Neighbor wants too much of my time

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have an appointment at 9. Your appointment can be with your laundry.

Except if they’re neighbors, she may see that OP just went home and nobody has come by.

And you wonder why SAHMs get a bad rep. Is this what you people do all day? Monitor other people’s houses and wring your hands over disappointing someone?

Grow up. This is definitely not what SAHMs do, so you can back up your SAHM hate right now. I was a WOHM for decades and had a coworker who was very similar to the neighbor in this scenario. She would NOT leave me alone - if she wasn't hovering over my workspace, she was asking me to lunch and if I have prior plans, she would demand to know with whom. Needy, needy, needy. Doesn't matter what your work status is, some people just can't stand to be alone with their thoughts.

I get it, I was more referring to the response of “she’ll see you didn’t leave your house.” Honestly asking, do people sit in their bay window seat and stare at your neighbors? I have no idea what my neighbors are up to, even on the weekends.

But it’s fair to say you’d see if they were home, right?

Of course not. PP turns her head purposefully away so as to not see whether the neighbor might be home. Anything else would be weird and stalkerish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have an appointment at 9. Your appointment can be with your laundry.

Except if they’re neighbors, she may see that OP just went home and nobody has come by.

And you wonder why SAHMs get a bad rep. Is this what you people do all day? Monitor other people’s houses and wring your hands over disappointing someone?

Grow up. This is definitely not what SAHMs do, so you can back up your SAHM hate right now. I was a WOHM for decades and had a coworker who was very similar to the neighbor in this scenario. She would NOT leave me alone - if she wasn't hovering over my workspace, she was asking me to lunch and if I have prior plans, she would demand to know with whom. Needy, needy, needy. Doesn't matter what your work status is, some people just can't stand to be alone with their thoughts.

I get it, I was more referring to the response of “she’ll see you didn’t leave your house.” Honestly asking, do people sit in their bay window seat and stare at your neighbors? I have no idea what my neighbors are up to, even on the weekends.

But it’s fair to say you’d see if they were home, right?

Of course not. PP turns her head purposefully away so as to not see whether the neighbor might be home. Anything else would be weird and stalkerish.

What?

Last summer, our neighbors told us they were going out of town the following morning. The following evening, I saw them unloading stuff from Target from their car. I noticed hey didn’t leave.

My neighbor told me she had to cut our walk short to leave for an appointment. I notice an hour later that her car is still in the driveway.

Neither observation is weird or stalkerish.

[Anonymous]

“THank you, I enjoyed the walk, I have some errands and chores I get done now. Let’s pick up again tomorrow!”

[Anonymous]

^need to get done

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“THank you, I enjoyed the walk, I have some errands and chores I get done now. Let’s pick up again tomorrow!”

OP has been going on these walks five days a week for some period of time. She could say that, but why not also address the time issue once and for all? "I enjoy our walks but I'm finding I don't have enough time for my errands and chores." At her stated time, she can talk about picking up again tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have an appointment at 9. Your appointment can be with your laundry.

Except if they’re neighbors, she may see that OP just went home and nobody has come by.

And you wonder why SAHMs get a bad rep. Is this what you people do all day? Monitor other people’s houses and wring your hands over disappointing someone?

Grow up. This is definitely not what SAHMs do, so you can back up your SAHM hate right now. I was a WOHM for decades and had a coworker who was very similar to the neighbor in this scenario. She would NOT leave me alone - if she wasn't hovering over my workspace, she was asking me to lunch and if I have prior plans, she would demand to know with whom. Needy, needy, needy. Doesn't matter what your work status is, some people just can't stand to be alone with their thoughts.

I get it, I was more referring to the response of “she’ll see you didn’t leave your house.” Honestly asking, do people sit in their bay window seat and stare at your neighbors? I have no idea what my neighbors are up to, even on the weekends.

But it’s fair to say you’d see if they were home, right?

Of course not. PP turns her head purposefully away so as to not see whether the neighbor might be home. Anything else would be weird and stalkerish.

What?

Last summer, our neighbors told us they were going out of town the following morning. The following evening, I saw them unloading stuff from Target from their car. I noticed hey didn’t leave.

My neighbor told me she had to cut our walk short to leave for an appointment. I notice an hour later that her car is still in the driveway.

Neither observation is weird or stalkerish.

I was joking. I’m the one who originally posted and said the neighbor would notice OP was just at home with no appointment. I do notice whether my neighbors are home. It’s normal and doesn’t mean I’m sitting around in front of my window all day as one or two PPs seem to think.

[Anonymous]

Why are you worried about disappointing her. But not worried that she’s annoying you? Why are her droid disappointment more important than your feelings of annoyance.

I suspect this relationship dynamic is playing out in other areas of your life—everyone else’s feelings are more important than your own.

Until you put your feelings first, people will always walk all over you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have an appointment at 9. Your appointment can be with your laundry.

Except if they’re neighbors, she may see that OP just went home and nobody has come by.

And you wonder why SAHMs get a bad rep. Is this what you people do all day? Monitor other people’s houses and wring your hands over disappointing someone?

Grow up. This is definitely not what SAHMs do, so you can back up your SAHM hate right now. I was a WOHM for decades and had a coworker who was very similar to the neighbor in this scenario. She would NOT leave me alone - if she wasn't hovering over my workspace, she was asking me to lunch and if I have prior plans, she would demand to know with whom. Needy, needy, needy. Doesn't matter what your work status is, some people just can't stand to be alone with their thoughts.

I get it, I was more referring to the response of “she’ll see you didn’t leave your house.” Honestly asking, do people sit in their bay window seat and stare at your neighbors? I have no idea what my neighbors are up to, even on the weekends.

But it’s fair to say you’d see if they were home, right?

Honestly? No. Everyone on my street keeps their cars in the garage, garage doors closed, for the most part. What, do you guys sit around and montitor the comings and goings of your neighbors?

And what with technology and all, you can still have an appointment from your home. Heck, I've even Skyped a medical appointment.