Is money the reason why I don't have any friends?

[Anonymous]

Well, shoot. Come hang out in Mt. Rainier. There are plenty of us single moms making about that here.

[Anonymous]

I raise my DD on about $35K a year and we aren't starving either. So yes, to the PP, it is very possible to live on that amount (and less!) in this area. I wish I knew some single moms but I don't (at least not in this area). Sadly, I got excited when a friend from HS announced she was separated since she was the first person I knew who would be a single mother like myself. Of course she doesn't live nearby. It is hard to get together with single moms b/c I think we are so busy. We are doing 2 people's job basically. I kind of get a similar response from people if I tell them I am a single mom. Either pity or they don't think we have anything in common (even though we usually do). Oh well. One friend also said that maybe the other mom feels kind of guilty b/c she probably does have things a lot easier than I do. Keep trying OP b/c you will find real people who couldn't care less about money or marital status.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, shoot. Come hang out in Mt. Rainier. There are plenty of us single moms making about that here.

Yeah, three cheers for Mt. Rainier! I live here, too, (although married) and also have lots of friends in neighboring Hyattsville. In pretty much every thread on DCUM that I read where people complain about what others are like, I think-- not here!

[Anonymous]

I have to agree with the single mom pariah thing, among certain groups of acquaintances
additionally, since I'm african-american another 'test question' I fail is 'which church do you attend?'
lol
A single non-religious mom???? Quick, everyone hide!!!
Or so it feels

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to agree with the single mom pariah thing, among certain groups of acquaintances
additionally, since I'm african-american another 'test question' I fail is 'which church do you attend?'
lol
A single non-religious mom???? Quick, everyone hide!!!
Or so it feels

OP here: I'd so love to be your friend. You sound fun and I'm also non-religious, but no-one has asked me that before.

And to the PPs above, I do live around Hyattsville (close to the DC line) and I wish I knew more people around here...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dont think a REAL FRIENDSHIP would matter if you are divorced or not if you make $300.0000000000000000000 a year or not.


and if your husband flirt with someone else... geez....

OP here: The problem is I'm not really friends with these people, I'm trying to get to know them. I've lived in this area just for a couple of years and have no "real friends" here. Of course real friends wouldn't care. But potential friends apparently do.

OP, take them with a light-hearted approach. Start thinking of them as a mommy version of the carnival's Floating Duck Game. Keep turning 'em over and you'll eventually find the one that's a winner! Toss back the 1's and 2's! Seriously though, they are doing you a favor allowing you to cut your losses early. You just have to suffer through a lot of ducks!

I LOVE this!!

[Anonymous]

Hm. I bet it's not the money thing, or the single mom thing (although perhaps both are factors to some degree, but if they are, it's just a litmus test to weed out the people you wouldn't want to be friends with anyway). I think it's just hard to make friends at a certain point in life. You are still young, OP, if you are in your twenties, but you also are a mom, so you are straddling the "I'm an adult now" world of 30s and 40s. It's just harder to make new friends once life becomes more settled. People are busy with their own families, people are stuck in ruts, people become more closed-minded... One thought would be to throw yourself into something - charity work, an artistic endeavor, a sport, any group activity - and try to develop bonds that way. (the same kind of advice people get when they are looking to meet SOs). Hang in there.

[Anonymous]

There are 2 issues. You have no man, and no money

You are very brave to have made decisions that you are happy with

Now you need to find friends who do not think it is their problem

[Anonymous]

But where? Everyone seems to see it as their problem. Or as some sort of disability on my part... Feels lonely...