WASHINGTONIAN MAGAZINE - ISO: DIVORCEES

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote::hand goes up: I know tons of middle aged divorced women with kids, most definitely on the prowl, who work full time and get sizable alimony, you interested, OP?

+1, my husband's ex gets life long alimony. She cheated and they were only married 10 years and divorced before age 30. How is that ok?

Oh wow, I most definitely call BS.

Alimony in perpetuity nowadays has to have VERY extenuating circumstances.

They were only married 10 years and she gets alimony in perpetuity???

What exactly was the basis for this?
I'm dying to hear this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote::hand goes up: I know tons of middle aged divorced women with kids, most definitely on the prowl, who work full time and get sizable alimony, you interested, OP?

+1, my husband's ex gets life long alimony. She cheated and they were only married 10 years and divorced before age 30. How is that ok?

Oh wow, I most definitely call BS.

Alimony in perpetuity nowadays has to have VERY extenuating circumstances.

They were only married 10 years and she gets alimony in perpetuity???

What exactly was the basis for this?
I'm dying to hear this.

+1

What was the case law to support this decision?
What state was this in?

Where in God's name can you be married for 10 years, then cheat (which is irrelevant, as courts don't care about infidelity) and then get alimony for 20, 30 or even 40 years longer than the couple was married?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote::hand goes up: I know tons of middle aged divorced women with kids, most definitely on the prowl, who work full time and get sizable alimony, you interested, OP?

+1, my husband's ex gets life long alimony. She cheated and they were only married 10 years and divorced before age 30. How is that ok?

No kids? Did she drop out of college to birth his child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote::hand goes up: I know tons of middle aged divorced women with kids, most definitely on the prowl, who work full time and get sizable alimony, you interested, OP?

+1, my husband's ex gets life long alimony. She cheated and they were only married 10 years and divorced before age 30. How is that ok?

Oh wow, I most definitely call BS.

Alimony in perpetuity nowadays has to have VERY extenuating circumstances.

They were only married 10 years and she gets alimony in perpetuity???

What exactly was the basis for this?
I'm dying to hear this.

+1

What was the case law to support this decision?
What state was this in?

Where in God's name can you be married for 10 years, then cheat (which is irrelevant, as courts don't care about infidelity) and then get alimony for 20, 30 or even 40 years longer than the couple was married?

Actually the courts do care sometimes - in VA, a cheating party (with proof of adultery) is precluded from receiving spousal support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote::hand goes up: I know tons of middle aged divorced women with kids, most definitely on the prowl, who work full time and get sizable alimony, you interested, OP?

+1, my husband's ex gets life long alimony. She cheated and they were only married 10 years and divorced before age 30. How is that ok?

Oh wow, I most definitely call BS.

Alimony in perpetuity nowadays has to have VERY extenuating circumstances.

They were only married 10 years and she gets alimony in perpetuity???

What exactly was the basis for this?
I'm dying to hear this.

No idea.. he got screwed over. Its part of his military pension so he cannot fight it even though she was only with him the 10 years not 20 he was in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote::hand goes up: I know tons of middle aged divorced women with kids, most definitely on the prowl, who work full time and get sizable alimony, you interested, OP?

+1, my husband's ex gets life long alimony. She cheated and they were only married 10 years and divorced before age 30. How is that ok?

No kids? Did she drop out of college to birth his child?

Neither one went to college, she got alimony and child support as well. It happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote::hand goes up: I know tons of middle aged divorced women with kids, most definitely on the prowl, who work full time and get sizable alimony, you interested, OP?

+1, my husband's ex gets life long alimony. She cheated and they were only married 10 years and divorced before age 30. How is that ok?

Oh wow, I most definitely call BS.

Alimony in perpetuity nowadays has to have VERY extenuating circumstances.

They were only married 10 years and she gets alimony in perpetuity???

What exactly was the basis for this?
I'm dying to hear this.

+1

What was the case law to support this decision?
What state was this in?

Where in God's name can you be married for 10 years, then cheat (which is irrelevant, as courts don't care about infidelity) and then get alimony for 20, 30 or even 40 years longer than the couple was married?

Actually the courts do care sometimes - in VA, a cheating party (with proof of adultery) is precluded from receiving spousal support.

Courts don't care if women cheat. They still get custody and child support/alimony.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote::hand goes up: I know tons of middle aged divorced women with kids, most definitely on the prowl, who work full time and get sizable alimony, you interested, OP?

+1, my husband's ex gets life long alimony. She cheated and they were only married 10 years and divorced before age 30. How is that ok?

Oh wow, I most definitely call BS.

Alimony in perpetuity nowadays has to have VERY extenuating circumstances.

They were only married 10 years and she gets alimony in perpetuity???

What exactly was the basis for this?
I'm dying to hear this.

+1

What was the case law to support this decision?
What state was this in?

