Infertility-Sensitive/HAES-Friendly OB-GYN?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I have a primary care doc that does my annual exams, Pap smears, etc. If I had a regular OB-GYN, I wouldn’t have posted this question.

As for getting treatment for my anxiety? 1. I have, thanks. 2. Good luck finding someone who’s been through infertility treatments who isn’t anxious. 3. It can take MONTHS to get a new patient appointment with an OB. I don’t think that it’s too early to start doing research. 4. If you don’t have any actual helpful advice, you can take your condescension elsewhere.

You know that OBs and Gynecologists are not the same thing, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I have a primary care doc that does my annual exams, Pap smears, etc. If I had a regular OB-GYN, I wouldn’t have posted this question.

As for getting treatment for my anxiety? 1. I have, thanks. 2. Good luck finding someone who’s been through infertility treatments who isn’t anxious. 3. It can take MONTHS to get a new patient appointment with an OB. I don’t think that it’s too early to start doing research. 4. If you don’t have any actual helpful advice, you can take your condescension elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I have a primary care doc that does my annual exams, Pap smears, etc. If I had a regular OB-GYN, I wouldn’t have posted this question.

As for getting treatment for my anxiety? 1. I have, thanks. 2. Good luck finding someone who’s been through infertility treatments who isn’t anxious. 3. It can take MONTHS to get a new patient appointment with an OB. I don’t think that it’s too early to start doing research. 4. If you don’t have any actual helpful advice, you can take your condescension elsewhere.

As someone who has BTDT, I am offering advice. Have you had a transfer before? There is a lot involved just surrounding that ... natural vs. medicated FET, timing, nursese, etc. It may not work on the first try (it took 3 for me). Thinking ahead to an OB may be setting yourself up for a lot of disappointment. IVF is a long game most of the time. My advice to you is to take it one step at a time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:...my advice, as a woman who went through IVF to conceive and delivered at 37, is to consider either a small OBGYN practice or a hospital-based group of CNMs (not sure of the availability of that at Sibley, but I thought VHC had practicing midwives). I had tremendous amounts of anxiety related to being pregnant via IVF, and it hit me unexpectedly. I think I was so aware of all the things that could go wrong, I couldn't focus on all the things that were going right. I started out in a very large practice, and I felt like I was basically just a number to them. From my experience (limited anecdata, I know), the smaller OB practices and groups of CNMs are better able to take the time to answer questions, allay fears, etc.

AFAIK, and I've been out of the doula game for a few years now so I may be wrong, Sibley has not given any midwife privileges. They are strictly an OB hospital.

[Anonymous]

I was a plus size ftm of ama. I delivered at Sibley with Capitol Women’s Care k street. Dr Schichor was my primary doctor but I did rotate through them all. I felt really well cared for and never lectured or made to feel bad for my size or my age.

I conceived naturally so I can’t speak to the IVF side of things.

[Anonymous]

i would wait till i get a positive home pregnancy test (or the one with the RE - aren't you supposed to be with them till 8 weeks or so) to schedule an appointment with obgyn. i seen no point whatsoever in preconception appointment and most of them will think you are crazy for doing it, if they even agree to do schedule it. you need to understand that your preconception appointment happens 10 minutes after they just delivered twin via emergency c section and before they are going to deliver additional baby or two. they have multiple mothers who just delivered resting in their rooms, and yes, at that moment, they all matter more than you do.

that said, i recommend virginia physicians for women (dr elliott). i was ama, overweight with IUI conceived baby and they accepted me mid-pregnancy with no issues (i moved from another city). they are very experienced and know what they are doing (they are at VHC). you will be seeing all 4 doctors during your pregnancy and they have different personalities. a one or two might tell you too keep your weight in check.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i would wait till i get a positive home pregnancy test (or the one with the RE - aren't you supposed to be with them till 8 weeks or so) to schedule an appointment with obgyn. i seen no point whatsoever in preconception appointment and most of them will think you are crazy for doing it, if they even agree to do schedule it. you need to understand that your preconception appointment happens 10 minutes after they just delivered twin via emergency c section and before they are going to deliver additional baby or two. they have multiple mothers who just delivered resting in their rooms, and yes, at that moment, they all matter more than you do.

that said, i recommend virginia physicians for women (dr elliott). i was ama, overweight with IUI conceived baby and they accepted me mid-pregnancy with no issues (i moved from another city). they are very experienced and know what they are doing (they are at VHC). you will be seeing all 4 doctors during your pregnancy and they have different personalities. a one or two might tell you too keep your weight in check.

