My kid dislikes my good friends' kid

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I've definitely stopped being friends with people whose kids socially rejected my kids in K. Teaching and encouraging ostracizing behavior is not cool.

That being said, it all comes down to what the "mean" behavior actually is. Kids that age are stupid. You're the adult. Find out what "mean" actually means before making the situation worse. The boy may be mean but so might the girl and so might neither. Descriptive adjectives are not a 6 year olds strongsuit. Trust but verify.[/]
you stopped
Being friends
With adults because your kids not get along in kindergarten?

Parents whose kids socially ostracized mine

Parent friends not long-standing preexisting friendships. It just seemed a waste of time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't get involved with your daughter's management of her school social life.

By the way, kids who don't appear nice are actually vulnerable to bullying. What to a 1st grader appears as "not nice" can actually be lack of social skills. Then the other kids are mean back, and it becomes a downward spiral.

Ultimately, if you're more interested in judging this kid and his parents than being supportive, probably best to just fade the friendship.

Why is it often left up to the nice kids, and the parents of nice kids, to bend over backwards for the not nice kids? There frequently (not always) seems to be a correlation between the kids with behavior problems and the entitled parents who are full of excuses for them.

There is never an excuse to be unkind to someone. But my child does not have to go out of her way to befriend another child who isn’t nice, especially if/when the dynamic is a nice girl and a badly behaved boy. I will not teach my daughter that she has to excuse the behavior, or try to rationalize it, or put his comfort above her own.

Way to miss the point, which is that what other kids call "not nice" can actually be a lack of social skills or social oddness, which then creates more isolation and bullying of the "not nice" kid. Newsflash - kids don't get bullied because they appear nice and socially in step. They get bullied because they seem vulnerable, odd, or out-of-step, which can appear or be called "not nice."

But yeah, if you want to get on your high horse about your "nice" kid, then you should probably not try to stay friends with the "not nice" kid's parents.

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