I hate my husband

[Anonymous]

This thread is from 2020. Annoying as f*^k.

[Anonymous]

Anger, rage, or hatred.

Hatred is long simmering, over an extended period of time, like contempt.

Anger is normal. Anger can ve controlled.

Rage is when it gets dangerous.

[Anonymous]

Get a job. Even if you ultimately decide not to divorce, it sounds like you will be much happier with a job of your own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Theres no way around it. I legit have zero feelings of love twds my husband. I am with him still for one reason only- im currently a SAHM, so I cant divorce him until I have a job again. I became a SAHM because during the time that we were having children I moved from place to place with him for his job (and for his undiagnosed ADHD, which probably fueled his inability to stay in one place). I just cant believe that this is how it would all turn out.

What makes you so great OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Theres no way around it. I legit have zero feelings of love twds my husband. I am with him still for one reason only- im currently a SAHM, so I cant divorce him until I have a job again. I became a SAHM because during the time that we were having children I moved from place to place with him for his job (and for his undiagnosed ADHD, which probably fueled his inability to stay in one place). I just cant believe that this is how it would all turn out.

Funny how wives always blame the "ADHD" husband for their unhappiness. I'm pretty sure OP isn't a joy to live with either. Look in the mirror.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do some introspection and figure out what you too contributed to the deterioration of your marriage.

Yeah. She probably forced him to become an alcoholic. 🙄

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s time to get out of the relationship if u r not happy or safe. But start looking for a job first.

typical DCUM thinking. she never said she is not safe, but go ahead and assume.

[Anonymous]

Update, OP? Did you get a job?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update, OP? Did you get a job?

Considering this is a troll post bumped up from 2020...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update, OP? Did you get a job?

Considering this is a troll post bumped up from 2020...

It would be interesting to hear how the happy couple survived the Covid lockdown.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ kudos to you for making it work. It’s a difficult situation to be in and then to get out of. I’m thinking not working is a bad choice in general but what to do if a spouse has a great opportunity for advancement? Either way, it sucks for wives (whether you move and stop working or stay back and likely divorce).

You...figure it out in a way that doesn't screw one of the spouses. I mean, really? People make decisions in the best interests of both parties where one party may be harmed by giving something up but the other party may have been more harmed had they not done so. Who are you women who marry men and then say well he got a job offer so we just moved! Like your opinion doesn't matter at all? Gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Theres no way around it. I legit have zero feelings of love twds my husband. I am with him still for one reason only- im currently a SAHM, so I cant divorce him until I have a job again. I became a SAHM because during the time that we were having children I moved from place to place with him for his job (and for his undiagnosed ADHD, which probably fueled his inability to stay in one place). I just cant believe that this is how it would all turn out.

I will never understand why women don't protect themselves better. If you're going to be a SAHM, fine, but then you should still have your own retirement account, access to all bank accounts and financial records, life insurance on your husband, and possibly a post-nup. I'm not a victim of divorce or a horrible marriage so it's not like I learned this the hard way - it's just common sense!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is from 2020. Annoying as f*^k.

Well, I for one would love to hear if OP is still married and unemployed. I wonder what other posts she had done in the last few years.

[Anonymous]

My ex-husband hated me for no real reason. Once he told me that we decided no matter our financial state it was not worth staying with someone who didn't want me. If you are unhappy you are ethe only person who can get yourself out of that situation.

[Anonymous]

Can you possibly divorce him now & be entitled to alimony?

At least until you can find a job…..