You clearly don’t understand how OBs work. They don’t go from L and D to outpatient visits and then back. They don’t delivery babies in between seeing patients there for annuals, paps, UTIs, preconception visits, or pregnant women there for their x week check up. A preconception appointment is not something they will think you are crazy for - it’s a billable medical visit and it’s a good idea for anyone who is expecting to discuss individual health conditions, risks, etc. and also to establish care with a new OB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i would wait till i get a positive home pregnancy test (or the one with the RE - aren't you supposed to be with them till 8 weeks or so) to schedule an appointment with obgyn. i seen no point whatsoever in preconception appointment and most of them will think you are crazy for doing it, if they even agree to do schedule it. you need to understand that your preconception appointment happens 10 minutes after they just delivered twin via emergency c section and before they are going to deliver additional baby or two. they have multiple mothers who just delivered resting in their rooms, and yes, at that moment, they all matter more than you do.

that said, i recommend virginia physicians for women (dr elliott). i was ama, overweight with IUI conceived baby and they accepted me mid-pregnancy with no issues (i moved from another city). they are very experienced and know what they are doing (they are at VHC). you will be seeing all 4 doctors during your pregnancy and they have different personalities. a one or two might tell you too keep your weight in check.

You clearly don’t understand how OBs work. They don’t go from L and D to outpatient visits and then back. They don’t delivery babies in between seeing patients there for annuals, paps, UTIs, preconception visits, or pregnant women there for their x week check up. A preconception appointment is not something they will think you are crazy for - it’s a billable medical visit and it’s a good idea for anyone who is expecting to discuss individual health conditions, risks, etc. and also to establish care with a new OB.

+1, completely agree!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i would wait till i get a positive home pregnancy test (or the one with the RE - aren't you supposed to be with them till 8 weeks or so) to schedule an appointment with obgyn. i seen no point whatsoever in preconception appointment and most of them will think you are crazy for doing it, if they even agree to do schedule it. you need to understand that your preconception appointment happens 10 minutes after they just delivered twin via emergency c section and before they are going to deliver additional baby or two. they have multiple mothers who just delivered resting in their rooms, and yes, at that moment, they all matter more than you do.

that said, i recommend virginia physicians for women (dr elliott). i was ama, overweight with IUI conceived baby and they accepted me mid-pregnancy with no issues (i moved from another city). they are very experienced and know what they are doing (they are at VHC). you will be seeing all 4 doctors during your pregnancy and they have different personalities. a one or two might tell you too keep your weight in check.

Oh for Pete's sake- do you think she'll be seen in the labor and delivery floor of a hospital while the on call OBs deliver babies? Have you never been on an OBGYN before?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i would wait till i get a positive home pregnancy test (or the one with the RE - aren't you supposed to be with them till 8 weeks or so) to schedule an appointment with obgyn. i seen no point whatsoever in preconception appointment and most of them will think you are crazy for doing it, if they even agree to do schedule it. you need to understand that your preconception appointment happens 10 minutes after they just delivered twin via emergency c section and before they are going to deliver additional baby or two. they have multiple mothers who just delivered resting in their rooms, and yes, at that moment, they all matter more than you do.

that said, i recommend virginia physicians for women (dr elliott). i was ama, overweight with IUI conceived baby and they accepted me mid-pregnancy with no issues (i moved from another city). they are very experienced and know what they are doing (they are at VHC). you will be seeing all 4 doctors during your pregnancy and they have different personalities. a one or two might tell you too keep your weight in check.

You clearly don’t understand how OBs work. They don’t go from L and D to outpatient visits and then back. They don’t delivery babies in between seeing patients there for annuals, paps, UTIs, preconception visits, or pregnant women there for their x week check up. A preconception appointment is not something they will think you are crazy for - it’s a billable medical visit and it’s a good idea for anyone who is expecting to discuss individual health conditions, risks, etc. and also to establish care with a new OB.

+1, completely agree!

+2, nothing wrong with a preconception visit! Having care already established with an OB makes it easier to get on the schedule when you call to set up the first prenatal appointment, too.

[Anonymous]

I was 36 and 38.5yrs old for my 2 deliveries with GW Midwives. First child was IVF, second spontaneous. Despite my BMI of 28-30 and the midwives hardcore reputation, I felt safe and cared for and was never shamed about my weight.

