Husband ignores my wishes

[Anonymous]

Look up gaslighting, hoovering, love bombing and narcissistic abuse. Then move the F out.

[Anonymous]

And no, I do,not agree you have to be the one to move out. You want to stay, pack his crap and tell him he's out. It won't be pretty, but stick to your guns!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Long story short, we have had an extremely rough year. Lots of arguments and back and forth. Last Sunday, I told him in a very calm way it is probably for the best if he looked for a place to live and moved out. He did not disagree with me (but to be fair he didn't say he was going to either). Since then he has been acting like everything is fine and normal. He calls me "babe" in his texts, gave me a hug goodnight, etc. This is a problem that contributed to where we are. He simply ignores that anything is wrong and wants me to just "be happy" and "get along" and "be lighthearted." How the hell do you just ignore that your wife told you that it's over and that you need to go?

if it's over you can go. Why does he have to go?

[Anonymous]

I'm really confused as to why you feel so entitled? What on earth makes you feel that you can demand that he move out? Girl, you must have tripped and bumped your head.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps if you are serious about the demise of your marriage, you should move out.

For various reasons I can't do that and he knows it. It's not a matter of who would move out. It's a matter of him ignoring the very serious problems we have.

Why not? what are your reasons?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm really confused as to why you feel so entitled? What on earth makes you feel that you can demand that he move out? Girl, you must have tripped and bumped your head.

Because I own the place where we live. I owned it before we got married and will continue to own it if and when we divorce. He knows that and does dispute that he is the one that needs to move. My question wasn’t about the logistic, but about him completely ignoring a very serious problem we have and acting like everything is normal and well.

[Anonymous]

Sit him down in a way he cannot avoid. Ask him what his plan is for moving out. You need to give him a definitive date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm really confused as to why you feel so entitled? What on earth makes you feel that you can demand that he move out? Girl, you must have tripped and bumped your head.

Because I own the place where we live. I owned it before we got married and will continue to own it if and when we divorce. He knows that and does dispute that he is the one that needs to move. My question wasn’t about the logistic, but about him completely ignoring a very serious problem we have and acting like everything is normal and well.

Have you seen a lawyer yet? Filed for divorce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm really confused as to why you feel so entitled? What on earth makes you feel that you can demand that he move out? Girl, you must have tripped and bumped your head.

Because I own the place where we live. I owned it before we got married and will continue to own it if and when we divorce. He knows that and does dispute that he is the one that needs to move. My question wasn’t about the logistic, but about him completely ignoring a very serious problem we have and acting like everything is normal and well.

Have you seen a lawyer yet? Filed for divorce?

Obviously I have not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sit him down in a way he cannot avoid. Ask him what his plan is for moving out. You need to give him a definitive date.

I will do that this weekend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sit him down in a way he cannot avoid. Ask him what his plan is for moving out. You need to give him a definitive date.

I will do that this weekend.

You people are crazy. It’s as much his house as hers. Based on the facts, she has no right to demand he leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sit him down in a way he cannot avoid. Ask him what his plan is for moving out. You need to give him a definitive date.

I will do that this weekend.

You people are crazy. It’s as much his house as hers. Based on the facts, she has no right to demand he leave.

Wishes are not facts either

[Anonymous]

Talk to your lawyer first. Then talk with your husband again.

[Anonymous]

Even though you own the property, you are married and your joint income has presumably gone toward the mortgage so it’s not that black and white. You need to see a lawyer and he is smart not to capitulate to you. Whether you like it or not he has rights too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm really confused as to why you feel so entitled? What on earth makes you feel that you can demand that he move out? Girl, you must have tripped and bumped your head.

Because I own the place where we live. I owned it before we got married and will continue to own it if and when we divorce. He knows that and does dispute that he is the one that needs to move. My question wasn’t about the logistic, but about him completely ignoring a very serious problem we have and acting like everything is normal and well.

Have you seen a lawyer yet? Filed for divorce?

Obviously I have not.