New TD at BSC

[Anonymous]

McLean's culture is nothing like Bethesda's. There are families that drive past Bethesda on the way to McLean because of the culture. Bethesda parents are way too involved. People wear the fact that their daughter made the Bethesda team as a badge of honor even though Bethesda is probably near the bottom of the elite soccer clubs. The club is no where near McLean or FCV in terms of national caliber teams.see

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:McLean's culture is nothing like Bethesda's. There are families that drive past Bethesda on the way to McLean because of the culture. Bethesda parents are way too involved. People wear the fact that their daughter made the Bethesda team as a badge of honor even though Bethesda is probably near the bottom of the elite soccer clubs. The club is no where near McLean or FCV in terms of national caliber teams.see

Stroke

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:McLean's culture is nothing like Bethesda's. There are families that drive past Bethesda on the way to McLean because of the culture. Bethesda parents are way too involved. People wear the fact that their daughter made the Bethesda team as a badge of honor even though Bethesda is probably near the bottom of the elite soccer clubs. The club is no where near McLean or FCV in terms of national caliber teams.see

Stroke

7-10 years ago, Bethesda was a top girls club. I never understood how they lost Ellis Pierre. And, during that time Clyde was coaching on the girls side in Bethesda, right before he jumped to Mclean with his legendary Freedom team that had followed him. I don't think clubs can really compete by getting someone as accomplished as Clyde. They will have to wait until he hangs it up to compete on that front. He's a superb coach of players and coach of coaches.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:BSC reminds me of a joke I once heard about Buenos Aires that goes something like the following: "Argentina would be a great country if not for the Argentinians."

Apply the same concept to Bethesda and the parents and you'll hit 80% of the clubs problems and why Shannon left -- The parents are the problem and Shannon was not able to manage them.

I heard that the MRM Rush parents didn't even want to join the club because of how whinny the BSC parents are.

Managing parents is part of the job unfortunately, and I agree it’s not an easy task at Bethesda.

Managing the parents is directly done by the coach not the TD, unless the coach is so bad that the parents would go directly to the TD to complain.

A good coach would set the team and individual player expectations with the parents.

Lol at the bolded. You think a good coach will always lead to happy parents? That's just not the way it works. I have seen many, many situations where a good coach does a good job of setting expectations with players and parents, but parents still go ballistic when the coach fails to give the kid the playing time the parent thinks they deserve. These parents will go straight to the TD to complain and try to get the coach reassigned or their kid moved up. TDs absolutely need to be able to figure out how to support their good coaches and intervene with struggling coaches while trying to get parents to stay calm and stay invested in the program.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BSC reminds me of a joke I once heard about Buenos Aires that goes something like the following: "Argentina would be a great country if not for the Argentinians."

Apply the same concept to Bethesda and the parents and you'll hit 80% of the clubs problems and why Shannon left -- The parents are the problem and Shannon was not able to manage them.

I heard that the MRM Rush parents didn't even want to join the club because of how whinny the BSC parents are.

Managing parents is part of the job unfortunately, and I agree it’s not an easy task at Bethesda.

Managing the parents is directly done by the coach not the TD, unless the coach is so bad that the parents would go directly to the TD to complain.

A good coach would set the team and individual player expectations with the parents.

Lol at the bolded. You think a good coach will always lead to happy parents? That's just not the way it works. I have seen many, many situations where a good coach does a good job of setting expectations with players and parents, but parents still go ballistic when the coach fails to give the kid the playing time the parent thinks they deserve. These parents will go straight to the TD to complain and try to get the coach reassigned or their kid moved up. TDs absolutely need to be able to figure out how to support their good coaches and intervene with struggling coaches while trying to get parents to stay calm and stay invested in the program.

I'm the PP. You have a good point. I was thinking as a rational parent and not as a BSC parent. LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BSC reminds me of a joke I once heard about Buenos Aires that goes something like the following: "Argentina would be a great country if not for the Argentinians."

Apply the same concept to Bethesda and the parents and you'll hit 80% of the clubs problems and why Shannon left -- The parents are the problem and Shannon was not able to manage them.

I heard that the MRM Rush parents didn't even want to join the club because of how whinny the BSC parents are.

Managing parents is part of the job unfortunately, and I agree it’s not an easy task at Bethesda.

Managing the parents is directly done by the coach not the TD, unless the coach is so bad that the parents would go directly to the TD to complain.

A good coach would set the team and individual player expectations with the parents.

