Anonymous wrote:A DH here. He's afraid this is step one toward the Karen-cut.

x a million. then the weight gain. then the wearing of sweatpants all the f'ing time, and of course, the minivan.

OK, but you men don't realize what a PIA it is to take care of long hair, and the literal weight that comes off your head when you cut it shorter. OP is not getting a bob. A bit past shoulder length is fine.

I have a lot of hair, and yes, DH likes my long hair, but when it's longer, more of it falls out, and there's hair everywhere. Plus, it takes me longer to wash/dry it. When I cut it to shoulder length, I can literally feel the difference in the weight, which makes me feel better. Even my tween DD recently cut her hair really short, and she noticed the difference in weight.

I like my DH to have a bit of longer hair, but he gets really hot when his hair grows out, so he cuts it super short. He is the one who has to deal with how uncomfortable it makes him, so I don't "pout" when he cuts it super short.

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Anonymous wrote:A DH here. He's afraid this is step one toward the Karen-cut.

x a million. then the weight gain. then the wearing of sweatpants all the f'ing time, and of course, the minivan.

The minivan is fine. Frumpy hair, frumpy clothes, and the inevitable sexual disinterest that goes with those things are the problem. Remember that "it's not the nail" video that made the rounds a few years ago? "It's not the hair."

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Anonymous wrote:A DH here. He's afraid this is step one toward the Karen-cut.

x a million. then the weight gain. then the wearing of sweatpants all the f'ing time, and of course, the minivan.

The minivan is fine. Frumpy hair, frumpy clothes, and the inevitable sexual disinterest that goes with those things are the problem. Remember that "it's not the nail" video that made the rounds a few years ago? "It's not the hair."

Well guess what, Dad Bod, you don't look so hot either with your receeding hair line and cargo shorts.

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Part of me feels like, if he likes hair so much he should grow his own but, that's why I'm divorced lol.

Maybe just cut less?

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Anonymous wrote:A DH here. He's afraid this is step one toward the Karen-cut.

Maybe so. However, I haven't seen long hair down to the hip on any woman older than 20 that looks good. Hair that length, especially over 30, looks very much like a Duggar hairstyle. It is aging and out dated on middle aged women and never looks healthy. Hair to your shoulder blades is still long, not a "Karen" cut and will look a million times better.

Exactly. Waist length hair isn't sexy long hair, it's like Sister Wives fundie long hair. Bra strap length is about where most people who like long hair land and that usually looks good, but longer and it looks matronly. Like a Karen cut but if Karen is FLDS.