What’s with boy graduates and cigars

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's rich bro culture.

Pathetic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is totally douchey also they just look like little boys pretending. They don't know how to smoke cigars and they don't like to smoke them, they are pretending to be men. I am amazed that the parents seem to support and encourage it.

I thought it was douchey 25 years ago at my own school, and I’m shocked it still happens. I guess it goes to show tradition is everything, even greater than logic or health or respect.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They look ridiculous.

+1 — it’s a weird retro country club thing — and happens at coed schools too, BTW

I disagree about the "country club" thing. My DS, who is solidly middle class and went to a public high school with a high percentage of low income & high percentage of ESOL students, smoked cigars with his friends at graduation parties. And not a single one of them are country club kids - unless you consider the ones who work at a country club as bus boys and caddies as the country club set.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's so disgusting and even worse when girls are smoking cigars.

Just sick.

If you think your kids are "cool" you are delusional.

Why is it worse for girls? Sounds pretty sexist to me.

Because, in addition to the negative health aspect that they are all promoting, the girls are trying to look like cool boys, which is laughable.

1940 called and was wondering where you went.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's so disgusting and even worse when girls are smoking cigars.

Just sick.

If you think your kids are "cool" you are delusional.

Why is it worse for girls? Sounds pretty sexist to me.

Because, in addition to the negative health aspect that they are all promoting, the girls are trying to look like cool boys, which is laughable.

Oh please, none of them are going to suddenly take up cigar smoking.

Exactly. Which is why the girls look even more ridiculous than the boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just look at their fathers. No surprise there.

Meh. The moms are pretty much asshats too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The return of cigar smoking as a celebratory thing after having wained for years occurred because of the decline of cigarette smoking. Now many men who would secretly have a cigarette smoke instead pretend they love cigars because they are more socially accepted.

There's probably truth in this. But cigars have long been associated with celebrations. The old cliche of the new dad celebrating a newborn baby by having a cigar has been around for generations.

I remember boys from my old prep school celebrating with cigars and this was in the 1990s. And it is more socially acceptable to smoke cigars as people assume it's a rare treat rather than a daily addiction. I'll see dads enjoying cigars while walking their kids during the Halloween trick or treating. I don't see this as a public versus private difference but a general white upper middle class male thing to do.

And at men's only weekends, bachelor weekends, camping weekends, cigars are commonly part of it. I'm sure many people would probably be surprised how many sneak cigarettes every now and then.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They look ridiculous.

+1 — it’s a weird retro country club thing — and happens at coed schools too, BTW

I disagree about the "country club" thing. My DS, who is solidly middle class and went to a public high school with a high percentage of low income & high percentage of ESOL students, smoked cigars with his friends at graduation parties. And not a single one of them are country club kids - unless you consider the ones who work at a country club as bus boys and caddies as the country club set.

Maybe they're emulating what they see among the folks they're working for. Catch the movie "Flamingo Kid".

[Anonymous]

OP -- your jealousy is showing and it's not attractive. It's an innocent tradition and I didn't grow up rich. It's a bonding activity. Get a life grandma.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It is totally douchey also they just look like little boys pretending. They don't know how to smoke cigars and they don't like to smoke them, they are pretending to be men. I am amazed that the parents seem to support and encourage it.

I thought it was douchey 25 years ago at my own school, and I’m shocked it still happens. I guess it goes to show tradition is everything, even greater than logic or health or respect.[/quote

Oh FFS, your're shocked? It's a cigar, not meth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP -- your jealousy is showing and it's not attractive. It's an innocent tradition and I didn't grow up rich. It's a bonding activity. Get a life grandma.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP -- your jealousy is showing and it's not attractive. It's an innocent tradition and I didn't grow up rich. It's a bonding activity. Get a life grandma.

Oh gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Looking through my FB feed, the grads at all-boy independent schools are all smoking cigars. Is this a cool thing, a one time celebratory thing, or do they all smoke regularly? It looks kind of obnoxious to me.

Lol - I bought cigars for my son for prom pics at his public high school.

[Anonymous]

It’s unhealthy, yuck.

[Anonymous]

Who gives a shit.

If my son wants to try and pretend to smoke a cigar, so be it.

Who are you to judge?