Best place to meet men when you're over 30?

[Anonymous]

Lonely_Sojourner wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Lonely_Sojourner wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All my friends are married.

Try the gym. Always lots of men there.

Guy here... Would a woman not find it creepy to be approached at a gym? While I have seen many great-looking ladies at my gym, I have only admired from afar and never pursued such out of respect... Am I too old-school?

I am an attractive woman who would love to be asked out by any of a number of men whom I see (or talk to) regularly at the gym.

I just had a man approach me this week, and we shared a nice conversation.


I congratulate you for having such a positive attitude. Being widowed at 48 and a bit old-fashioned, I'm not sure that is the best venue for me to approach a stranger. Hell, just my luck, I'd approach the wrong lady and she would either report me to management or call the cops!!

[Anonymous]

Church.

[Lonely_Sojourner]

Anonymous wrote:Church.

Thank you for suggesting such, I have explored a bit as I go to an Episcopal Church 1/2x a month. As you may expect, the congregation is comprised of many, many families with very few divorced ladies and the widowers are 10, 20 years my senior. All suggestions welcome...

[Anonymous]

I am an attractive woman who would love to be asked out by any of a number of men whom I see (or talk to) regularly at the gym.

(single guy) What gym is that? Maybe I'll do a drop-in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t like men approaching me at the gym. I’m there to workout.

Agree. Dont

The problem with this advice is that some women, including some responding to this very post, don't mind being approached at the gym. Listening to your advice he could miss out on some opportunities. Given that it can be hard for the OP (or anyone) to know which camp a given woman falls into, the better advice would be to approach a woman if he likes her, but first be friendly and perhaps make small talk first, and be respectful whether she is receptive or rejects you.

[Anonymous]

Very attractive 37 yo woman here. I would love to be approached at the gym. The gym is where health conscious people go, which is important in a match for me. I don’t want the approach to be super aggressive though. Light chatting that leads to number exchange is good. Bottom line is that women differ in opinions on this, you have to be open to rejection.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used match.com last year.

Bars, etc. -- no. I had tried to meet in person--volunteering, etc. But it is really tough because many of the activities have mostly women.

Also, my experience is that these dayssome good men can be afraid to approach women for fear that they are acting like creeps or will be accused of acting inappropriately.

Dating websites/apps have downsides, but lots of plus sides. One plus side is that you know if you meet that way, it is someone at least theoretically interested in meeting someone. Everyone is there for the same reason.

I DREADED online dating, but I ended up really finding it very helpful. I'm a woman in her 40s.

Same here. I've really warmed up to online dating as you know right away that someone's interested. The sooner you meet, the more quickly you can determine if it's worth pursuing further. I've found it to be a great initial screening tool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I am an attractive woman who would love to be asked out by any of a number of men whom I see (or talk to) regularly at the gym.

(single guy) What gym is that? Maybe I'll do a drop-in.

One of the corporate gyms in the city.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t like men approaching me at the gym. I’m there to workout.

Agree. Dont

The problem with this advice is that some women, including some responding to this very post, don't mind being approached at the gym. Listening to your advice he could miss out on some opportunities. Given that it can be hard for the OP (or anyone) to know which camp a given woman falls into, the better advice would be to approach a woman if he likes her, but first be friendly and perhaps make small talk first, and be respectful whether she is receptive or rejects you.

DP. I am a woman who doesn’t like being approached at the gym but I agree with a previous poster that if you have already spoken to someone a few times it’s not a big deal to ask them out.