Anyone with south Asian in laws who moved in with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mil stayed with us for over two months. I was seriously going insane. Find a place for them close by but not inside your home. You both need some time to detox. Living with the in-laws For extended periods, expecially if from different cultural background (as also in my case) have the potential to bring up odd dynamics and very high tension.

Op here. There is no them. His mother is a widow. We also couldn’t afford to pay rent and a mortgage. His mother would live with his.

[Anonymous]

My parents are immigrant, not south asian, but from a culture that has similar family structure in many ways. I would be very cautious of having my mother living with us full time. She can be very helpful - lots of cooking, cleaning, helping with the kids. But that help also comes with a domineering attitude, no respect of barriers, and hurt feelings when anything other than complete and constant gratitude is expressed. It's not a dealbreaker, but something to be aware of. I have a pretty good understanding of my culture, but my spouse doesn't and would have a much harder time with it.

[Anonymous]

Given the amount of time it takes to get a visa, I don't think you need to worry about in-laws moving in.

The bigger issue is why your husband is spending money on immigration fees for someone is not likely to immigrate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Given the amount of time it takes to get a visa, I don't think you need to worry about in-laws moving in.

The bigger issue is why your husband is spending money on immigration fees for someone is not likely to immigrate.

Op here. Yes I don't understand this at all. His sister doesn't sound like she wants to marry so possibly she could come in 15 years. She has an awesome job over there so I don't think she will want to leave. Thing's definitely do not add upp.