At what age did you stop doing hand me downs?

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Anonymous wrote:I have a 7yo DD. Its interesting to me what some have said about girls at school wearing older brothers hand me downs. DD only wants boy style clothing and likes it looser fitting. So now im wondering if other parents assume she has an older brother and is wearing his stuff.

The same way men’s clothing and women’s clothing is different, so are Girl and boy clothes. DH and I may wear the same colors and may even look like we match but the cuts are different.

I posted above how my boys wear the hand me downs but my daughter doesn’t. This may also have to do with age gap and we gave much away. Baby toddler cutesy stuff and elementary clothing styles are different.

A boy would look odd wearing a unicorn shirt or jeggings. Girls don’t normally wear cargo pants or baggy shorts that come down to their knees. And not all styles for girls have to be tight or short. I think this is style. I know I used to love to wear sweats that are kind of loose and comfortable. It is hard to find a good pair of sweatpants for myself. Most of my athleisure is very tight fitting.

Men and women have actual differences in body shape and proportions. Up until at least age 10-12, boys and girls do not. So why the different cuts? And who cares if people think a kid is wearing hand me downs? PP, I honestly don’t give any thought to what other people’s little lids are wearing unless it’s so far outside the norm you can’t help but notice. Let your kid wear what she likes, whether it’s “boyish” or not.
I thought people around here were progressive, gender doesn’t matter, etc?

Seriously. I'm increasingly thankful to live in a super progressive area where nobody bats an eye at a girl in cargo shorts or a boy in a sparkly t shirt.

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Do you have any friends with older kids who would be willing to hand down their daughters' stuff? My stepmom sends my daughter a ton of stuff and some of it never even gets worn. My daughter grows out of everything fast, so I put everything decent in a box and pass it on to another family we know. (the dad is a single dad and doesn't make much money, so I think it helps to not spend a lot on clothes.) The daughter can go through the stuff, pick out what she likes and give back or donate the rest.

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Toddler clothing is cheap. Get her girl clothing.

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I’m pro-hand me down - my 8 yo DD still wears anything from her 11 yo sister that is in good condition - but even I wouldn’t make a girl wear boy clothes except for maybe buying black snow pants/snow boots and handing those down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a 7yo DD. Its interesting to me what some have said about girls at school wearing older brothers hand me downs. DD only wants boy style clothing and likes it looser fitting. So now im wondering if other parents assume she has an older brother and is wearing his stuff.

The same way men’s clothing and women’s clothing is different, so are Girl and boy clothes. DH and I may wear the same colors and may even look like we match but the cuts are different.

I posted above how my boys wear the hand me downs but my daughter doesn’t. This may also have to do with age gap and we gave much away. Baby toddler cutesy stuff and elementary clothing styles are different.

A boy would look odd wearing a unicorn shirt or jeggings. Girls don’t normally wear cargo pants or baggy shorts that come down to their knees. And not all styles for girls have to be tight or short. I think this is style. I know I used to love to wear sweats that are kind of loose and comfortable. It is hard to find a good pair of sweatpants for myself. Most of my athleisure is very tight fitting.

Men and women have actual differences in body shape and proportions. Up until at least age 10-12, boys and girls do not. So why the different cuts? And who cares if people think a kid is wearing hand me downs? PP, I honestly don’t give any thought to what other people’s little lids are wearing unless it’s so far outside the norm you can’t help but notice. Let your kid wear what she likes, whether it’s “boyish” or not.
I thought people around here were progressive, gender doesn’t matter, etc?

Seriously. I'm increasingly thankful to live in a super progressive area where nobody bats an eye at a girl in cargo shorts or a boy in a sparkly t shirt.

I’m from nyc and I don’t remember boys wearing sparkly shirts but you do you.

The gay couples we know aren’t flashy and their boys wear boy clothes and their girls wear girls’ clothes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have any friends with older kids who would be willing to hand down their daughters' stuff? My stepmom sends my daughter a ton of stuff and some of it never even gets worn. My daughter grows out of everything fast, so I put everything decent in a box and pass it on to another family we know. (the dad is a single dad and doesn't make much money, so I think it helps to not spend a lot on clothes.) The daughter can go through the stuff, pick out what she likes and give back or donate the rest.

We're part of a hand me down syndicate, where we get clothes for both kids. Some is free, some is pretty cheap. I buy both DS and DD whatever they else they need. I really like the Cat & Jack brand stuff - affordable and some of it is neutral. I got DD pink shorts from the boys section because they were longer.

-OP

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Anonymous wrote:If this were the reverse, you'd never ask your son to wear his older sister's clothes. As soon as she has an opinion, and assuming you can afford new clothes, go buy her some.

