Child lying and sneaking stuff

[Anonymous]

I stock a draw in my DC's room with snacks. Kids have growth spurts and we have to make sure we are feeding them enough. I also taking my DC for shopping along with me. This has helped DC shop healthy and being a kid, indulge sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Stop buying snacks. Don’t hide them simply don’t buy them. Will save you money . Win win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it sounds like an eating disorder. I did stuff like that when I was that age and I still have to fight urges to binge all the snacks and junk food. I wish I’d had a therapist to talk to when I was young, since it’s not a fun cycle to be in.

I agree. I did the same when I had bulimia (I also had poorly managed adhd and Bulimia is much more common among adhd girls).

[Anonymous]

Food insecurity or Eating disorder

For kids with food insecurity it’s usually best to place healthy snacks in a place where they can get it, and let them know “this is your snack shelf feel free to grab whatever, whenever.”

But if you’re hiding snacks this doesn’t help with food insecurity one bit.

Both situations need therapy.

[Anonymous]

You already know she has ADHD and HFA.
This is what ADHD looks like for some kids.

You really need to not ask her questions you already know the answer to, and you should post on the kids with special needs board.

When you hear hoofbeats behind you, don't expect to see a zebra. There is no evidence this is disordered eating when your dd already has a dx of ADHD

[Anonymous]

Pennywoloz wrote:I have a 12 year old girl and she is constantly getting into snacks. For instance yesterday I went grocery shopping and bought groceries for the week and I forgot to hide the snacks when I got home. I went to get ready for bed and noticed one of the snack boxes open and the whole box is gone. I look in her room and under her bed are all the wrappers. She was already asleep, so I asked her about it this morning and she literally looked at me and said that she didn't do it. This happens all the time. If I don't lock up the snacks, she'll get into them. And she is not snack deprived. She gets a snack to take to school, one after school, and one before bed. I don't know if this means anything to what she is doing, but she does have high functioning autism and ADHD.
Please no bashing. I don't know what to do anymore.

First problem is that you should not have bought any snack at all. She is impaired because of her autism. As a parent, you have to model better behavior. Learn to cook healthy meals and involve her. You need to step up a bit more than what you are doing now. Give her back the control and that means teaching her to cook or assemble healthy meals. For example - teach her to eat an apple with some plain yogurt. Take a celery stick and out a teaspoon of peanut butter and raisins on it. There is so much you can teach her.

[Anonymous]

I did this and I don't have autism or ADHD. I do continue to struggle as an adult with binge eating and weight management.

[Anonymous]

Let her eat snacks and stop locking snacks.
But, other than that it is ADHD, impulsive eating and no control over it, and lying too. My DD did not lie about eating, bcs I did not hide anything ever, and she does not have a weight issues, but she would binge at night after her meds wore off. Even without meds, she woul be great all day, not that I controlled any eating, and then at night it wuld become a binge. Still working on it with a therapist. It turned into an eating disorder.

[Anonymous]

My adhd DD, got ants in her room and her bed a couple of times.We had a houskeeper then, daily, and I her room was cleaned daily. It was in a hotter climate, and ants were not unusual. But, whywere they all over dd and her bed at night? Bcs she would sneak candy and choholate to her bed and leave the crumbs everywher, and guess ants could not resist that? She was 9 then.

[Anonymous]

Are you the pp that wrote on some thread that her kids need to ask her if they can have a snack?

[Anonymous]

Folks, this thread is almost year old. OP is long gone.

[Anonymous]

My 11-12 year old ate a lot. Non stop. In sit down restaurants she would eat an appetizer, two full kids meals, all her brothers leftovers, sometimes some of mine.

This lasted 2 years or so and is tapering off now at 13. But she ate an exorbitant amount of food. You need to let kids eat when they're hungry. Just buy decently healthy food (some to high nutritious value). Dd ate a costco size bag of pistachios every 3-4 days. She ate ribs for breakfast. A whole watermelon in 24 hours. On and on. Tons of big meals and lots of food.

I used to lie about and sneak food and my parents did one snack too. I was starvingly hungry a lot of the time.