Gift from siblings (twins)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. Thanks for all of the responses. I intentionally made it vague, but it's actually my DD who was the birthday kid. I don't care about how much gifts cost, we got a range and I appreciate all of them, but the twin gift gave me pause only because I'm wondering if the mom intentionally cheaped out as some kind of passive insult. I got a weird vibe from her a couple times at preschool although we've barely interacted. After that, she emailed to thank me for the invitation and asking what DD liked. I made a couple suggestions including books (since they're easy) and she didn't respond. The morning of the party, she emailed to say the sitter would be bringing the twins, which I thought was a little weird since they're involved parents who come to every optional preschool activity such as chaperoning, but whatever. The twins brought a small $8 gift that was neither of my suggestions, which in itself is totally okay. Their family seems well-off.

Anyway, what do you think? F-U from mom because she hates me for some unintended slight? Or just par for the course for a weird cheap, rich mom? I'm handwriting Thank You cards to all of the families including the twins since they did bring a gift. WWYD? Make it less sincere-sounding? I try to write thoughtful TY cards, but thinking about just saying "Thank you for [___], Larla likes it!" #firstworldproblems

I get where you're coming from and I'd probably go out of my way to reciprocate in kind. I think Aldi has some really cheap pre-written cards that might be more up old girl's alley.

[Anonymous]

I would write the same TY as all the other gifts. However, I agree that it’s cheap. It’s the same twin moms who insists on having both kids at *everything*, wanting separate gifts etc but then suddenly they are too cheap to bring two gifts. My favorite was a dad on DCUM who thought he should pay for only one twin (this is a DCPS with a suggested donation amount to pay for teachers) because, well, twins.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You give two gifts. Two individuals are invited to a party, so each gives their own gift and card.

If you think it will be better to give a larger gift (say $35-$40) then give one gift. But good luck with deciding which ones wants to give the gift. We do two regular gifts because each of my kids wants to hand over a bag to the birthday kid.

Oh goodness, my mom and I go in on shower gifts all the time, even though we are two indivduals. I'd do one bigger gift over two smaller ones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Twin mom here: The other mom probably has something else on her mind but you seem awfully invested in her gifts for your preschool BD. And you seem POd in general with this mom. Maybe it’s just not meant to be.
But as a twin mom 2 small gifts are better than one large. The one large leaves the twin mom explaining to the little children that “this one gift cost more so there’s only one” which leaves all the other gifts ranked below because they cost less. It’s not an equation I liked to be in with small children.
Also OP you don’t get to make a list for other people. What seems “easy” to you might be hard for someone else. I personally hated “easy “ gifts because they always

Why would the mom be explaining what the gifts cost?

[Anonymous]

Twin mom here: BS if you don’t give two gifts you will hear all about how they are individuals and took two spots. Yes I know YOU don’t care but OP obviously does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Twin mom here: The other mom probably has something else on her mind but you seem awfully invested in her gifts for your preschool BD. And you seem POd in general with this mom. Maybe it’s just not meant to be.
But as a twin mom 2 small gifts are better than one large. The one large leaves the twin mom explaining to the little children that “this one gift cost more so there’s only one” which leaves all the other gifts ranked below because they cost less. It’s not an equation I liked to be in with small children.
Also OP you don’t get to make a list for other people. What seems “easy” to you might be hard for someone else. I personally hated “easy “ gifts because they always

Why would the mom be explaining what the gifts cost?

Because when they are writing the thank you notes. But you do you.

[Anonymous]

OP seems like she doesn’t like the other mom.

[Anonymous]

Jesus christ no one cares. Mom to twin here and singleton. Have many twin friends. ZERO people are counting presents or care if you bring or receive two gifts, one, or frankly ZERO. I have never heard anyone complain in any direction -- and my twins are 11.

[Anonymous]

I get it OP.
I have twin sisters, and growing up, my parents bought two gifts or a little nicier/pricier gift for birthday kid who invited both sisters. And we were low income.

I think it's odd that the mom would ask for gift ideas and not get any suggested. Books are a good go to without being pricey.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get it OP.
I have twin sisters, and growing up, my parents bought two gifts or a little nicier/pricier gift for birthday kid who invited both sisters. And we were low income.

I think it's odd that the mom would ask for gift ideas and not get any suggested. Books are a good go to without being pricey.

Who knows what OP was asking for or how easy/expensive it was? She's being really greedy. They gave a present. Write a nice thank you note and be done with it.

[Anonymous]

When my twins are both invited, they each bring a gift and a card. When their friends come to their birthday parties, they typically do the same: two gifts, two cards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jesus christ no one cares. Mom to twin here and singleton. Have many twin friends. ZERO people are counting presents or care if you bring or receive two gifts, one, or frankly ZERO. I have never heard anyone complain in any direction -- and my twins are 11.

I guess you haven’t come across anyone as petty as op then. This twin mom was brilliant to send a sitter so as to limit contact with the woman sizing up cost of gifts from preschoolers!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You give two gifts. Two individuals are invited to a party, so each gives their own gift and card.

If you think it will be better to give a larger gift (say $35-$40) then give one gift. But good luck with deciding which ones wants to give the gift. We do two regular gifts because each of my kids wants to hand over a bag to the birthday kid.

Oh goodness, my mom and I go in on shower gifts all the time, even though we are two indivduals. I'd do one bigger gift over two smaller ones.

But then you and your mom are adults who wouldn't fight over who hands over the gift Try telling that to twin 5 year olds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus christ no one cares. Mom to twin here and singleton. Have many twin friends. ZERO people are counting presents or care if you bring or receive two gifts, one, or frankly ZERO. I have never heard anyone complain in any direction -- and my twins are 11.

I guess you haven’t come across anyone as petty as op then. This twin mom was brilliant to send a sitter so as to limit contact with the woman sizing up cost of gifts from preschoolers!

You seem to have it in against the OP since she sized up the gifts. If I guess right, the $8 gift may be a princess doll. Those cost $7.99 at Target and Walmart and anyone who shops at the toy aisle in those stores regularly would know that.

I think it was very cheap of that twin mom to send an $8 gift when sending 2 kids for a birthday party. The ones who say otherwise are probably cheapskates themselves and trying to justify their actions here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus christ no one cares. Mom to twin here and singleton. Have many twin friends. ZERO people are counting presents or care if you bring or receive two gifts, one, or frankly ZERO. I have never heard anyone complain in any direction -- and my twins are 11.

I guess you haven’t come across anyone as petty as op then. This twin mom was brilliant to send a sitter so as to limit contact with the woman sizing up cost of gifts from preschoolers!

You seem to have it in against the OP since she sized up the gifts. If I guess right, the $8 gift may be a princess doll. Those cost $7.99 at Target and Walmart and anyone who shops at the toy aisle in those stores regularly would know that.

I think it was very cheap of that twin mom to send an $8 gift when sending 2 kids for a birthday party. The ones who say otherwise are probably cheapskates themselves and trying to justify their actions here.

No, they are adults recognizing that the gifts are for the kids and that no preschooler kid cares if they received 15 or 16 gifts, and they really don't care if it's an $8 doll or a $40 doll. The only person who cares is the adult who is clearly forgetting who the birthday girl is.