Lol at the bolded. You think a good coach will always lead to happy parents? That's just not the way it works. I have seen many, many situations where a good coach does a good job of setting expectations with players and parents, but parents still go ballistic when the coach fails to give the kid the playing time the parent thinks they deserve. These parents will go straight to the TD to complain and try to get the coach reassigned or their kid moved up. TDs absolutely need to be able to figure out how to support their good coaches and intervene with struggling coaches while trying to get parents to stay calm and stay invested in the program.

I'm the PP. You have a good point. I was thinking as a rational parent and not as a BSC parent. LOL

Just as on the DCUM soccer forum, the girls' parents at BSC seem to be much more high-strung/crazier than the boys' parents. I wonder if Colton knows what he's getting into.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BSC reminds me of a joke I once heard about Buenos Aires that goes something like the following: "Argentina would be a great country if not for the Argentinians."

Apply the same concept to Bethesda and the parents and you'll hit 80% of the clubs problems and why Shannon left -- The parents are the problem and Shannon was not able to manage them.

I heard that the MRM Rush parents didn't even want to join the club because of how whinny the BSC parents are.

Managing parents is part of the job unfortunately, and I agree it’s not an easy task at Bethesda.

Managing the parents is directly done by the coach not the TD, unless the coach is so bad that the parents would go directly to the TD to complain.

A good coach would set the team and individual player expectations with the parents.

Lol at the bolded. You think a good coach will always lead to happy parents? That's just not the way it works. I have seen many, many situations where a good coach does a good job of setting expectations with players and parents, but parents still go ballistic when the coach fails to give the kid the playing time the parent thinks they deserve. These parents will go straight to the TD to complain and try to get the coach reassigned or their kid moved up. TDs absolutely need to be able to figure out how to support their good coaches and intervene with struggling coaches while trying to get parents to stay calm and stay invested in the program.

I'm the PP. You have a good point. I was thinking as a rational parent and not as a BSC parent. LOL

It happens in many more places in the DMV not just BSC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:BSC reminds me of a joke I once heard about Buenos Aires that goes something like the following: "Argentina would be a great country if not for the Argentinians."

Apply the same concept to Bethesda and the parents and you'll hit 80% of the clubs problems and why Shannon left -- The parents are the problem and Shannon was not able to manage them.

I heard that the MRM Rush parents didn't even want to join the club because of how whinny the BSC parents are.

haha. there are problem parents at EVERY club. EVERY CLUB.

And you heard they didnt want to join the club huh? WTF are you talking about. it didnt work that way bud

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It happens in many more places in the DMV not just BSC.

It's like the story of the person hiking across the world. He would come to a village that would be welcoming and friendly, but the people there would warn "beware of the next village. They are all criminals over there".

The next day he warily arrived at the new village, and the people there were warm and welcoming. When he explained he had come from the other town, and the residents said "oh my god, you are lucky to get out of there alive. They are all criminals over there"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It happens in many more places in the DMV not just BSC.

It's like the story of the person hiking across the world. He would come to a village that would be welcoming and friendly, but the people there would warn "beware of the next village. They are all criminals over there".

The next day he warily arrived at the new village, and the people there were warm and welcoming. When he explained he had come from the other town, and the residents said "oh my god, you are lucky to get out of there alive. They are all criminals over there"

So the moral of your story is that all Clubs seem warm and welcoming but they are all criminals and take your money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It happens in many more places in the DMV not just BSC.

It's like the story of the person hiking across the world. He would come to a village that would be welcoming and friendly, but the people there would warn "beware of the next village. They are all criminals over there".

The next day he warily arrived at the new village, and the people there were warm and welcoming. When he explained he had come from the other town, and the residents said "oh my god, you are lucky to get out of there alive. They are all criminals over there"

So the moral of your story is that all Clubs seem warm and welcoming but they are all criminals and take your money.

There's some true wisdom on this thread today.

[Anonymous]

I don~t disagree but any parents who knows BSC and other clubs knows how crazy the BSC parents are. The culture of entitlement is insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don~t disagree but any parents who knows BSC and other clubs knows how crazy the BSC parents are. The culture of entitlement is insane.

Ive always thought that of the northern virginia clubs...so....

[Anonymous]

I thought the BOYS side was the one with the crazy overzealous parents...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought the BOYS side was the one with the crazy overzealous parents...

The boys' side for sure has some crazy, overzealous parents. It's just that there are a lot more on the girls' side.