I have to be 10 pounds UNDER my pre pregnancy weight to look as thin as I was back then

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh, with 3 kids don't you have something better to do than stress about your abs? Gain the 10 lbs, have a little pooch in you bikini--no one cares.

Her husband probably does. Maybe she SAH, or wants that divorce $$ so she's holding on/ trying to make do.

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh, with 3 kids don't you have something better to do than stress about your abs? Gain the 10 lbs, have a little pooch in you bikini--no one cares.

Her husband probably does. Maybe she SAH, or wants that divorce $$ so she's holding on/ trying to make do.

If my husband divorces me after having 3 kids because my body isn’t the same as it was in my 20’s, F-him. I’m not stressing about every morsel that passes my lips for that a-hole. And a guy like that is just trying to find an excuse to leave.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait till you hit menopause and your body shape changes again even if your weight doesn't. It just all gets redistributed to places you don't want it and away from places you do (unless you go for plastic surgery options). Fun times.

How do older women like J. Lo and Halle Berry look so fit then if you assume this?

lol that you have to ask.

They show that it's possible to not end up looking like Roseanne in midlife.

Yeah, if you have private chefs, trainers that come to your house (and when traveling for work, and a plastic surgeon on speed dial. I think it’s hilarious that people think they look like that naturally.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait till you hit menopause and your body shape changes again even if your weight doesn't. It just all gets redistributed to places you don't want it and away from places you do (unless you go for plastic surgery options). Fun times.

How do older women like J. Lo and Halle Berry look so fit then if you assume this?

They don’t look fit, they are fit. They look really young because most images of them have been retouched and airbrushed, so they don’t have cellulite in photos and when they’re seen in public they’ve gotten their hair, makeup, and clothing done professionally.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait till you hit menopause and your body shape changes again even if your weight doesn't. It just all gets redistributed to places you don't want it and away from places you do (unless you go for plastic surgery options). Fun times.

How do older women like J. Lo and Halle Berry look so fit then if you assume this?

They don’t look fit, they are fit. They look really young because most images of them have been retouched and airbrushed, so they don’t have cellulite in photos and when they’re seen in public they’ve gotten their hair, makeup, and clothing done professionally.

This. And they spend half their day working out and in makeup.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait till you hit menopause and your body shape changes again even if your weight doesn't. It just all gets redistributed to places you don't want it and away from places you do (unless you go for plastic surgery options). Fun times.

I was thinking this same thing. If OP thinks she has issues now, just wait!

OP - it does suck, but it’s a fact of life. You can work out and diet to keep your tummy pooch to a minimum, or you can let it go and focus on other things. I’m not saying one is better than the other, or judging anyone who picks the former, but it’s just how usually it works.

FWIW, I think most husbands are perfectly fine with tummy pooch (and more!) if you just keep a sexy attitude.

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It’s not just pregnancy OP, you’re fighting against age at this point. It gets harder.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait till you hit menopause and your body shape changes again even if your weight doesn't. It just all gets redistributed to places you don't want it and away from places you do (unless you go for plastic surgery options). Fun times.

I was thinking this same thing. If OP thinks she has issues now, just wait!

OP - it does suck, but it’s a fact of life. You can work out and diet to keep your tummy pooch to a minimum, or you can let it go and focus on other things. I’m not saying one is better than the other, or judging anyone who picks the former, but it’s just how usually it works.

FWIW, I think most husbands are perfectly fine with tummy pooch (and more!) if you just keep a sexy attitude.

Doesn't it make sense to get the weight/tummy under control (as much as is reasonable) BEFORE the wild ride of peri menopause and menopause? If we are going to fall to sh!t during and after the change, wouldn't it be wise to reign it all in beforehand to mitigate the depth of sh!t we fall to?

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Anonymous wrote:Wait till you hit menopause and your body shape changes again even if your weight doesn't. It just all gets redistributed to places you don't want it and away from places you do (unless you go for plastic surgery options). Fun times.

I was thinking this same thing. If OP thinks she has issues now, just wait!

OP - it does suck, but it’s a fact of life. You can work out and diet to keep your tummy pooch to a minimum, or you can let it go and focus on other things. I’m not saying one is better than the other, or judging anyone who picks the former, but it’s just how usually it works.

FWIW, I think most husbands are perfectly fine with tummy pooch (and more!) if you just keep a sexy attitude.

Doesn't it make sense to get the weight/tummy under control (as much as is reasonable) BEFORE the wild ride of peri menopause and menopause? If we are going to fall to sh!t during and after the change, wouldn't it be wise to reign it all in beforehand to mitigate the depth of sh!t we fall to?

