When I am pissed at DH...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t tell him, but I most certainly show him. I’m super friendly to other men in front of him, and cold as ice to him. For example- friendly to guy walking his dog by the house, friendly to checkout guy at Whole Foods, chit chat with another dad at soccer practice, etc. I don’t let DH touch me and I don’t answer his questions. I can’t help it it’s just what I do. How do I change? I don’t want to be a passive aggressive jerk but sometimes he hurts my feelings so much I can’t speak. I can only do mean things to him such as decline to communicate or be warm. Why, what is wrong with me???

Help me not sabotage my new marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife does what OP does, and lately it really stopped working. In fact, the most recent tantrum on her part was actually sort of justified but I am so checked out that I don't care if she goes silent. Our marriage is becoming a joke and I am to the point I don't care if she goes silent or if she leaves. I will be fine

FYI it's a massive red flag OP does this early in the marriage. At that stage wife and I were in love and on cloud 9 all the time.

Have you ever considered after years of arguing over the same issues it’s no longer a cold shoulder but simply a realization that communication is a waste of time. I suggest you look back at those “cloud nine” years and notice the way you treat your spouse now versus then, chances are there’s a big difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Case Study #13,412,892 in the "why men should never, never, never get married" series...

This.

Op, you are too immature to be in a successful marriage. I guess the good news is you realize it. You can either ride to the occasion or recognize he will cheat in the years to come.

[Anonymous]

Poor guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do this, too. Happily married for 7 years! Actually, I make it clear through a look etc that he did something wrong, then I do silent treatment for as long as it’s still entertaining for me, then usually when we’re in bed we talk about it.

haha, we actually are happy, I promise! Maybe I’m not understanding what kind of arguments OP is talking about, or how much it hurts her DH. If she’s doing this over serious topics and her DH is super hurt by her talking to other guys, then yea, that’s bad. If she’s talking about like he accidentally called her fat, and it kind of makes him laugh when she flirts with other guys, then I think that’s fine and teaches him a lesson not to say dumb things, and they’ll prob also have fun makeup sex later.

[Anonymous]

Question: this is a new marriage but you’re going to kids’ soccer practice? Is this a second marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife does what OP does, and lately it really stopped working. In fact, the most recent tantrum on her part was actually sort of justified but I am so checked out that I don't care if she goes silent. Our marriage is becoming a joke and I am to the point I don't care if she goes silent or if she leaves. I will be fine

FYI it's a massive red flag OP does this early in the marriage. At that stage wife and I were in love and on cloud 9 all the time.

+1 - you can't stay emotionally connected with someone who does that. I feel exactly like pp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Troll. I bet Jeff would confirm that all the posters agreeing with OP are the same person

PP, and I’m not a troll! Sometimes men do things that are just so dumb/insensitive that they don’t deserve a mature response at first. They deserve the silent treatment to think about what they did.

Except what they're actually thinking is "Jesus I am glad she finally STFU with her nagging and incessant bullshit."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife does what OP does, and lately it really stopped working. In fact, the most recent tantrum on her part was actually sort of justified but I am so checked out that I don't care if she goes silent.

I'm like

[Anonymous]

How old are you, 14?