DD in MS now wants to dress as a boy (formal as well)- gay question due to texts?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d give her some space to experiment and figure out what is true for herself. I’d be less concerned about conversations with friends, and watch more closely her internet use and see that she doesn’t stumble into odd places where she ends up talking to people she doesn’t know in real life.

Thank you (OP)

Hugs to you, op. Modern day parenting is stupidly hard.

[Anonymous]

Would you rather your kid love themselves and find someone to love them as they are than fake it and end up with a sleaze ball just because that is the “appropriate” sex?

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Anonymous wrote:So- our DD who now is in 8th grade- started dibbling in dressing as a boy like ties and suit for "formal" starting mostly 8th grade. We read some of her Dms and some friends reference being gay or so. DD is not gay- she has had boy crushes (selectively) never any girl romantic interest, - she is "unique" not an outsider, super super smart/gifted- but not a Visco girl which seems to be a big thing in MS. She was the first to dress up for SOOO many occasions since she was very young before this that she made me go back and wear a skirt etc. One of her friends texted her about coming out and how her parents said she was too young and we saw her response as being my parents must know too. I guess I am really trying to maintain my cool but I am not internally.

Serious question: So why do you allow this? For the record, I would not.

DP. What do you mean by 'this'? In the OP, I don't see anything to object to.

PP again. OK, for those of you who need it spelled out for you, I will be more clear:

Serious question: OP, why do you allow your DD in MS to dress as a boy (formal as well)? For the record, I would not.

Does that help you any?

Same homophobe that always comes out in this threads. Go away

How in the world does a mom helping her daughter navigate through a confusion in her life translate in your small world as “homophobia?”

How does forbidding a child from wearing opposite gender clothing help the child through confusion? Imposing a decision on anyone does not help them work through 'confusion'. Forbidding a child to wear clothing because it doesn't conform to their sex certainly seems homophobic. You haven't provided any reasons for doing so.

[Anonymous]

I think you are confusing the OP with a different poster.

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Anonymous wrote:So- our DD who now is in 8th grade- started dibbling in dressing as a boy like ties and suit for "formal" starting mostly 8th grade. We read some of her Dms and some friends reference being gay or so. DD is not gay- she has had boy crushes (selectively) never any girl romantic interest, - she is "unique" not an outsider, super super smart/gifted- but not a Visco girl which seems to be a big thing in MS. She was the first to dress up for SOOO many occasions since she was very young before this that she made me go back and wear a skirt etc. One of her friends texted her about coming out and how her parents said she was too young and we saw her response as being my parents must know too. I guess I am really trying to maintain my cool but I am not internally.

Serious question: So why do you allow this? For the record, I would not.

DP. What do you mean by 'this'? In the OP, I don't see anything to object to.

PP again. OK, for those of you who need it spelled out for you, I will be more clear:

Serious question: OP, why do you allow your DD in MS to dress as a boy (formal as well)? For the record, I would not.

Does that help you any?

Same homophobe that always comes out in this threads. Go away

How in the world does a mom helping her daughter navigate through a confusion in her life translate in your small world as “homophobia?”

The comment was (pretty obviously) not addressed to the mom who started the thread.

[Anonymous]

Tons and tons of MS girls today would describe themselves as bi. Maybe they're really bi. Maybe they haven't figured things out yet and are open to being gay/straight/or bi.

I just say this because it reconciles mom's comment that she's had crushes on boys but seems to be saying she's gay.

Give her space to figure it out--she's young.

[Anonymous]

Eh, I went through a gender bending phase in my teens and adult life too. I wore my father's clothes, men's underwear and suits. Smh. I eventually grew out of it and moved on to the next phase. I just did what I wanted to do. I remember my Dad asking if I was a lesbian and then later to get some dresses so he could have his clothes back. Haha.