What % of married people cheat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:98% of men are trying to cheat - but can’t find a willing partner

46% of women are cheating with a willing partner.

The other 54% have not realized the power that they have. Smile at a man, and there’s a 98% chance he thinks your into him. It’s why men cheat instead of opening the marriage. They know that any breathing female can get action. Not so for the men.

WHY is this so? Because women, in general, have terribly low sex drive as compared to men. It's that simple.
That other 54% actually DO know they can have sex with practically any random man, thing is they aren't interested.... because.... like I said, women (on average) just are not much into sex. If they were, they would be having lots more sex, and this disparity would not exist.

Is low drive something that women should be proud of or boast about?

[Anonymous]

The GSS is one of the most respected sources of information (I have no idea about this website but they are quoting stats from the GSS). You can see the breakdown of marital infidelity by age.

Bottom line: 15-25% of men, 10-15% of women (roughly). This mirrors some other studies I've seen as well. The nice thing about the GSS is that it covers ALL kinds of economic, social, psychological issues. A lot of the surveys where they conclude that "50% of people cheat" are convenience samples or surveys that bill themselves as surveys about sex. This creates a selection bias because a lot of people who are more promiscuous are more likely to participate in surveys about sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The GSS is one of the most respected sources of information (I have no idea about this website but they are quoting stats from the GSS). You can see the breakdown of marital infidelity by age.

Bottom line: 15-25% of men, 10-15% of women (roughly). This mirrors some other studies I've seen as well. The nice thing about the GSS is that it covers ALL kinds of economic, social, psychological issues. A lot of the surveys where they conclude that "50% of people cheat" are convenience samples or surveys that bill themselves as surveys about sex. This creates a selection bias because a lot of people who are more promiscuous are more likely to participate in surveys about sex

WHoops, link: https://ifstudies.org/blog/who-cheats-more-the-demographics-of-cheating-in-america

[Anonymous]

What constitutes infidelity? That’s the problem. People can cheat in several different ways. Emotionally. Physically (without sex—eg. kissing and fondling). Cyber-sex. Some couples would consider their partner viewing pornography as cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My first google search said 50-60% of men and 40-50% of women cheat. Some as low as 25% and as high as 75% so who knows but from what I have seen 50% seems right. Assume the question is cheating at any point in a marriage and not at one given moment

https://divorce.lovetoknow.com/Rates_of_Divorce_for_Adultery_and_Infidelity

These numbers seem very high.

I can only think of a handful of people I know who cheated on a spouse.

One study found from doing genetic testing that approximately 30% of second/middle children in NON-divorced homes were NOT fathered by the husband to the child's mother. In other words, there is a significant amount of paternity fraud being committed in non-divorced households. Women are just as likely to cheat as men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The GSS is one of the most respected sources of information (I have no idea about this website but they are quoting stats from the GSS). You can see the breakdown of marital infidelity by age.

Bottom line: 15-25% of men, 10-15% of women (roughly). This mirrors some other studies I've seen as well. The nice thing about the GSS is that it covers ALL kinds of economic, social, psychological issues. A lot of the surveys where they conclude that "50% of people cheat" are convenience samples or surveys that bill themselves as surveys about sex. This creates a selection bias because a lot of people who are more promiscuous are more likely to participate in surveys about sex

These sound like more plausible numbers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:98% of men are trying to cheat - but can’t find a willing partner

46% of women are cheating with a willing partner.

The other 54% have not realized the power that they have. Smile at a man, and there’s a 98% chance he thinks your into him. It’s why men cheat instead of opening the marriage. They know that any breathing female can get action. Not so for the men.

WHY is this so? Because women, in general, have terribly low sex drive as compared to men. It's that simple.
That other 54% actually DO know they can have sex with practically any random man, thing is they aren't interested.... because.... like I said, women (on average) just are not much into sex. If they were, they would be having lots more sex, and this disparity would not exist.

Is low drive something that women should be proud of or boast about?

Most married women I know have plenty of sex drive. Just not with their husbands who have given up on themselves and gotten too comfortable.

[Anonymous]

I'm early 40s with a lot of friends and I feel like no one I know is cheating. How are you all finding out this is happening?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My first google search said 50-60% of men and 40-50% of women cheat. Some as low as 25% and as high as 75% so who knows but from what I have seen 50% seems right. Assume the question is cheating at any point in a marriage and not at one given moment

https://divorce.lovetoknow.com/Rates_of_Divorce_for_Adultery_and_Infidelity

These numbers seem very high.

I can only think of a handful of people I know who cheated on a spouse.

