How much alimony do you get if you were married for less than 2 years?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She isn't going to get alimony. She can get half of the assets and half of the debts. Forget about alimony! Courts are EXTREMELY reluctant to order it. My friend was married for 20 yrs and was a SAHM for 12 yrs. (the last 12). She is getting 3 yrs of alimony... at 47 yrs old and 12 yrs out of the workforce, that is very little help. But, she has landed a job that will pay her bills, but nothing more. And she will get child support for a few more years.

The good thing is that her Ex made them live like paupers for the 20 yrs... so she has a cool $1.2 mil to put in her retirement account and she can just let it grow. (that was her 50% of the assets). She considers it payment for her 20 yrs of oppression.

My sister was married for 5 yrs to a guy who decided he was done. He was military during that whole time. She got $10K. That's it. They were both in their 20s and grad students (military was paying for his school). Courts give alimony when one spouse is older or needs time to get back into a career after time off in support of the marriage/family.

It depends on the situation. My husband's ex got 10 years alimony for 10 years marriage (she cheated and left him). Then she got 1/2 his retirement pension if he retired even though they were only married 10 years - so why should she be entitled to the full 20 when they were divorced before age 30 and only 10 years marriage, 2 of which she was cheating. But, this was years ago and in CA and I think it depends on the state/judge and she got very lucky. (plus child support)

Sounds like your DH had a shitty lawyer.

I completely agree.

[Anonymous]

I think your friend should should make it clear she does not want a divorce. What a husband wants is not her problem.

If her husband want to leave, she should say there is door get out. She under no circumstance should leave the house.

Next is paper trail. Start documenting assets, photocopy, snap photos bank statements, go onto on-line accounts take copies. If you have joint accounts change passwords to your name only. If he gets upset and yells call 911. Get his sociial media passwords see if he is cheating. Request therapy, marriage counseling, go to Priest/Rabbi talk to his Mom or sister just document he is the wife leaver. Or even better get pregant. Also if he had money, get the proof he has money and get a good lawyer. BTW adultery is still illegal in some states like Maryland so charge him in court if you catch him. Also try to CatFish him. Another trick is to go on vacation. My friends wife took him on vacation to Italy and filed for divorce while on vacation and in Italy wife gets everything. Italy took his passport. If all else fails call Uncle Tony.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think your friend should should make it clear she does not want a divorce. What a husband wants is not her problem.

If her husband want to leave, she should say there is door get out. She under no circumstance should leave the house.

Next is paper trail. Start documenting assets, photocopy, snap photos bank statements, go onto on-line accounts take copies. If you have joint accounts change passwords to your name only. If he gets upset and yells call 911. Get his sociial media passwords see if he is cheating. Request therapy, marriage counseling, go to Priest/Rabbi talk to his Mom or sister just document he is the wife leaver. Or even better get pregant. Also if he had money, get the proof he has money and get a good lawyer. BTW adultery is still illegal in some states like Maryland so charge him in court if you catch him. Also try to CatFish him. Another trick is to go on vacation. My friends wife took him on vacation to Italy and filed for divorce while on vacation and in Italy wife gets everything. Italy took his passport. If all else fails call Uncle Tony.

You're insane and you need professional help immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think your friend should should make it clear she does not want a divorce. What a husband wants is not her problem.

If her husband want to leave, she should say there is door get out. She under no circumstance should leave the house.

Next is paper trail. Start documenting assets, photocopy, snap photos bank statements, go onto on-line accounts take copies. If you have joint accounts change passwords to your name only. If he gets upset and yells call 911. Get his sociial media passwords see if he is cheating. Request therapy, marriage counseling, go to Priest/Rabbi talk to his Mom or sister just document he is the wife leaver. Or even better get pregant. Also if he had money, get the proof he has money and get a good lawyer. BTW adultery is still illegal in some states like Maryland so charge him in court if you catch him. Also try to CatFish him. Another trick is to go on vacation. My friends wife took him on vacation to Italy and filed for divorce while on vacation and in Italy wife gets everything. Italy took his passport. If all else fails call Uncle Tony.

I do not know why any man would get married. What happened to a woman pulling her own weight in the world. There are not even kids involved in this. She just wants a man to take care of her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think your friend should should make it clear she does not want a divorce. What a husband wants is not her problem.

If her husband want to leave, she should say there is door get out. She under no circumstance should leave the house.

Next is paper trail. Start documenting assets, photocopy, snap photos bank statements, go onto on-line accounts take copies. If you have joint accounts change passwords to your name only. If he gets upset and yells call 911. Get his sociial media passwords see if he is cheating. Request therapy, marriage counseling, go to Priest/Rabbi talk to his Mom or sister just document he is the wife leaver. Or even better get pregant. Also if he had money, get the proof he has money and get a good lawyer. BTW adultery is still illegal in some states like Maryland so charge him in court if you catch him. Also try to CatFish him. Another trick is to go on vacation. My friends wife took him on vacation to Italy and filed for divorce while on vacation and in Italy wife gets everything. Italy took his passport. If all else fails call Uncle Tony.

