Should I throw a baby shower for my friend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Assuming she has no baby stuff since kid #1 is 13 yrs old, it would be fine to have a shower. Part of the celebration is having guests chip in and buy you baby items which she clearly needs, no?

If she cannot afford baby she shouldn't be having another kid.

[Anonymous]

Do you want to host?Does she want to have a shower? Then go for it. It can follow any format you want!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is her second baby, her oldest is 13. Should I throw a baby shower for her or would it be considered tacky because it’s her second baby?

No! Baby showers are for FIRST BABY ONLY. NO EXCEPTIONS!

But that is not what even the most normative etiquette sources say. "It’s fine to have a baby shower for a second or third baby. Immediate family and very close friends are usually included, but otherwise choose guests who did not attend a shower for a previous child." https://emilypost.com/advice/top-baby-shower-etiquette-questions/

If you get an invite you can grinch away and not go.

[Anonymous]

Why not ask her how she feels abt it

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I plan to throw a small one for my neighbor who is expecting her 3rd after an 8 year gap. Just the moms from the neighborhood and maybe one or two soccer moms.

Babies are wonderful and should be celebrated! Plus it gives us an excuse to shop in the infant section, a place we haven’t been to in years and buy tiny clothes!

People can still choose to buy if they want, but they shouldn’t be required to via a shower for a second baby.

Then don’t come or come and don’t bring a gift. No one is REQUIRING anything from other adults. How exactly would that even be accomplished?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I personally think it is tacky, especially if she registers. That said, I think you could organize something like a girls night out with the mother to be for dinner, and if people are inclined to do a gift, have them bring a book.

Pro-tip: It’s tacky to tell guests what gift to bring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not tacky. And with a 13 year age gap, she probably has a lot of new friends who weren’t there for the first shower. My oldest is 8 and there were already so many different things when I had my last baby, I can imagine even if she saved things, nothing would meet current safety standards. I would have zero problem going and bringing a gift. If someone doesn’t want to go, they can RSVP no.

I agree with this. I just attended a second baby shower for someone with a much older first child and there was no one there who would have been at the first shower. Everyone was more than happy to attend and it was really fun as most of us hadn't been to a baby shower for a friend in a long time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I certainly wouldn't. I didn't want any for my kids. It's not quite right to celebrate before the birth.

troll

Wow. PP are you not aware that some cultures esp Jewish think it's bad luck to celebrate a baby before it's born?? Some people's traditions is to not even buy anything for the baby.

Not everyone is the same. That doesn't make them a troll.

OP probably would have mentioned if her friend didn't have a baby shower for her first baby because of her religious beliefs, don't you think?

This has nothing to do with the OP. I was responding to the person who called PP a troll b.c they didn't want a shower for an unborn kid