False in our house. My DD, 8, hates girl shorts. She wants athletic shorts, whatever brand, but won’t wear the girl ones that are cut so short and mostly seem to come with pink stripes. Her typical outfit is a t shirt and athletic shorts in the spring/summer/early fall. I pass down all the shorts and many of the shirts to DS, 4. DD has also always chosen pjs from the boy section because again, the girl ones tend to have ballet slippers and crowns and say princess. She likes the space, dinosaur, crab, fish, whatever themes from the boy section. 4 year old is in a pair of orange pjs with blue crabs as I type that were once DD’s. Cleats, snowsuits, snow boots, I pass all that down to the little one. He was, in fact, delighted this past winter as the boots happened to have purple trim and purple is his favorite color.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this were the reverse, you'd never ask your son to wear his older sister's clothes. As soon as she has an opinion, and assuming you can afford new clothes, go buy her some.

False in our house. My DD, 8, hates girl shorts. She wants athletic shorts, whatever brand, but won’t wear the girl ones that are cut so short and mostly seem to come with pink stripes. Her typical outfit is a t shirt and athletic shorts in the spring/summer/early fall. I pass down all the shorts and many of the shirts to DS, 4. DD has also always chosen pjs from the boy section because again, the girl ones tend to have ballet slippers and crowns and say princess. She likes the space, dinosaur, crab, fish, whatever themes from the boy section. 4 year old is in a pair of orange pjs with blue crabs as I type that were once DD’s. Cleats, snowsuits, snow boots, I pass all that down to the little one. He was, in fact, delighted this past winter as the boots happened to have purple trim and purple is his favorite color.

This is so weird. No wonder teenagers these days are confused.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this were the reverse, you'd never ask your son to wear his older sister's clothes. As soon as she has an opinion, and assuming you can afford new clothes, go buy her some.

False in our house. My DD, 8, hates girl shorts. She wants athletic shorts, whatever brand, but won’t wear the girl ones that are cut so short and mostly seem to come with pink stripes. Her typical outfit is a t shirt and athletic shorts in the spring/summer/early fall. I pass down all the shorts and many of the shirts to DS, 4. DD has also always chosen pjs from the boy section because again, the girl ones tend to have ballet slippers and crowns and say princess. She likes the space, dinosaur, crab, fish, whatever themes from the boy section. 4 year old is in a pair of orange pjs with blue crabs as I type that were once DD’s. Cleats, snowsuits, snow boots, I pass all that down to the little one. He was, in fact, delighted this past winter as the boots happened to have purple trim and purple is his favorite color.

Carters and Target seem to have caught on to the idea that girls don't all want ballet and princess themed outfits. You can get pink dinosaurs and astronauts. I would settle for just dinosaurs and different thing and skip the pink, but it's better than nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this were the reverse, you'd never ask your son to wear his older sister's clothes. As soon as she has an opinion, and assuming you can afford new clothes, go buy her some.

False in our house. My DD, 8, hates girl shorts. She wants athletic shorts, whatever brand, but won’t wear the girl ones that are cut so short and mostly seem to come with pink stripes. Her typical outfit is a t shirt and athletic shorts in the spring/summer/early fall. I pass down all the shorts and many of the shirts to DS, 4. DD has also always chosen pjs from the boy section because again, the girl ones tend to have ballet slippers and crowns and say princess. She likes the space, dinosaur, crab, fish, whatever themes from the boy section. 4 year old is in a pair of orange pjs with blue crabs as I type that were once DD’s. Cleats, snowsuits, snow boots, I pass all that down to the little one. He was, in fact, delighted this past winter as the boots happened to have purple trim and purple is his favorite color.

Carters and Target seem to have caught on to the idea that girls don't all want ballet and princess themed outfits. You can get pink dinosaurs and astronauts. I would settle for just dinosaurs and different thing and skip the pink, but it's better than nothing.

Or how about solids and normal patterns (stripes, plaid, etc.) and we skip the princesses and dinosaurs all together? I don’t buy my girls boys clothing but I don’t buy them the crap being described on here either. All of these stores (target, old navy, Gap, Carter’s, etc.) have tasteful items if you look carefully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this were the reverse, you'd never ask your son to wear his older sister's clothes. As soon as she has an opinion, and assuming you can afford new clothes, go buy her some.