This did not happen to your friend. You have to be separated before filing for divorce in Italy and if she vacationed with him, she wasn’t separated. Additionally, over two nonresidents of Italy, Italy would not have jurisdiction. Passport seizures only happen when the passport owner is suspected of committing a crime. Even if adultery is criminal where it occurred in the us, would not be enough. You’re either purposefully misrepresenting the facts, misunderstanding or misconstruing them.

As for the rest of your post which, among other things, suggests a woman have sex with her husband, get pregnant and have the baby in an attempt to keep her marriage, regardless of the fact that the husband doesn’t want to be married to her, is appalling. Calling 911 when your spouse is upset? You really need to run, not walk, to a therapist. You have no idea what a mature relationship looks like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Friends of mine got divorced a few years ago. They had been married 10 years, no kids. She had no significant assets when they married. He already owned a small house. She was underemployed for the first 8 years of the marriage and unemployed for the last 2 years. She left with 1/2 of all their assets (including their house and his small side business), 4 years of alimony (enough to live on), and a cut of his retirement savings and future pension. She did her homework and got a great lawyer. A shorter marriage will result in a smaller alimony payout, but her having moved and being unemployed will likely result in some sort of alimony, even if only for a few months.

Sounds like he had perhaps the worst divorce lawyer to ever pass the bar. No kids? She worked at least part time for 8 of the 10 years? I get splitting the assets and a few years of alimony. But how the hell did his lawyer give up a huge cut of his client's 401k and pension?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My lawyer said that a fair request is one year for every 4 years of marriage...SO maybe 6 months of alimony? I was married 17 years so we asked for 4 years of alimony and it was granted and not contested. People on this board say alimony is dead but I was divorced in 2017 and it was always assumed by both parties alimony would exist so I don't know how dead it is.

I was married 5 years and got 5 months.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Friends of mine got divorced a few years ago. They had been married 10 years, no kids. She had no significant assets when they married. He already owned a small house. She was underemployed for the first 8 years of the marriage and unemployed for the last 2 years. She left with 1/2 of all their assets (including their house and his small side business), 4 years of alimony (enough to live on), and a cut of his retirement savings and future pension. She did her homework and got a great lawyer. A shorter marriage will result in a smaller alimony payout, but her having moved and being unemployed will likely result in some sort of alimony, even if only for a few months.

Sounds like he had perhaps the worst divorce lawyer to ever pass the bar. No kids? She worked at least part time for 8 of the 10 years? I get splitting the assets and a few years of alimony. But how the hell did his lawyer give up a huge cut of his client's 401k and pension?!?

It doesn’t say he gave up a huge cut of his retirement. It says she got a cut of his retirement. That’s fair. A portion of it was earned during the marriage, was marital, and should have been divided.

[Anonymous]

Not a damn thing. Your friend needs to go get a job.

[Anonymous]

I still don't get why the women would agree to a divorce. Also he owes her two years back pay and loss of future pay, taking a two year break from work and moving to a different state is a huge impact on earning potential.

If she does not want a divorce and he does he need to move out of house and be willing to give up more than if she wanted out.

Any good lawyer or court will view this guy as the ultimate scumbag. Getting married, making wife quit job, leave her family go to a different state for his career, she sets up houses for him, scrubs, cleans cooks, he put it in his name alone then tries to throw her out the door.

I would say a 1/2 his assets and some broken knee caps would be fair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I still don't get why the women would agree to a divorce. Also he owes her two years back pay and loss of future pay, taking a two year break from work and moving to a different state is a huge impact on earning potential.

If she does not want a divorce and he does he need to move out of house and be willing to give up more than if she wanted out.

Any good lawyer or court will view this guy as the ultimate scumbag. Getting married, making wife quit job, leave her family go to a different state for his career, she sets up houses for him, scrubs, cleans cooks, he put it in his name alone then tries to throw her out the door.

I would say a 1/2 his assets and some broken knee caps would be fair.

2. You can het a divorce even if only one person wants it.

2. If the house is in his name only, she can’t stay there against his wishes.

No one will view him as a scumbag....but you.

[Anonymous]

When we were considering divorce, we married maybe 1.5 years. Although I was no longer working (SAHM), my prior income was 4 times my husband’s income. My lawyer said that I would have to pay alimony based on my prior income. I thought it was ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

She’ll get half the equity in the house. If he put down a large down payment, she gets half of it. She can also get half of retirement accounts accrued during the two years they were married. That’s about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I still don't get why the women would agree to a divorce. Also he owes her two years back pay and loss of future pay, taking a two year break from work and moving to a different state is a huge impact on earning potential.

If she does not want a divorce and he does he need to move out of house and be willing to give up more than if she wanted out.

Any good lawyer or court will view this guy as the ultimate scumbag. Getting married, making wife quit job, leave her family go to a different state for his career, she sets up houses for him, scrubs, cleans cooks, he put it in his name alone then tries to throw her out the door.

I would say a 1/2 his assets and some broken knee caps would be fair.

2. You can het a divorce even if only one person wants it.

2. If the house is in his name only, she can’t stay there against his wishes.

No one will view him as a scumbag....but you.

Actually, she can.

It would take a very long time to force an eviction in a marriage/divorce. The house is marital property regardless of how he feels about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend quit her job to move closer to her husband’s work. He bought a house under his name after they got married. Now he wants a divorce. No kids.

Will my friend get anything or will she leave this marriage penniless?

She dumb...