Teen doesn’t want to have anyone over as we are too strict

[Anonymous]

Actually he's clever and manipulative. And you fell for it. You aren't strict at all. In fact, he lost his privileges to "hang out" he's coming home every day instead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Actually he's clever and manipulative. And you fell for it. You aren't strict at all. In fact, he lost his privileges to "hang out" he's coming home every day instead.

I’m not sure I understand this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah..you've only gone halfway. You need to keep him at home and not let him be galavanting about with kids you know to be drinking, vaping and doing pot.

To be honest, in talking to friends with kids at different schools, states, or friend groups, it seems to be pretty pervasive. Not sure we can ground him for two more years

Where are you?

That is NOT prevalent in my neck of the woods (Bethesda, North Bethesda).

I would really crack down.

Ummm yeah it is. Bethesda mom here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same here. Makes me sad but it is what it is. I don't think the other parents allow it as much as they're just oblivious to it. I tend to notice too much.

I think I’m the same. Sorry you’re in similar situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you were not strict enough.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you were not strict enough.

+1

That may be but not sure that’s the point here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you were not strict enough.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you were not strict enough.

I know!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you were not strict enough.

I know!!
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That’s a bit extreme and not remotely similar to this situation. OP is a mom trying to manage a not easy situation with her son. Those of you who are being smug, have not walked in her shoes.

[Anonymous]

White people problem!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Actually he's clever and manipulative. And you fell for it. You aren't strict at all. In fact, he lost his privileges to "hang out" he's coming home every day instead.

What does this mean? Maybe typos?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you are. Sounds like he's been hanging out with a bad crowd. It will take some time to find some new friends. What other activities can you get him involved in besides school - sports, outside clubs/ groups, church youth group, etc?

At 16 >/ is way too late to synthetically engineer a kids social life. He's not all of a sudden going to join Young Life and that become his new circle. He'll be an adult in under 2 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:White people problem!

Huh?

I'm black and this is a common teen problem. You embarrass yourself.

[Anonymous]

I think at 16 you can try to keep communication open, talk to him openly and often about health and legal risks, make sure you know where he is, have a curfew, and set expectations around school work, family participation, etc. it’s pretty normal for teens to hang out where things may be a bit looser or parents more naive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah..you've only gone halfway. You need to keep him at home and not let him be galavanting about with kids you know to be drinking, vaping and doing pot.

To be honest, in talking to friends with kids at different schools, states, or friend groups, it seems to be pretty pervasive. Not sure we can ground him for two more years

Where are you?

That is NOT prevalent in my neck of the woods (Bethesda, North Bethesda).

I would really crack down.

You have lost your mind. Oh and yes they are have sex also.