He went to Detox and started drinking the day he go out

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He was in detox for 4 days, refused further treatment, came home and promptly went to purchase more alcohol. This is an almost 20 year marriage with kids involved. I had decided a while ago I was moving on and this was his attempt to keep the marriage together and get me off his back. I had little hope he’d actually quit drinking and sure enough, within hours he had restocked his supply. I’ve consulted with an attorney and was given basic advise on what to do but anytime I want to talk to her it’s going to cost $ obviously. He went to a hotel last night and I don’t want him back in the house. Is there anything I can do to stop him from moving back in? How do I protect my credit from him? We live in Fairfax County.

Chill out. Guy likes to party. Big whup.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He was in detox for 4 days, refused further treatment, came home and promptly went to purchase more alcohol. This is an almost 20 year marriage with kids involved. I had decided a while ago I was moving on and this was his attempt to keep the marriage together and get me off his back. I had little hope he’d actually quit drinking and sure enough, within hours he had restocked his supply. I’ve consulted with an attorney and was given basic advise on what to do but anytime I want to talk to her it’s going to cost $ obviously. He went to a hotel last night and I don’t want him back in the house. Is there anything I can do to stop him from moving back in? How do I protect my credit from him? We live in Fairfax County.

Chill out. Guy likes to party. Big whup.

I'm sitting here wondering if she thinks he can't ever have more than one drink in 4 days...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP think about how a broken home will affect the children. As a family member said to me when I was thinking of leaving DH - "it takes two people to make a marriage work and two people to make a marriage fail"

You are an idiot.

Idiots are those who get advice on DCUM. There are ALWAYS two sides to a story.

Woman married to her 10-year sober alcoholic DH here. Think of the children means you have to protect them from his drinking. Read one of the many books about the adult children of alcoholics and their many dysfunctions. Divorce is far, far better for them.

There are NOT two sides to this; the only person responsible for his addiction is HIM.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He was in detox for 4 days, refused further treatment, came home and promptly went to purchase more alcohol. This is an almost 20 year marriage with kids involved. I had decided a while ago I was moving on and this was his attempt to keep the marriage together and get me off his back. I had little hope he’d actually quit drinking and sure enough, within hours he had restocked his supply. I’ve consulted with an attorney and was given basic advise on what to do but anytime I want to talk to her it’s going to cost $ obviously. He went to a hotel last night and I don’t want him back in the house. Is there anything I can do to stop him from moving back in? How do I protect my credit from him? We live in Fairfax County.

Chill out. Guy likes to party. Big whup.

I'm sitting here wondering if she thinks he can't ever have more than one drink in 4 days...

Provided he keeps it to no more than 14 drinks (total) within 24 hours and never has more than 4 drinks in any single hour, can't see what the big problem is.

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The stay "sub 100" guideline (7 days x 14 drinks a day = 98 drinks a week) is a good rule of thumb. Much more than that can lead to trouble.

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The stay "sub 100" guideline (7 days x 14 drinks a day = 98 drinks a week) is a good rule of thumb. Much more than that can lead to trouble.

You must be $hitting us.

[Anonymous]

No, 98 drinks a week is plenty. If you need much more than that, you may have a problem.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm very sorry. You MUST kick him out of the house.

See a lawyer, file for separation, move the money somewhere he can't access it, don't spend it.

You can't just kick people out of their own home. This isn't TV.

Yes you can. Being an addict is a form of abuse and the courts will ask him to go to treatment or move out.

Lawyer here. Not even close to that simple.

Sorry, OP.

maybe you are not a good lawyer.

NP here. Maybe you’re naive.

He's right and I found out the hard way. I was the one who had to move out with my children to get them away from the alcoholic after they refused to leave.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^ ^
The stay "sub 100" guideline (7 days x 14 drinks a day = 98 drinks a week) is a good rule of thumb. Much more than that can lead to trouble.

You must be $hitting us.

That's bull. It's 100 grams of alcohol - not 100 drinks!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He was in detox for 4 days, refused further treatment, came home and promptly went to purchase more alcohol. This is an almost 20 year marriage with kids involved. I had decided a while ago I was moving on and this was his attempt to keep the marriage together and get me off his back. I had little hope he’d actually quit drinking and sure enough, within hours he had restocked his supply. I’ve consulted with an attorney and was given basic advise on what to do but anytime I want to talk to her it’s going to cost $ obviously. He went to a hotel last night and I don’t want him back in the house. Is there anything I can do to stop him from moving back in? How do I protect my credit from him? We live in Fairfax County.

Chill out. Guy likes to party. Big whup.

I'm sitting here wondering if she thinks he can't ever have more than one drink in 4 days...

Provided he keeps it to no more than 14 drinks (total) within 24 hours and never has more than 4 drinks in any single hour, can't see what the big problem is.

NP. I did plenty of drugs back in the day and am certainly not the poster child for sobriety. However, thinking 14 drinks in 24 hours with a 4 drink/hour limit is acceptable on a regular basis seems insane to me. Who developed these parameters?