One study found from doing genetic testing that approximately 30% of second/middle children in NON-divorced homes were NOT fathered by the husband to the child's mother. In other words, there is a significant amount of paternity fraud being committed in non-divorced households. Women are just as likely to cheat as men.

I find this extremely hard to believe. One out of three second children were not fathered by the spouse? Come on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My first google search said 50-60% of men and 40-50% of women cheat. Some as low as 25% and as high as 75% so who knows but from what I have seen 50% seems right. Assume the question is cheating at any point in a marriage and not at one given moment

https://divorce.lovetoknow.com/Rates_of_Divorce_for_Adultery_and_Infidelity

These numbers seem very high.

I can only think of a handful of people I know who cheated on a spouse.

One study found from doing genetic testing that approximately 30% of second/middle children in NON-divorced homes were NOT fathered by the husband to the child's mother. In other words, there is a significant amount of paternity fraud being committed in non-divorced households. Women are just as likely to cheat as men.

I find this extremely hard to believe. One out of three second children were not fathered by the spouse? Come on.

That's a little high, but I believe it's a significant number. One of my friends actually told me her grown son wasn't her first husbands. I nearly fell down, never would have dreamed she'd do something like that. I have a family member whose girlfriend claimed the child was his. He never did dna, but oddly the kid looks like the guy she was also seeing. He still had to pay child support because he was the "legal father". Everyone should get DNA at birth so people don't get conned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My first google search said 50-60% of men and 40-50% of women cheat. Some as low as 25% and as high as 75% so who knows but from what I have seen 50% seems right. Assume the question is cheating at any point in a marriage and not at one given moment

https://divorce.lovetoknow.com/Rates_of_Divorce_for_Adultery_and_Infidelity

These numbers seem very high.

I can only think of a handful of people I know who cheated on a spouse.

One study found from doing genetic testing that approximately 30% of second/middle children in NON-divorced homes were NOT fathered by the husband to the child's mother. In other words, there is a significant amount of paternity fraud being committed in non-divorced households. Women are just as likely to cheat as men.

That CAN'T be true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm early 40s with a lot of friends and I feel like no one I know is cheating. How are you all finding out this is happening?

+1 I don't know anybody who is cheating ... other than myself. And I have a wide social circle. I don't doubt that it might be happening, but just curious as to the way this information gets around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be surprised if the numbers are that high. We're in our 40s and a LOT of our married friends are having marital problems these days -- couples that for a decade had been solid are now struggling. I blame it on: elementary aged kids that involve a lot of parenting/activities/bdays, the novelty of marriage has slightly wore off and careers are in their peak. Of all of our friends having trouble, no matter how f-d up the marital problems, as far as we know, none of them involved a cheating spouse (and we've spoken in yucky level of detail with a lot of these friends).

My thought is that there are maybe three prime off-ramp period for marriages. First is the starter marriage - a year or two in, probably no kids or real property. Couple just didn't know what they were getting into and bail out. Second is when the youngest kid hits elementary school. During the infant toddler years, there is no real time or energy to notice what's going wrong. Things calm down as the kids are in elementary full time, and you have time to see the wreckage that your marriage has become. Third is when the kids go to college. You've toughed it out for them and you're done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What constitutes infidelity? That’s the problem. People can cheat in several different ways. Emotionally. Physically (without sex—eg. kissing and fondling). Cyber-sex. Some couples would consider their partner viewing pornography as cheating.

I'll just say intentional contact with the genitals and/or kissing for more than 15 seconds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:98% of men are trying to cheat - but can’t find a willing partner

46% of women are cheating with a willing partner.

The other 54% have not realized the power that they have. Smile at a man, and there’s a 98% chance he thinks your into him. It’s why men cheat instead of opening the marriage. They know that any breathing female can get action. Not so for the men.

WHY is this so? Because women, in general, have terribly low sex drive as compared to men. It's that simple.
That other 54% actually DO know they can have sex with practically any random man, thing is they aren't interested.... because.... like I said, women (on average) just are not much into sex. If they were, they would be having lots more sex, and this disparity would not exist.

Is low drive something that women should be proud of or boast about?

Most married women I know have plenty of sex drive. Just not with their husbands who have given up on themselves and gotten too comfortable.

What's interesting about your claim is that the husbands are out beating the odds and finding a partner to cheat with, yet the wives don't even bother saying Yes to the 20 unsolicited offers per day coming their way. This suggests the men can't really be that undesirable (after all, they are finding somebody who wants them) and the women really don't care about sex enough to have any. In other words, while the women you know might CLAIM to have "plenty of sex drive", their actions (or rather inactions) suggest otherwise.