Most definitely. I spent my whole life eating whatever I wanted and never working out and getting away with it because I was thin. Then I turned 30 and realized the next milestone was 40 and eventually even I would come up against menopause. I knew I didn’t want to go into that mess having no foundation of nutrition and fitness and healthy living to fortify me so I finally got my ass in gear, focused on eating healthfully, and working out 3-4x a week it’s all force of habit and lifestyle for me now. I drink only on occasion, eat well, indulge moderately, and have built a good amount of muscle. It’s not going to entirely stave off the effects of menopause but it will help some I think.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait till you hit menopause and your body shape changes again even if your weight doesn't. It just all gets redistributed to places you don't want it and away from places you do (unless you go for plastic surgery options). Fun times.

I was thinking this same thing. If OP thinks she has issues now, just wait!

OP - it does suck, but it’s a fact of life. You can work out and diet to keep your tummy pooch to a minimum, or you can let it go and focus on other things. I’m not saying one is better than the other, or judging anyone who picks the former, but it’s just how usually it works.

FWIW, I think most husbands are perfectly fine with tummy pooch (and more!) if you just keep a sexy attitude.

Doesn't it make sense to get the weight/tummy under control (as much as is reasonable) BEFORE the wild ride of peri menopause and menopause? If we are going to fall to sh!t during and after the change, wouldn't it be wise to reign it all in beforehand to mitigate the depth of sh!t we fall to?

+/- 10 lbs is reined in.

A little tummy pooch is human. And cute

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Anonymous wrote:Just bone expansion alone is going to cause your weight to be distributed differently. I went back to prepregnancy weight after my first child, but went up a size because my hip bones just wouldn't fit in my clothes anymore. Also had a slight pooch of my belly that has gotten dramatically worse after my second. Sigh.

Having a girl with my second child has helped me keep perspective, as particularly with a daughter (and also important with my son), I want to set an example of loving the skin I'm in rather than being self conscious of it. I take care of my body through eating healthy and exercise. I don't want to set an example of getting a tummy tuck and breast lift for purely cosmetic reasons on a minor tummy pooch as I hate the thought of my daughter knowing that I felt like I had to fix my body to fit an impossible standard of beauty (and it is an unrealistic standard if it takes surgery to get there).

OK, so bone expansion does NOT exist. Just get over it. WHO CARES?

Of course it exists. Part of puberty is the widening of the hips. Hips also move during pregnancy. Are you the same genius who is claiming, in another thread, that toning muscles doesn't exist because you can't diet and grow muscle mass at the same time? I urge you to get a primer on anatomy and physiology and then come back so that you can annoy me less often with your uninformed yet imperious posts.

NP. My pelvis definitely widened with my first pregnancy. I'm 34 weeks into the second one. I had super narrow hips before giving birth, and really liked my postpartum shape (it took about 6-9 months for everything else to go back to its place, but the hips stayed). Not sure if they'll get any wider with #2, just wanted to say our bodies don't always turn out worse after kids. I'm giving the stomach skin 2-3 years to go back to normal. The first time it took about 2 years. I was no spring chicken then (36) and am certainly not now (40), but am optimistic. Worst case scenario, I will wear a tankini and only show off my slight thigh cellulite to the world.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait till you hit menopause and your body shape changes again even if your weight doesn't. It just all gets redistributed to places you don't want it and away from places you do (unless you go for plastic surgery options). Fun times.

How do older women like J. Lo and Halle Berry look so fit then if you assume this?

lol that you have to ask.

They show that it's possible to not end up looking like Roseanne in midlife.

There is a middle ground of taking care of yourself and staying healthy while aging naturally that falls between Roseanne and JLo.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait till you hit menopause and your body shape changes again even if your weight doesn't. It just all gets redistributed to places you don't want it and away from places you do (unless you go for plastic surgery options). Fun times.

How do older women like J. Lo and Halle Berry look so fit then if you assume this?

lol that you have to ask.

They show that it's possible to not end up looking like Roseanne in midlife.

There is a middle ground of taking care of yourself and staying healthy while aging naturally that falls between Roseanne and JLo.

Roseanne doesn't ever really look bad. She lost weight. She's nuts, but she isn't a good example of someone who got fat at midlife. She trimmed down. JLo have a financial interest in staying fit and locking sexy. As a pp noted, trainers, chefs, plastic surgeons, makeup and airbrushing are all in play.

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I always thought (as a young girl growing up) that women had hips and breasts and that is normal and beautiful! Now that I am older with kids, I want to be healthy and curvy!

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Anonymous wrote:I always thought (as a young girl growing up) that women had hips and breasts and that is normal and beautiful! Now that I am older with kids, I want to be healthy and curvy!

Don't spend too much time on dcum because the neuroses is contagious and you'll begin to question you're very sensible values.