Sweatshirts and hot weather

[Anonymous]

OP, I don't know if this helps or not but I tell you what I do on this with my 11 and 15 year old boys, who seem to have no concept of what weather appropriate clothing means at any time of year.

By May 1, all winter clothes, including sweat shirts, sweat pants, most long sleeve shirts and all but one pair of dress pants are packed away. They don't have easy access to them again until about October 1. Reverse happens in the fall - no shorts after the last hot spell in the fall - definitely by Halloween. It seems to have worked so far.

[Anonymous]

They're not cheap, but Coolibar makes cover ups that are designed to be wicking, and are actually cooler than wearing nothing at all. Not sure that there will be styles that will appeal to a teen, but it's worth a look. There are also Nike & Underarmor long sleeve shirts that are made out of wicking fabric, but those are more form-fitting.

[Anonymous]

My teen boys wear shorts all winter and are now running around in jeans and sporty long sleeve jackets.

It boggles my mind.

[Anonymous]

Covering track marks.

[Anonymous]

OP— If it’s about a changing body, maybe help her find a way to feel better with short sleeves. Soma makes amazing soft not all that supportive, but very comfy pullover bras that give some coverage and pull moisture away. Embliss. They also do soft, synthetic tanks. Maybe if she wears something like that. Or a cami with a shelf bra as a bottom layer, and then put a loose, unstructured T over it. That might give her the comfort of layers and let he feel less exposed, without being so hot.

You really need to talk to her and just ask what’s up. Maybe she is just doing normal tween awkwardness. Or maybe someone at camp— counselor or fellow camper, boys or catty girls— are harassing her. In which case that’s a different problem. Maybe she actually feels cold, and has a medocal issue.

Just say: it seems like a sweatshirt would be so hot and uncomfortable. I don’t understand why you would want to wear one. Can you help me understand? If you can figure out the problem, then don’t judge or tell her it’s not a problem. To her it is. Help her problem solve.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son does this. I decided it’s his choice. He wants to boil...his choice. I understand that it’s like his safety blanket.

+1. Any my tween loves those strings on the sweatshirt to twirl around all day

[Anonymous]

Columbia makes lightweight, ventilated button-downs in pretty colors and prints. I wore them comfortably in Death Vally in July.

Check Amazon and you might find a good buy on certain color/size combinations.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like a job for a cool Aunt or older female cousin.....is that an option? Fixing the issue is not as important as finding out what the issue is......

[Anonymous]

Is this the style among her friends? (Kind of like wearing UGGS with shorts...)

[Anonymous]

I would look for long sleeve shirts designed to keep you cool.

And then, let her go. She needs to learn on her own.

[Anonymous]

Is she eating normally? Does she have a history of disordered eating, or risk factors for it?

[Anonymous]

Just buy light long-sleeved tops. It's better for sun protection anyways.

[Anonymous]

I would be curious about cutting and anorexia. Not alarmed. But curious. I am a therapist who works w self harming teens.

[Anonymous]

agree with PP above. Anxiety and eating disorder worry here too. Has she lost weight?

[Anonymous]

Would layering work? So maybe a cami bra, a tank top and then a loose t-shirt? Or at a minimum the tank top and a t-shirt? Layers can get stuffy, but it's better than a sweat shirt...