What is your guess on percentage of people who cheat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Realistically I would say at least 51% of married couples cheat.

The other 49% want to - but just don’t get lucky.

That would mean every relationship has one partner cheating?

[Anonymous]

I'm blowing your DH right now!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Right, but the estimates produced by scientific surveys are a hell of a lot better than DCUM guesses.

Over time, they are also pretty good barometers of trends and between group differences.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm blowing your DH right now!

Eh big deal. I blew your cfo and now I’m your boss.

[Anonymous]

All my of Latin male friends raised overseas have done it, including myself.

The one friend that has not admitted it was found visiting his stay at home female neighbor for breakfast and lunch while tele working. Hard to believe she didn’t share his omelette for breakfast.

Now, consensus among all of us guys is that it was a thing in our 30s and none of us is interested in doing it again. Too much drama and we ultimately truly love our families.

Also, We all have been caught by very smart wives...

Number one evidence has been wives setting up iMessage backups to read text messages. It all started with one friend being caught and the methodology used to bust him was shared too all friends. Once by one we went down like a Cold War spy network.

At this point none is us want the drama and are truly regretful of what we did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In our church, it’s pretty close to zero percent.

How about you give me $10 for every percent you are off by?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All my of Latin male friends raised overseas have done it, including myself.

The one friend that has not admitted it was found visiting his stay at home female neighbor for breakfast and lunch while tele working. Hard to believe she didn’t share his omelette for breakfast.

Now, consensus among all of us guys is that it was a thing in our 30s and none of us is interested in doing it again. Too much drama and we ultimately truly love our families.

Also, We all have been caught by very smart wives...

Number one evidence has been wives setting up iMessage backups to read text messages. It all started with one friend being caught and the methodology used to bust him was shared too all friends. Once by one we went down like a Cold War spy network.

At this point none is us want the drama and are truly regretful of what we did.

American born and raised and this mirrors my experience too. Cheating was rampant in our 30s, but seems to have leveled off. Makes you realize that chasing tail is mostly driven by hormones and testosterone and when that calms down so does the chase. Also, agree with PP above, once you have BTDT it really isn't worth the headache.

[Anonymous]

Depends how you define cheating. Full blown affair probably aren't that common, I have seen 25% or so. But one night stands, massage parlors, messing around, at some point over a long marriage, has to be 80% plus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In our church, it’s pretty close to zero percent.

How about you give me $10 for every percent you are off by?

If you attend my church for a few weeks, you have a deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In our church, it’s pretty close to zero percent.

How about you give me $10 for every percent you are off by?

If you attend my church for a few weeks, you have a deal.

This has to be a church of 2 people.

Not to siderail this thread but why on earth do you think religious people are less likely to cheat? This is the group that is most vocal in support of Trump, the most philandering public figure of our time. And the people I know who are most vocal about going to church are the ones who use prostitutes and cheat on conventions.

I am in on this bet!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In our church, it’s pretty close to zero percent.

How about you give me $10 for every percent you are off by?

If you attend my church for a few weeks, you have a deal.

This has to be a church of 2 people.

Not to siderail this thread but why on earth do you think religious people are less likely to cheat? This is the group that is most vocal in support of Trump, the most philandering public figure of our time. And the people I know who are most vocal about going to church are the ones who use prostitutes and cheat on conventions.

I am in on this bet!

Religious people cheat less because of their beliefs. Trump is supposed to be a changed person but who knows. Unlike atheists political beliefs aren't Christianity which are separate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All my of Latin male friends raised overseas have done it, including myself.

The one friend that has not admitted it was found visiting his stay at home female neighbor for breakfast and lunch while tele working. Hard to believe she didn’t share his omelette for breakfast.

Now, consensus among all of us guys is that it was a thing in our 30s and none of us is interested in doing it again. Too much drama and we ultimately truly love our families.

Also, We all have been caught by very smart wives...

Number one evidence has been wives setting up iMessage backups to read text messages. It all started with one friend being caught and the methodology used to bust him was shared too all friends. Once by one we went down like a Cold War spy network.

At this point none is us want the drama and are truly regretful of what we did.

If you weren't caught, would you have continued and not felt guilty, and are you able to stop cheating? I assume that once you get a taste for cheating, it stays with you (dormant sometimes but still can come back later).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband travels for work a lot and I have tons of fantasies about having a fling while he is gone. Totally unrealistic because we have a five year old at home but I semi-obsess with it while he’s gone. We are fairly happily married with not terrible if boring sex life, and I am definitely not interested in divorce ( he is a really good dad). I don’t think I could actually cheat but I wonder how common, particularly for people who keep it secret and stay married, particularly women. FWIW, I am fairly certain he is faithful.

OP, I do not know the % of people that cheat. But, I would wager a $10 bet that you will cheat. It is a very slippery slope.

[Anonymous]

Not sure of the percentage but the recent popularity of DNA kits are showing women cheat at a much higher rate than previously believed

[Anonymous]

Married 20. Traveled extensively on work (20 trips a year) for most of the 20. Never cheated. Couple of times at a strip club with the guys when at one of those “corporate training retreats”. Once a lap dance.

Spouse travels too. Would be surprised if she cheated.