Friend ignoring bday wishes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The astrology post seems like vaguebooking to me, and that's always dramatic behavior. If temporary, then forgive. If a pattern, run.

This is the only useful post in this thread.

I once had an ex give me a lecture about why celebrating birthdays is wrong (for religious reasons). When I didn't wish him happy birthday two weeks later, he pitched an almighty fit and pouted for the whole day. Drama queens love drama. Don't feed it.

Plus, by now you should be old enough to know that 99.999999% of what you see on social media should be ignored for the attention whoring that it is.

[Anonymous]

She went off line for a day for her birthday and when she got back on her phone she didn't want to spend an hour saying thanks to every.single.text.

Her post was sarcasm.

You sound high maintenance.

[Anonymous]

She sounds young and possibly regretting not being in 20s anymore. Relax people. It was a joke.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that’s a hilarious comment!

I find the culture of FB birthday wishes very tedious. Am I supposed to like each one? Is it okay to just do a single thank you. Do I need to wait a certain number of days before I can stop thanking individual belated wishes?

On my birthday I try to avoid FB for a week before and a week after ... I don't care for most people's facebook birthday wishes. I took my birthdate off FB, actually, but some people still remember (and those I do appreciate) but then there are the hanger-on-ers saying happy birthday who don't actually remember my birthday. Not that I'm mad at them ... but I really only appreciate the happy birthdays from the people who remembered.

All personal messages, texts, phone calls, and emails deserve a response, though.

But whatever. I wouldn't let this define your friendship unless you an Aquarius because then we know it will never ever work out and you need to stay as far away as POSSIBLE from your friend. Because anybody with an inner Mercury with an Aries rising is incompatible with an Aquarius. Please. It's for the best.

Why? It takes just as long to craft a FB post as it does to text someone? I think a blanket thank you or acknowledgment is more than sufficient for something as low effort as a text. Cards, gifts, yeah. Other than that--it is their birthday. You should not expect a response.

[Anonymous]

The FB post may very well have been a passive aggressive reaction to someone getting pissy with her by text for not immediately thanking them for the birthday greetings.

I can't stand passive aggressive behavior, but if it was a targeted message to a specific person, I think it's kind of funny. I'm just spit balling, of course, she may just be a childish drama queen, but you should already know that if you're friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that’s a hilarious comment!

I find the culture of FB birthday wishes very tedious. Am I supposed to like each one? Is it okay to just do a single thank you. Do I need to wait a certain number of days before I can stop thanking individual belated wishes?

On my birthday I try to avoid FB for a week before and a week after ... I don't care for most people's facebook birthday wishes. I took my birthdate off FB, actually, but some people still remember (and those I do appreciate) but then there are the hanger-on-ers saying happy birthday who don't actually remember my birthday. Not that I'm mad at them ... but I really only appreciate the happy birthdays from the people who remembered.

All personal messages, texts, phone calls, and emails deserve a response, though.

But whatever. I wouldn't let this define your friendship unless you an Aquarius because then we know it will never ever work out and you need to stay as far away as POSSIBLE from your friend. Because anybody with an inner Mercury with an Aries rising is incompatible with an Aquarius. Please. It's for the best.

Why? It takes just as long to craft a FB post as it does to text someone? I think a blanket thank you or acknowledgment is more than sufficient for something as low effort as a text. Cards, gifts, yeah. Other than that--it is their birthday. You should not expect a response.

Really? Somebody texts you happy birthday and you don't text back thanks!?

But FB there are 10s and 100s of posts on one thread, and you get them all at the same time (unless you are on FB all day). So it is tedious. But, I'd say then everybody deserves a response if you think FB is the same as a personal message.

[Anonymous]

My question is why hasn't her inner Mercury in Aries told her that it's entirely possible avoid those silly wishes by hiding your birthday on FB?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that’s a hilarious comment!

I find the culture of FB birthday wishes very tedious. Am I supposed to like each one? Is it okay to just do a single thank you. Do I need to wait a certain number of days before I can stop thanking individual belated wishes?

On my birthday I try to avoid FB for a week before and a week after ... I don't care for most people's facebook birthday wishes. I took my birthdate off FB, actually, but some people still remember (and those I do appreciate) but then there are the hanger-on-ers saying happy birthday who don't actually remember my birthday. Not that I'm mad at them ... but I really only appreciate the happy birthdays from the people who remembered.

All personal messages, texts, phone calls, and emails deserve a response, though.

But whatever. I wouldn't let this define your friendship unless you an Aquarius because then we know it will never ever work out and you need to stay as far away as POSSIBLE from your friend. Because anybody with an inner Mercury with an Aries rising is incompatible with an Aquarius. Please. It's for the best.

Why? It takes just as long to craft a FB post as it does to text someone? I think a blanket thank you or acknowledgment is more than sufficient for something as low effort as a text. Cards, gifts, yeah. Other than that--it is their birthday. You should not expect a response.

Really? Somebody texts you happy birthday and you don't text back thanks!?

But FB there are 10s and 100s of posts on one thread, and you get them all at the same time (unless you are on FB all day). So it is tedious. But, I'd say then everybody deserves a response if you think FB is the same as a personal message.

I do usually text back. But I understand if people don't. On my birthday, I get dozens of texts from friends and family. It is tedious to respond to each and everyone. And regardless, a mindless "thanks" from the Text Suggestion Box is meaningless.

I have a friend how every year posts a fun message and picture on my FB age for my birthday (and no--my bday is not listed on FB. She just knows me). I thank HER. But yep, I sometimes do not respond to the rote "Happy Birthday" texts.

If you do everything in life expecting response, you are going to be disappointed and bitter with unrealistic expectations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that’s a hilarious comment!

I find the culture of FB birthday wishes very tedious. Am I supposed to like each one? Is it okay to just do a single thank you. Do I need to wait a certain number of days before I can stop thanking individual belated wishes?

On my birthday I try to avoid FB for a week before and a week after ... I don't care for most people's facebook birthday wishes. I took my birthdate off FB, actually, but some people still remember (and those I do appreciate) but then there are the hanger-on-ers saying happy birthday who don't actually remember my birthday. Not that I'm mad at them ... but I really only appreciate the happy birthdays from the people who remembered.

All personal messages, texts, phone calls, and emails deserve a response, though.

But whatever. I wouldn't let this define your friendship unless you an Aquarius because then we know it will never ever work out and you need to stay as far away as POSSIBLE from your friend. Because anybody with an inner Mercury with an Aries rising is incompatible with an Aquarius. Please. It's for the best.

Why? It takes just as long to craft a FB post as it does to text someone? I think a blanket thank you or acknowledgment is more than sufficient for something as low effort as a text. Cards, gifts, yeah. Other than that--it is their birthday. You should not expect a response.

Really? Somebody texts you happy birthday and you don't text back thanks!?

But FB there are 10s and 100s of posts on one thread, and you get them all at the same time (unless you are on FB all day). So it is tedious. But, I'd say then everybody deserves a response if you think FB is the same as a personal message.

Exactly. Why is everyone here acting like it’s so hard to write back “thanks!” to someone who personally texted or emailed “happy birthday”? It takes literally 10 seconds, promise.

Regardless, as other posters have said, the bigger issue is the attention seeking. “My inner idiot hates attention”...k. Then your inner idiot wouldn’t post at all.

[Anonymous]

eh, who cares?

I have a really big circle, and I've gotten 200+ birthday messages before. I definitely appreciate them, and I do post one 'thank you so much" general message on my page. But if I responded individually to every single message, I would literally spend half the day doing so, and that seems ridiculous. I don't expect an individual thank you for a FB birthday wish.