Is that a deal breaker?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you are getting way ahead of yourself. You’ve been with someone for 6 months and are mentioning living together. That would be a dealbreaker if I were the guy. Besides, you have NO business living with someone if you have a kid. None whatsoever. Your lack of maturity should be another dealbreaker for this guy.

There's no lack of maturity on OP's part. You sound really off.

Anyone who is talking about wanting to live with a guy when she has a young kid is only thinking of herself. She says right on her post that she’ll get tired of going back and forth between houses. Not putting the needs of her kid first is immature.

I'm a PP. I think you're a narrow-sighted idiot. Just because someone has a young kid does not mean they are condemned to 15 or so years of loneliness. Without knowing a situation, you can't know the effect on the kid. I agree that a woman with a kid should not casually.introduce new men to their kids. But there CAN be situations where two people care about each other, and the kid is better off with a male influence in her life. It's not only natural fathers that can help raise kids. My GF is a good influence for my son, as his mother. I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone who wasn't.

[Anonymous]

I’m not sure why you’d pursue a relationship with a man you have to persuade to live with you. That’s a bad idea under any circumstances but you have a small child. I think your child should be your priority here. What’s best for her? I don’t think the answer is “man who runs from commitment.”