False in our house. My DD, 8, hates girl shorts. She wants athletic shorts, whatever brand, but won’t wear the girl ones that are cut so short and mostly seem to come with pink stripes. Her typical outfit is a t shirt and athletic shorts in the spring/summer/early fall. I pass down all the shorts and many of the shirts to DS, 4. DD has also always chosen pjs from the boy section because again, the girl ones tend to have ballet slippers and crowns and say princess. She likes the space, dinosaur, crab, fish, whatever themes from the boy section. 4 year old is in a pair of orange pjs with blue crabs as I type that were once DD’s. Cleats, snowsuits, snow boots, I pass all that down to the little one. He was, in fact, delighted this past winter as the boots happened to have purple trim and purple is his favorite color.

This is so weird. No wonder teenagers these days are confused.

My daughter will be a confused teenager because she doesn’t like pink princess themed stuff and is uncomfortable wearing short shorts? Or because she prefers dinosaurs and space to ballet? Or my son will be confused because at 3 and 4 he really likes purple and wore black snow boots with purple trim the two times it snowed last winter? Or is it the passing down of t shirts? Because as far as I can tell, a Pokémon t shirt or a t shirt from their elementary school is pretty much the same regardless of whether you are a boy or a girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a 7yo DD. Its interesting to me what some have said about girls at school wearing older brothers hand me downs. DD only wants boy style clothing and likes it looser fitting. So now im wondering if other parents assume she has an older brother and is wearing his stuff.

The same way men’s clothing and women’s clothing is different, so are Girl and boy clothes. DH and I may wear the same colors and may even look like we match but the cuts are different.

I posted above how my boys wear the hand me downs but my daughter doesn’t. This may also have to do with age gap and we gave much away. Baby toddler cutesy stuff and elementary clothing styles are different.

A boy would look odd wearing a unicorn shirt or jeggings. Girls don’t normally wear cargo pants or baggy shorts that come down to their knees. And not all styles for girls have to be tight or short. I think this is style. I know I used to love to wear sweats that are kind of loose and comfortable. It is hard to find a good pair of sweatpants for myself. Most of my athleisure is very tight fitting.

Men and women have actual differences in body shape and proportions. Up until at least age 10-12, boys and girls do not. So why the different cuts? And who cares if people think a kid is wearing hand me downs? PP, I honestly don’t give any thought to what other people’s little lids are wearing unless it’s so far outside the norm you can’t help but notice. Let your kid wear what she likes, whether it’s “boyish” or not.
I thought people around here were progressive, gender doesn’t matter, etc?

Seriously. I'm increasingly thankful to live in a super progressive area where nobody bats an eye at a girl in cargo shorts or a boy in a sparkly t shirt.

I’m from nyc and I don’t remember boys wearing sparkly shirts but you do you.

The gay couples we know aren’t flashy and their boys wear boy clothes and their girls wear girls’ clothes.

Times have changed and perhaps you are from a more conservative neighborhood than mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a 7yo DD. Its interesting to me what some have said about girls at school wearing older brothers hand me downs. DD only wants boy style clothing and likes it looser fitting. So now im wondering if other parents assume she has an older brother and is wearing his stuff.

The same way men’s clothing and women’s clothing is different, so are Girl and boy clothes. DH and I may wear the same colors and may even look like we match but the cuts are different.

I posted above how my boys wear the hand me downs but my daughter doesn’t. This may also have to do with age gap and we gave much away. Baby toddler cutesy stuff and elementary clothing styles are different.

A boy would look odd wearing a unicorn shirt or jeggings. Girls don’t normally wear cargo pants or baggy shorts that come down to their knees. And not all styles for girls have to be tight or short. I think this is style. I know I used to love to wear sweats that are kind of loose and comfortable. It is hard to find a good pair of sweatpants for myself. Most of my athleisure is very tight fitting.

Men and women have actual differences in body shape and proportions. Up until at least age 10-12, boys and girls do not. So why the different cuts? And who cares if people think a kid is wearing hand me downs? PP, I honestly don’t give any thought to what other people’s little lids are wearing unless it’s so far outside the norm you can’t help but notice. Let your kid wear what she likes, whether it’s “boyish” or not.
I thought people around here were progressive, gender doesn’t matter, etc?

Seriously. I'm increasingly thankful to live in a super progressive area where nobody bats an eye at a girl in cargo shorts or a boy in a sparkly t shirt.

I’m from nyc and I don’t remember boys wearing sparkly shirts but you do you.

The gay couples we know aren’t flashy and their boys wear boy clothes and their girls wear girls’ clothes.

Times have changed and perhaps you are from a more conservative neighborhood than mine.

Exactly, the whole "you do you" line speaks to how far we've come, even if it's dished out with a side of snark.

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Anonymous wrote:If this were the reverse, you'd never ask your son to wear his older sister's clothes. As soon as she has an opinion, and assuming you can afford new clothes, go buy her some.

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