Kind of freaking out—talk me down!

[Anonymous]

My DH travels frequently for work. Wth do you think people like me do?

[Anonymous]

You don't have any friends in close proximity that you can call? No other parents at daycare? No coworkers?
You're parenting one or more kids and you have no community where you live?

Is this really what we've become as a society???
I am really sad.

[Anonymous]

911

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH travels frequently for work. Wth do you think people like me do?

I think that’s the question. Can you answer, or only offer useless snark? What DO you do?

[Anonymous]

I had a medical emergency when we moved to a new city. I only had "acquaintances" at that point and it was super, super stressful to ask for help with my kids. Even non-friends were happy to help until family could arrive. I made it a point to cultivate more of a network after that. This won't help in a near-term trip for your husband, but you really need to make friends and create some community. Over to help other moms. Invite kids over for playdates. Get involved in a church or synagogue. If you don't have reliable family nearby, you need to create your own village.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should make a deliberate effort to become a bit more self-reliant OP. It's okay to have some anxiety; it's another thing if you're freaking out over normal parenting. You're the adult here and there's really no reason why you can't manage your children without your husband's presence no matter what emergency might arise.

This. Do it once or twice a year and see that the world doesn’t fall apart even if your house is a bit messy. I do this everyday and I couldn’t live like the way you are describing. Get AAA and call them if you break down. I think it might be $75/year.

[Anonymous]

OP, this seems normal to me.

You have your parents in town, so you are used to relying on them for emergencies.

With them out of town you suddenly realize you need more back up.

A normal reaction to the situation.

People who have helpful parents in town don't usually need to develop an extensive network because they have that family connection. Those of us who start out without parents around need to work more to build up our "village".