Should I take this guy back?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you seem to believe you are a less valuable person because you aren’t white. This isn’t true. Don’t get back together with this ex. Work on your career until you are earning an amount that gives you independence and the life you want. Then you’ll be ready to choose a life partner. And it shouldn’t be someone who needs to be in control and who is drawn to someone who doesn’t think highly of herself. Probably your ex is threatened by the high earning, successful woman he is dating so feels more comfortable with you. Your relationship has left you feeling bad about yourself and it hasn’t helped you succeed and be your best self. Once you’ve been out of the relationship longer, you’ll be able to look back and see that it wasn’t good for you.

I definitely don't feel a less valuable person because I'm not white. I love my skin color it's beautiful and my ex thought so too. It's because I'm not rich. Has nothing to do with race at all. My ex is the one who brought up race.

Well he's also only dated the woman 2 months whereas with me it's been a few years so of course he's more comfortable with me. He actually earns much more than she does but she is high maintenance.

He's messy, divulging information about their relationship to you. Run far away.

Exactly. He's playing a game where he gives OP information to make her jealous so they can remain in the jealousy - intimacy dance, and also to triangulate against White Lawyer Chick to sustain intimacy between them. Just a mess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you seem to believe you are a less valuable person because you aren’t white. This isn’t true. Don’t get back together with this ex. Work on your career until you are earning an amount that gives you independence and the life you want. Then you’ll be ready to choose a life partner. And it shouldn’t be someone who needs to be in control and who is drawn to someone who doesn’t think highly of herself. Probably your ex is threatened by the high earning, successful woman he is dating so feels more comfortable with you. Your relationship has left you feeling bad about yourself and it hasn’t helped you succeed and be your best self. Once you’ve been out of the relationship longer, you’ll be able to look back and see that it wasn’t good for you.

I definitely don't feel a less valuable person because I'm not white. I love my skin color it's beautiful and my ex thought so too. It's because I'm not rich. Has nothing to do with race at all. My ex is the one who brought up race.

Well he's also only dated the woman 2 months whereas with me it's been a few years so of course he's more comfortable with me. He actually earns much more than she does but she is high maintenance.

He's messy, divulging information about their relationship to you. Run far away.

Exactly. He's playing a game where he gives OP information to make her jealous so they can remain in the jealousy - intimacy dance, and also to triangulate against White Lawyer Chick to sustain intimacy between them. Just a mess.

But OP is playing games too. She was the one to send him pics that started the phone sex. It's just icky all round.

It sounds like OP is tempted as he has money and she keeps mentioning she is poor. She left him for a reason, keep walking.