I had 2 births without pain meds - something important enough to me to put up with the lackluster GW experience after delivery.

I love the GW midwives, hate GW, and love my doula Cara Crowe for helping me with pre-delivery anxiety for my 2nd labor.

[Anonymous]

Dr. Pardo at Foxhall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i would wait till i get a positive home pregnancy test (or the one with the RE - aren't you supposed to be with them till 8 weeks or so) to schedule an appointment with obgyn. i seen no point whatsoever in preconception appointment and most of them will think you are crazy for doing it, if they even agree to do schedule it. you need to understand that your preconception appointment happens 10 minutes after they just delivered twin via emergency c section and before they are going to deliver additional baby or two. they have multiple mothers who just delivered resting in their rooms, and yes, at that moment, they all matter more than you do.

that said, i recommend virginia physicians for women (dr elliott). i was ama, overweight with IUI conceived baby and they accepted me mid-pregnancy with no issues (i moved from another city). they are very experienced and know what they are doing (they are at VHC). you will be seeing all 4 doctors during your pregnancy and they have different personalities. a one or two might tell you too keep your weight in check.

You clearly don’t understand how OBs work. They don’t go from L and D to outpatient visits and then back. They don’t delivery babies in between seeing patients there for annuals, paps, UTIs, preconception visits, or pregnant women there for their x week check up. A preconception appointment is not something they will think you are crazy for - it’s a billable medical visit and it’s a good idea for anyone who is expecting to discuss individual health conditions, risks, etc. and also to establish care with a new OB.

my obgyn work exactly as i described (they are literally next door to l&d) and those are the ones I am recommending.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i would wait till i get a positive home pregnancy test (or the one with the RE - aren't you supposed to be with them till 8 weeks or so) to schedule an appointment with obgyn. i seen no point whatsoever in preconception appointment and most of them will think you are crazy for doing it, if they even agree to do schedule it. you need to understand that your preconception appointment happens 10 minutes after they just delivered twin via emergency c section and before they are going to deliver additional baby or two. they have multiple mothers who just delivered resting in their rooms, and yes, at that moment, they all matter more than you do.

that said, i recommend virginia physicians for women (dr elliott). i was ama, overweight with IUI conceived baby and they accepted me mid-pregnancy with no issues (i moved from another city). they are very experienced and know what they are doing (they are at VHC). you will be seeing all 4 doctors during your pregnancy and they have different personalities. a one or two might tell you too keep your weight in check.

You clearly don’t understand how OBs work. They don’t go from L and D to outpatient visits and then back. They don’t delivery babies in between seeing patients there for annuals, paps, UTIs, preconception visits, or pregnant women there for their x week check up. A preconception appointment is not something they will think you are crazy for - it’s a billable medical visit and it’s a good idea for anyone who is expecting to discuss individual health conditions, risks, etc. and also to establish care with a new OB.

my obgyn work exactly as i described (they are literally next door to l&d) and those are the ones I am recommending.

Which practice? This is totally atypical and I know for a fact that GW, WHC, Georgetown, Sibley, and Inova do NOT operate this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i would wait till i get a positive home pregnancy test (or the one with the RE - aren't you supposed to be with them till 8 weeks or so) to schedule an appointment with obgyn. i seen no point whatsoever in preconception appointment and most of them will think you are crazy for doing it, if they even agree to do schedule it. you need to understand that your preconception appointment happens 10 minutes after they just delivered twin via emergency c section and before they are going to deliver additional baby or two. they have multiple mothers who just delivered resting in their rooms, and yes, at that moment, they all matter more than you do.

that said, i recommend virginia physicians for women (dr elliott). i was ama, overweight with IUI conceived baby and they accepted me mid-pregnancy with no issues (i moved from another city). they are very experienced and know what they are doing (they are at VHC). you will be seeing all 4 doctors during your pregnancy and they have different personalities. a one or two might tell you too keep your weight in check.

You clearly don’t understand how OBs work. They don’t go from L and D to outpatient visits and then back. They don’t delivery babies in between seeing patients there for annuals, paps, UTIs, preconception visits, or pregnant women there for their x week check up. A preconception appointment is not something they will think you are crazy for - it’s a billable medical visit and it’s a good idea for anyone who is expecting to discuss individual health conditions, risks, etc. and also to establish care with a new OB.

my obgyn work exactly as i described (they are literally next door to l&d) and those are the ones I am recommending.

Absolutely no OB does this. You don't see patients while you're ON CALL for births. That is insane.