First time mom mistakes

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Anonymous wrote:Are you in ER with your baby? That is not a thing to be taken lightly.

I dunno. DD crawled off the bed when she was about 6 months. We told daycare when we took her in that day so they could keep an eye out for odd behavior and they said it happens all the time. And when I’ve mentioned it to others with kids, most of them have had it happen as well. Only one person actually took their kid to the ER and everything was fine.

We called our pediatrician who said we should take our then 6-month old in to the ER for an evaluation. i was pretty sure he was perfectly fine, but we did it anyway.

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I panicked about everything. Such a waste of time and energy. I didn’t enjoy the early years. I also blames myself for things that were out of my control (like my child being sensitive and crying a lot).

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Not seeking help for postpartum depression. Thought it was something I had to suck up and get over on my own. Wasn't until I had baby #2 without the same issues that I realized how deep I was in it with #1. I barely remember her first 3 months and that makes me sad.

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Anonymous wrote:I made the mistake of saving the really great outfits for special occasions. Too often, she grew out of them before they got any wear. Such a bummer!

I could have written this. So many cute outfits got maybe just one use. same with dressy shoes..

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Bottle feeding the baby every 2 hours (even at night) not waiting for baby to cry. When she got older (maybe 10 or 11 months) she used to climb on the couch and pretend to sleep so that I would give her a bottle. She didn't know that crying will get you the bottle. For her sleeping meant bottle. Parenting fail!

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Anonymous wrote:Are you in ER with your baby? That is not a thing to be taken lightly.

No need to go to the ER unless you see a neurological problem. Babies bounce.

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Not sleep training. DS1 is 4 and still has trouble sleeping but DS2 we sleep trained and is a sleeping CHAMP.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m pretty sure both of mine rolled off of the changing table

My first one did while strapped to the changing pad with the pad. The pad did break his fall, but he still had a huge bump on his forehead.

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Not going out more with the first when she was a baby and I was on maternity leave.
Agree re not wearing the cute clothes that were gifted.
My friend kept a notebook in a drawer where she just jotted down funny things they did or said. Wish I had done that instead of trying (and failing) to keep a nice baby book.

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Anonymous wrote:Not sleep training. DS1 is 4 and still has trouble sleeping but DS2 we sleep trained and is a sleeping CHAMP.

I’ve noticed the parents who never sleep trained or addressed sleep really late have HORRIBLE sleepers.

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Anonymous wrote:Not sleep training. DS1 is 4 and still has trouble sleeping but DS2 we sleep trained and is a sleeping CHAMP.

I’ve noticed the parents who never sleep trained or addressed sleep really late have HORRIBLE sleepers.

I don’t know how people are still so ignorant. We (mostly) all know that the parents who say “I didn’t have to sleep train my baby and he just started sleeping through the night naturally when he was ready so all babies must behave this way and training is cruel” are completely nuts. But do you realize that those of you who say, “so and so didn’t sleep train like they should have so they have a 4 year old who can’t sleep” are ALSO nuts?! Have you never met an adult who struggles with insomnia or nightmares or restless, light sleep? Do you really think all those people just had weak parents who failed to train them properly as infants?! Just like some people aren’t great runners and others have sensitive stomachs etc. some people aren’t great at falling instantly asleep and sleeping soundly for 8 hours. They were children too. Some people are going to be shitty sleepers no matter how hard you try to train them as babies. You are being rude and ignorant when you make these comments and try to shame other parents or convince new parents that they just need to keep training their baby and magically they’ll sleep great and if they don’t then they’re failing as parents.

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Believing everything a general practitioner says and not being persistent enough when my "mom sense" is tingling. My first was a preemie. Doc insisted that DS was just catching up and that's why he was still delayed in a number of areas at almost 3. I ignored her and sought specialists for DS. He immediately received a diagnosis of cerebral palsy. After further testing, we started a number of therapies. He's 11 now.

As a society, women judge each other too readily. All of the judging can tear a person down if you let it. With my first, I was bothered by the judging and worried that I wasn't as good a mom as I could have been because of choices that I made. By my second child, I realized that I'm still a good mom, even if I don't do what everyone else does.

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Anonymous wrote:Be psycho about breastfeeding. Just give the baby a bottle sometimes. It’s so much easier.

ONE MILLION TIME YES.

Except I'll go one further and say "give the baby a bottle of formula sometimes". Don't kill yourself at that pump.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you in ER with your baby? That is not a thing to be taken lightly.

Ignore this poster

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Anonymous wrote:Are you in ER with your baby? That is not a thing to be taken lightly.

No need to go to the ER unless you see a neurological problem. Babies bounce.

This. FIRST TIME MOM CLEARLY ANSWERED