Teen doesn’t want to have anyone over as we are too strict

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah..you've only gone halfway. You need to keep him at home and not let him be galavanting about with kids you know to be drinking, vaping and doing pot.

To be honest, in talking to friends with kids at different schools, states, or friend groups, it seems to be pretty pervasive. Not sure we can ground him for two more years

Where are you?

That is NOT prevalent in my neck of the woods (Bethesda, North Bethesda).

I would really crack down.

You have lost your mind. Oh and yes they are have sex also.

Yes, most are doing all of the above by 16-18

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Had some issues with drinking, pot, vaping here and we are clamping down. Now teen says no one wants to come here and he’s out instead. I feel like we are doing the right thing. Aren’t we? 16 fwiw

I don't understand the problem. do you want his pot smoking friends over?

[Anonymous]

The idea that "everyone is doing it" is a crock. It's an Argumentum ad Populum fallacy that is not accurate.

Drug abuse is highest in the 18-20 year old group, and statistics show that in the last month about 22% of them have used illegal drugs, including pot. But just for the sake of argument, let's double that number. 44%. About the same as support Donald Trump. Is "everyone a Trump supporter?" No, just like not everyone is using drugs.

If you are in a place where "everyone is using drugs" you are outslde the mainstream of the US or even the DMV. Time to move.

[Anonymous]

note: the statistic is 22% used drugs in the last month for 18-20

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah..you've only gone halfway. You need to keep him at home and not let him be galavanting about with kids you know to be drinking, vaping and doing pot.

THIS

[Anonymous]

Find some activities for him or a job that keeps him occupied. He needs to get away from his current friends, it sounds like.

[Anonymous]

He is out because he can drink, vape, smoke and get high out. I have no idea where are you strict towards him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah..you've only gone halfway. You need to keep him at home and not let him be galavanting about with kids you know to be drinking, vaping and doing pot.

To be honest, in talking to friends with kids at different schools, states, or friend groups, it seems to be pretty pervasive. Not sure we can ground him for two more years

Where are you?

That is NOT prevalent in my neck of the woods (Bethesda, North Bethesda).

I would really crack down.

Drug use is highest among white, affluent teens. Bethesda is basically the epicenter of that. I'll leave this NIH journal article here for you so you can begin to understand the "I'd rather not send my kids to a w school" crowd.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4358932/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:White people problem!

Yeah, I've heard that black teenagers never have problems with drugs and drinking.

[Anonymous]

My DS graduated from an FCPS school in June. He had friends across many different crowds (theater, band, orchestra, athletes, strivers with 4.4 GPAs), and there was some occasional drinking and weed use among all of these groups by the end of HS. We're not talking binge drinking, stoners, addicts, and drug dealers or "bad" kids. Vaping was very prevalent in his HS (there's a whole thread about it on DCUM). Whatever national stats you dig up on drug use among minors might not reflect the reality of your kid's actual high school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:White people problem!

Yeah, I've heard that black teenagers never have problems with drugs and drinking.

Of course they do, but wealthy white kids have drug addictions at 2-3× the rate of other populations. It's the scourge of my demographic and I face that reality head on instead of pretending it isn't real.

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah..you've only gone halfway. You need to keep him at home and not let him be galavanting about with kids you know to be drinking, vaping and doing pot.

I thought I was the only one who described kids gallivanting about (and if you're gallivanting, you're lookin' for trouble, lol).

Do you also use the phrase "Lighten up, Francis"?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah..you've only gone halfway. You need to keep him at home and not let him be galavanting about with kids you know to be drinking, vaping and doing pot.

To be honest, in talking to friends with kids at different schools, states, or friend groups, it seems to be pretty pervasive. Not sure we can ground him for two more years

Where are you?

That is NOT prevalent in my neck of the woods (Bethesda, North Bethesda).

I would really crack down.

this is the funniest thing I have read on DCUM for a long time. And that is saying something. Vaping is prevalent at the MSs in Bethesda let alone the HSs. Your kid may not be doing these things but many are--even in your nice N Bethesda school-- I promise. (from a BCC mom)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DS graduated from an FCPS school in June. He had friends across many different crowds (theater, band, orchestra, athletes, strivers with 4.4 GPAs), and there was some occasional drinking and weed use among all of these groups by the end of HS. We're not talking binge drinking, stoners, addicts, and drug dealers or "bad" kids. Vaping was very prevalent in his HS (there's a whole thread about it on DCUM). Whatever national stats you dig up on drug use among minors might not reflect the reality of your kid's actual high school.

"strivers with 4.4 GPA?" - this stuff is so poisonous. a kid doing well in school is not a "striver". Back to conversation at hand...