Where in God's name can you be married for 10 years, then cheat (which is irrelevant, as courts don't care about infidelity) and then get alimony for 20, 30 or even 40 years longer than the couple was married?

until he or she passes, on top of alimony and child support, which thankfully stopped. California

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote::hand goes up: I know tons of middle aged divorced women with kids, most definitely on the prowl, who work full time and get sizable alimony, you interested, OP?

+1, my husband's ex gets life long alimony. She cheated and they were only married 10 years and divorced before age 30. How is that ok?

Oh wow, I most definitely call BS.

Alimony in perpetuity nowadays has to have VERY extenuating circumstances.

They were only married 10 years and she gets alimony in perpetuity???

What exactly was the basis for this?
I'm dying to hear this.

No idea.. he got screwed over. Its part of his military pension so he cannot fight it even though she was only with him the 10 years not 20 he was in.

The federal retirement system is a different thing than court ordered alimony... when on active duty we saw a lot of divorces happen RIGHT before that magic 10 year number (or right after, when the spouse was basically guaranteed a portion of it for life if the service member/federal employee retired out of the federal system). It happens in the federal system as well - we had a good friend who is a Fed employee go through a divorce (no children) and her husband was at fault- she still had to buy him out of her retirement (get him to sign paperwork to waive his rights to half of her retirement). The system definitely needs to be re-looked!

[Anonymous]

Do a story on all the men who are married to high powered women who earn as much or more as them, but have affairs with subordinates because that's literally the only way they know how to feel like men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote::hand goes up: I know tons of middle aged divorced women with kids, most definitely on the prowl, who work full time and get sizable alimony, you interested, OP?

+1, my husband's ex gets life long alimony. She cheated and they were only married 10 years and divorced before age 30. How is that ok?

Oh wow, I most definitely call BS.

Alimony in perpetuity nowadays has to have VERY extenuating circumstances.

They were only married 10 years and she gets alimony in perpetuity???

What exactly was the basis for this?
I'm dying to hear this.

No idea.. he got screwed over. Its part of his military pension so he cannot fight it even though she was only with him the 10 years not 20 he was in.

Pension is not alimony.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ISO DIVORCEES: We're working on a story about high-earning Washingtonian women who've divorced their not-quite-so-high-earning husbands -- and, as a result, wound up paying their male exes alimony or child support. Is this you? Do you think your arrangement is fair, or not? We'd love to know all about your experience. Please email our writer Jessica Goldstein at [e-mail] or tweet her at @jessicagolds (her DMs are open) to learn more about the story. Thank you!

Hasn't this been done already? by your paper exactly:
https://www.washingtonian.com/2019/10/16/female-lawyer-dealing-male-scoundrels-dc-divorce-cases-heather-hostetter/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote::hand goes up: I know tons of middle aged divorced women with kids, most definitely on the prowl, who work full time and get sizable alimony, you interested, OP?

+1, my husband's ex gets life long alimony. She cheated and they were only married 10 years and divorced before age 30. How is that ok?

Oh wow, I most definitely call BS.

Alimony in perpetuity nowadays has to have VERY extenuating circumstances.

They were only married 10 years and she gets alimony in perpetuity???

What exactly was the basis for this?
I'm dying to hear this.

No idea.. he got screwed over. Its part of his military pension so he cannot fight it even though she was only with him the 10 years not 20 he was in.

Pension is not alimony.

Correct but she also alimony for 10 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote::hand goes up: I know tons of middle aged divorced women with kids, most definitely on the prowl, who work full time and get sizable alimony, you interested, OP?

+1, my husband's ex gets life long alimony. She cheated and they were only married 10 years and divorced before age 30. How is that ok?

Oh wow, I most definitely call BS.

Alimony in perpetuity nowadays has to have VERY extenuating circumstances.

They were only married 10 years and she gets alimony in perpetuity???

What exactly was the basis for this?
I'm dying to hear this.

No idea.. he got screwed over. Its part of his military pension so he cannot fight it even though she was only with him the 10 years not 20 he was in.

The federal retirement system is a different thing than court ordered alimony... when on active duty we saw a lot of divorces happen RIGHT before that magic 10 year number (or right after, when the spouse was basically guaranteed a portion of it for life if the service member/federal employee retired out of the federal system). It happens in the federal system as well - we had a good friend who is a Fed employee go through a divorce (no children) and her husband was at fault- she still had to buy him out of her retirement (get him to sign paperwork to waive his rights to half of her retirement). The system definitely needs to be re-looked!

It is reasonable for a spouse who is older, stayed 20 years and supported the career, etc. But a 10 year marriage, under 30 should not get alimony and pension. Plus his social security later on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is was fair for men for 100 years. Why would it NOT be fair for women now?

it was never fair, ...also 100 years ago women did not have work opportunities and had just earned the right to vote.

It’s always fair for a spouse who hobbled their own earning potential to raise a family. If you don’t like it, support your spouse’s career.

Own your decision

Exactly, own your decision to exploit your spouse’s labor in their prime career-building years.