I like it when my husband is gone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I HATE when my husband travels for work!!

I get scared at night. The dog gets depressed because no one will rough house with him. No adult conversation over dinner. No one to help get kids ready in the morning. No bear hugs for me at the end of a rough day at work. I have to take the trash cans out/back.

Nope - our house fares better when husband is home. But he is not an uptight man so that probably helps.

Why do you get scared at night?

Strange.

The privilege of being a man.

I don’t know a single woman who thinks that’s strange.

[Anonymous]

DH travels a few days every other week. I dread it each time (more work for me), but then it is always so much calmer & cleaner. No expectations and it’s so quiet after I get all the kids down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's always "calmer" when the other spouse is away because the at home spouse gets to do their own thing. How would you feel if your spouse left and never came back?

Yes, this is true. When one of my children is away I feel as though I can totally get along with the remaining child because I'll do whatever they like, no trying to balance wants, needs, desired. No fighting. Same with a spouse. I like when my spouse is gone. No pressure to be hugged. Less laundry. Quiet in the house. But ... nobody tall to get the pans that are up high, I have to make every meal, and if there is physical problem with the house (clogged toilet? leaky faucet?) I have to deal with it myself. (yes, of course I can. But I like it when DH deals with the plumbing, ok? So sexy, so manly. Ha, ha, just kidding I just don't want to deal with anybody's shit)

And to the PP who mentioned being scared, yes, I agree, the creaks of the house can freak you out when you are alone. It doesn't for me any more (DH goes away enough that I'm immune) but I remember the first time feeling lonely and a little bit afraid. Yes, as a woman we have a heightened sense of fear and vulnerability. We are more vulnerable.

It's relaxing to have DH away. I hope that I'll always appreciate when he returns.

[Anonymous]

I am an introvert who likes silence, but DH is an extrovert who loves to talk. I love it when he is away, so I don't have to pretend to be interested in the constant idle chatter.

[Anonymous]

I like it when he is away for a day or two every couple of weeks because I can just do my own thing after the kids are in bed and I don’t worry about what I or the house look like. But I love it when he gets home!

[Anonymous]

Hate it. I too am scared alone at night.