Tween girlfriend hasn’t eaten in 2 days

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And then we have the lovely threads where people look back on their friends' parents ... If it weren't for mrs smith, giving me a place to go and food after school and driving me, Who knows? It pays for itself a thousandfold.

Very grateful for the gently used school uniforms. We did not have laundry facilities or money for the laundromat. Clothes were washed in the bathtub and hung over the shower rod. Having more than one set felt downright luxurious!

Yes. I’m grateful for the friends’ parents who did so much for me: fed me and sent me home with leftovers, got me haircuts, let me do laundry at their homes, gave me a safe place to stay. Not sure I would’ve survived childhood without them.

[Anonymous]

You are nice to order the pizzas and think about this girl. My parents always sent friends home with food. My mom would cook and give them legit overs to take home. Looking back, one of my friends never had meals and they were always making sure she had food.

I would also make sure with your son this is accurate before you worry too much. My kids often declare we have no food in the house when in reality we don’t have the particular food they are wishing for.

[Anonymous]

My mom used to pack an extra lunch for a friend who never had one. It was usually just PB&J, chips, apple, cookie (we were poor ourselves), but when she heard he didn’t have lunch, that was the end of that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son had friend from age two that always asked for food.

He asked for simple things like a tuna sandwich or peanut butter.

He also asked for a bath. We didn't do that.

Just so he wouldn't feel out of place. My son and I planed some baking and cooking for afternoons when this boy came over. I think this helped my son as well, that understanding someone else's struggles, might mean trying to figure out little ways to help.

It was obvious this family was having struggles.

This was a very upper income family. Very sad.

I will be honest I wasn't good about understanding why their house was gross, beyond gross and no car pooling on their end. I always offered to drive. His mom used to drive with infants in her lap, UGH...

This went on through high school. Boys have graduated from college now.YaY. Unfortunately, the boy in questions mom just got charged with a DUI...

Your kids hang out with Britney Spears' kids?

In all seriousness, this is probably sadly similar to Britney's kids' situation where they have a lot of money but the mother has some serious mental health demons to battle and the kids pay the price.

[Anonymous]

I grew up food insecure.

Just order the pizza and grab when it's done tell her she can finish it at home. Don't make a big deal or act overly concerned. You can't fix her situation. She knows that. You can be someone she can count on during particularly lean times. You don't have to tell her that- she will see that.

[Anonymous]

I would find out what other healthy meal foods she likes and invite her during lunch time. My son had a friend who's family was going through hard times. I loved feeding him because he was so appreciative and liked everything I made since I found out what he liked. my son had other friends who were picky and I never invited them for lunch unless I was getting pizza. For this child, it was fun to provide a huger lunch and see the plate was practically licked clean. I was happy to send him off with food too. He made me feel like a good cook!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Plus OP said she knows her family is poor. This thread right here shows why there is a divide in the U.S. Oblivious limousine liberals can't even fathom that a child is hungry and would rather turn their eyes away from it and blame the child!

???? Your Bias is unwarranted.

Perhaps it was unwarranted. In my defense, I spoke with so many high earning educated liberals that had no empathy for anyone or anything. They are liberals on paper, but that's it. No understanding that people face hardships and how prevalent it is, here and anywhere. I have seen poverty that few people in the U.S. can imagine, when I tried to tell them, they did not care at all. I do believe that those that are well off in the U.S. are so isolated from any poverty that even if they see it right in front of them, they will come up with something like "well, he/she can get a job and this is her/his fault." And sadly, I see it more in my liberal wealthy friends. Btw, I am a liberal too, but with a very different background and not rich. Once you have lived where I lived, you develop intolerance for people that call other people "them," or "those people."

What you are describing happens with the wealthy of all political stripes.

[Anonymous]

I grew up poor. When I said I didn't eat in two days I meant I didn't eat a proper meal. So in two days I may have had half a baked potato, a spoon of peanut butter, half an apple, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And then we have the lovely threads where people look back on their friends' parents ... If it weren't for mrs smith, giving me a place to go and food after school and driving me, Who knows? It pays for itself a thousandfold.

Excellent point and a good reminder to always do good when possible.

[Anonymous]

All these posts about parents feeding other people’s hungry kids are very touching. So sad that “farms kids” are considered undesirables by many on this site.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I grew up poor. When I said I didn't eat in two days I meant I didn't eat a proper meal. So in two days I may have had half a baked potato, a spoon of peanut butter, half an apple, etc.

Same. Although there was a few times when I meant no food at all in those few days. Those were rare, thankfully.

I never said no when offered leftovers at a friend’s house. Easiest way: want me fix some to go? We won’t eat all of this.

[Anonymous]

I would directly ask her if she could use a few things and clear out my pantry. We almost always have extra pasta and pancake mix.