What’s your empty nest plan?

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reverse, not reserve

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We will stay until they are possibly out of college so they have a place to come home to if it works out that way. Then we are moving somewhere warm. We can’t wait to leave the cold winters and want year round summer.

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone needs to rely on in-state tuition ... it is not "obvious" pp

"If we want our college students to continue to get in-state tuition"....we do. If someone else doesn't care that's clearly not an issue for them.

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Anonymous wrote:Obviously, if we want our college students to continue to get in state tuition rates, we are at the very least going to need to stay in the same state for the duration of their college.

Ideally we'll continue to be within a reasonable distance of their schools, too.

I’ve had two people with kids in public universities in VA say after enrolling as instate freshman, they have never been asked to prove residency again. Both families promptly moved out of state for work reasons but kept paying instate tuition.

And if they had gotten caught, what then? So not worth the risk to me. Plus, my kids are 3 year apart. The one will probably graduate a year early and the other one will start up in college the year after that.

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^graduate a year early from college

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Anonymous wrote:We have a house close in that’s perfect. Walkable to everything and 2 blocks from Metro. My 20-something nephews love to come stay in our finished basement on weekends since they can walk to bars/restaurants. We have fantastic neighbors and everyone ages in place. My kids have t started HS yet, but I don’t see us ever selling this home. It’s not too big, not too small. We will probably spend summers in other locales because we hate DC summers.

We have a small rowhouse in NW DC, but I think it would be too small for us now to live in permanently. My kids will probably end up there.

My parents stayed in the home I grew up in (20 min away) and I loved the feeling of coming home from college, and later with my own kids. My kids never want to leave this house (for now g. I can’t even bring up moving.

Where do you live? It sounds wonderful ~

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Buys condo or apartment. Move near the grandkids.

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Right now my kids are in 10th and 8th.

I worry about my first kid possibly boomeranging back home. It's hard to tell...some days I think it will never happen; other days I think, how can this kid ever get to self-sufficiency?

In contrast, my youngest is very self-sufficient and when she leaves the nest, I can see her flying high and not looking back.

So, I'm thinking when the youngest is in her first or second year of college, we rent out our house and rent an apartment somewhere; maybe in the same city, or in another city where my DH's firm has an office.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, it's nice if the college kids can come home to -generally- their home area. My parents moved several states away when I graduated from HS. I was coming "home" for college breaks to an area that was not MY home. I did fine though. It did force growing-up a bit. Because of it I was probably more focused, than most, on evaluating where I wanted to live after college graduation, starting my own adult life. I never considered moving back in with my parents, since I had no connection to their (new) area.

That's just a reflection. Among my friends, their parents did very different things, and we all adjusted just fine as young adults. Upshot advice - do what will be good for YOU. You do not need to make decisions based on your kids, not once they are in college, IMOH

This is nice to hear from you, PP of this post. I grew up in a great close-in suburb, which I LOVED going back to during breaks in college (which I went to very far away). It made me feel extremely secure. I never felt I had to live in that city when I was done with college, but I absolutely, no-holds-barred, loved the fact that my parents still lived there in my childhood home, so much so that I kinda felt sorry for my friends whose parents had moved away immediately upon them graduating high school. I am actually relieved to hear the opposite view point and the pros associated with it in case that's what happens for my children once they are in college.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Obviously, if we want our college students to continue to get in state tuition rates, we are at the very least going to need to stay in the same state for the duration of their college.

Ideally we'll continue to be within a reasonable distance of their schools, too.

I’ve had two people with kids in public universities in VA say after enrolling as instate freshman, they have never been asked to prove residency again. Both families promptly moved out of state for work reasons but kept paying instate tuition.

And if they had gotten caught, what then? So not worth the risk to me. Plus, my kids are 3 year apart. The one will probably graduate a year early and the other one will start up in college the year after that.

It depends on the state, but I think in some states, it doesn't matter if parents move out of state after enrolling.

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We are moving right after my last child graduates high school. I don't like where we live, and only moved here for a job and are staying until kids are done school. My kids will have to visit us in a new city. C'est la vie.

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As soon as my youngest is done with school I’m moving out West. Beautiful condo in a gated with full amenities complex.

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Anonymous wrote:I love my house, but I work from home so I’m not tied to it. We’ve lived on both coasts, and in the Midwest so we aren’t tied to an area either. Like a PP I’m waiting to see where my kids settle. I’d like to be within driving distance if possible.

I would like to move to where my kids settle as well, but how can one know that their kids actually are settled? People move so often now, that it's quite possible they could decide to move at 35 after living somewhere for seven years.

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Anonymous wrote:We actually have raised our family in one cozy, beloved home all their lives. All their memories are here (heck, most of my adult ones are too). It’s only 3000 sqft so I expect we will stay here until we die.

Does 3000 sqft count as "only" nowadays?

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Anonymous wrote:As soon as my youngest is done with school I’m moving out West. Beautiful condo in a gated with full amenities complex.

We just did this (a small house though instead of a condo). My two college aged kids aren't happy with the decision since it makes it much harder for them to see their friends from the DC area. I feel a little guilty that the new house only has one spare bedroom with a pull out couch for the two of them but on the plus side, there is almost no chance that they are coming home to stay for long after college. They are also both making summer plans to work or study in other locations, and have become very focused about their futures. The move definitely helped them become a bit more independent quicker. To compensate, we just took and will continue to take for as long as it works, a really nice family vacation after Christmas each year. We also pay for them to travel pretty much as they want, as long as they are staying with friends and not in hotels.